There is this woman that I like. We went to the movies once and it seemed a little awkward because we're both shy, but when we talked about it later we both agreed that we would give it another shot. Well, we talk regularly and this week (we haven't had another date yet) she told me she is planning on moving to California (from Omaha) in a few months to follow her dreams of being an actress. We seem to click, she says that she likes me, but we don't really know eachother that well. I would like to see what develops out of this and of course I'm not going to try and stop her from leaving but how can I stay in the picture? I mean she is super sweet, smart, classy, beautiful, and not a manipulative witch like I am normally attracted to, so I don't want to just let her walk out of my life. Is it possible to start a relationship with somebody as their moving away or should I just give it up and move on? I just feel like I would be missing out on something great if I let her go. Please help!
2007-07-31 18:53:18 · 21 answers · asked by Patrick E 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate answering these kind of questions but ... you put your heart out there and it grabbed me because even though I'm an anit-romantic at heart ... I'm also a pushover for a well-written dilema.
You're smitten ... and twitterpated. All good things. Let her go. And then again, don't. Just stay in touch and see what comes of it. Nobody ever knows the final outcome of any given situation. That's what the adventure is all about.
But, you'll have to write a book about it and send me an autographed copy so I know how it all ends. Hold on a second ... they didn't mention this to you in the Y!A contract, did they? (They're such losers). But that's the price. Cough up the book, buddy. And every contributor who answers gets a copy. Better have a happy ending, too. (That's in the fine print).
2007-07-31 19:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by OP 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL!!!! If you really like her that much, then you should definitely tell her! Personally, I would be flattered if someone thought of me what you think of her (leave out the manipulative witch part though.) If you guys really do "click," then maybe she feels the same way about you! You'll never know until you talk. And you know, a lot of close relationships start out awkward, so don't let that deter you.
One scenario, if she *doesn't* feel the same way about you, which she totally could, then you could still have a supportive friendship.
And, if worse comes to worse, she's moving away, and you don't have to talk to her again. Don't let fear of rejection keep you from telling her your feelings though. You have nothing to lose.
I hope I helped you. BTW, if you are going to go on another date, don't go to the movies. Take her to dinner or to the park or something. Movies are impersonal, and you can't talk there anyway.
2007-08-01 02:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by Tammerz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, just becuase she wants to move to Cali doesn't mean that she'll stay out here. If I were you, I'd tell her that you want to spend as much time as you can with her before she leaves, and insist that she call or e-mail you when she does decide to move. Be the Voice of Reason from Nebraska. If she talks about how rude people are out in L.A., tell her that she's always welcome back home and play up what a good time she had when she was around her friends back home. Don't do it to the point where you keep on saying, "Then move back here!"...just let her know that she's very missed back home. Maybe she'll decide that she doesn't need to live in California afterall, but at the same time you need to give her the room to focus on her dreams. Hard balance, I know. But it sounds like this girl is worth the work. And who knows? Maybe she'll invite you to Cali and you'll like it enough to move out here too!
2007-08-01 01:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Long distance on the phone lines is free these days so why not see how you work out? I'd say it aint gonna work out but who knows, It may. If you really like her then you might just become long distance friends or email pen pals.
To many think that a relationship involves sex. Sex is good no doubt but you may find out that you have a lot in commom from just talking long distance and she may decide her current ideas aint all she thought it was and end up coming back to the city you met in. You may decide to go to where she is. Or, You may both decide that you don't really like each other as much as you thought you did.
There aint nothing to lose by staying in contact unless she decides you are just a friend and starts telling you about her recent boyfriends. Could you take hearing about that?
It's really up to you. No one else can correctly answer this question.
2007-08-01 02:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm from Omaha, and I know what you mean about the type your normally attracted to. There's normally more of them than any other. There is nothing wrong w/ trying to start something just as someone is leaving. Are you SURE she feels there is a RELATIONSHIP forming? If you are to do this, you need to be VERY clear about both persons feelings from the get go or it won't work! If your clear, and you maintain good communication, keep positive. TRUST each other, MUST HAVE TRUST! You'll be ok! GOOD LUCK!
2007-08-01 02:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshinegal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is rough. Personally, I think that you should keep in contact with her, but not do anything rash like leaving your job and moving to California because she seems like a great woman. You should definitely let her know how you feel about her so that while she's there, she'll know she's loved. And if she sees that the relationship has potential, she will try to make the extra effort to make things work.
Hope this helped :)
2007-08-01 01:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste any time. Go out again Maybe you'll give her some doubts about going, or maybe some reason to come back in a year or so when she finds that it isn't easy to become a star. And do keep in touch while she's away. She's bound to be homesick and lonely from time to time.
2007-08-01 02:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by jimanddottaylor 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U r deeply in love with her i can see by the way u right about her when something good come around grab onto that and cherish it never lose it if u do someone else will came along and take it follow your heart do what u think is best 4 u and her do what u think is right.
2007-08-01 02:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by HBI 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If not for her plans, I'd say go for it, but the fact that she is moving, or planning to move, is not too promising. And clear across Country, no less. Nevertheless, let her know how you feel, and see what happens. You might get lucky, after all.
2007-08-01 02:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by whatnext 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go on another date with her,and if this time it works out better than the other date than why dont u move to california with her?if it works out over there than you made a right choice but if it doesnt work than u can find u another chick.:D
2007-08-01 02:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋