My stepdad..is..touching me..how do i tell my mom?

Question

ok..this is REALLY akward for me but i need help. My mom works at night and whenever she goes to work my stepdad comes into my room, lies down next to me and starts touching me. He sometimes inserts his "reproductive system" in me when he thinks i'm sleeping. I always push away though. He does it EVERY time though. He has done this since I was 9. I don't know how to tell my mom? What if i tell her and my stepdad accuses me of doing it WITH him? And if his "reproductive system" doesnt go in me all the way..does it mean that i lost my virginity? and I didnt get my period yet and i'm 14..does this have anything to do with it?

Ugh..I know this sounds sad..but i REALLY need help.

Ugh..This is not a lie. Nor is it a "dream." How can i possibly dream up something this disturbing?

I KNOW i have to tell my mom, or someone atleast..but i don't know HOW to approach her..it's akward.

Answer 1

You really do need help and I believe you. I think you need to make sure that you can get out of your home the night that you
tell your mom. I really don't think you should spend another night alone with this man.

You can call the Girls and Boys Town Hotline at 800 448 3000 or call your local planned parenthood and talk with a counselor. Your local police department or social services can refer you to a rape crisis counselor. I think you should have some adult support when you talk with your mom to ensure that you are safe from here on out.

You should also tell a friend or two if possible. Perhaps their parents could help you out.

One last thing. If your stepdad is ejaculating, don't wash it off until you talk to a rape crisis counselor about washing it off. Sometimes child molesters lie and say the child is lying. This is evidence that will prove that you are the one telling the truth. If he gets semen on your clothing, save that clothing as evidence you are telling the truth. Under no circumstances should you throw out the evidence of this. If you don't want to hold onto these items, hand them over to a friend or someone else. Place them in a waterproof baggie and then a box. Tape the box shut if you are embarrassed. Make sure that you get this evidence out of your stepdad's reach. You could hide it under your mom's carseat or at a friend's house or in your school locker.

Another idea is to copy your post and e-mail perverted justice for help. The people there are professionals and they will help you. They also have a chat site like this one and you could post there as well. There are other sex abuse websites which could also help you.

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Here is some more information that I got for you today. They will help you deal with your mother:

* National Domestic Violence Hotline [phone]-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD)
* National Sexual Assault Hotline [phone]-HOPE (4673)

There are many organizations and hotlines in every state and territory. These crisis centers and agencies work hard to stop assaults and help victims. You can find contact information for these organizations at http://www.womenshealth.gov/violence/state/. You also can obtain the numbers of shelters, counseling services, and legal assistance in your phone book.

For more information on sexual assault, contact the National Women’s Health Information Center at 800-994-9662 or the following organizations:

Division of Violence Prevention, NCIPC, CDC, HHS
Phone: [phone]
Internet Address: http://www.cdc.gov/ncipc/dvp/dvp.htm

Office on Violence Against Women, OJP, DOJ
Phone: [phone]
Internet Address: http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/vawo

National Center for Victims of Crime
Phone: [phone]
Internet Address: http://www.ncvc.org

National Crime Prevention Council
Phone: [phone]
Internet Address: http://www.ncpc.org

National Domestic Violence Hotline
Phone: (800) 799-SAFE
Internet Address: http://www.ndvh.org

National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Phone: [phone]
Internet Address: http://www.nsvrc.org

Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network
Phone: [phone]
Internet Address: http://www.rainn.org

Answer 2

A similar thing happened to me, only it was my biological father. I completely understand how you feel and I didn't know how to tell my mom either. In the end I went straight to the police because I had confronted my father more than once and asked him to stop but he wouldn't. In these cases the cops tend to lend toward believing you so I wouldn't worry too much about that. I had no tangible proof but he was still arrested because every time he touched me I put "go" in the calendar on my phone. I'm so sorry this happened to you and I wish I could say once he is out of the house every thing is okay but that would be a lie. It's hard at first and sometimes people don't believe you but just know you did nothing wrong! Most people will believe you and want to help you. The best advice I could give would be create a support system, be resilient, and move away once you are old enough. I would also recommend seeing a therapist because if not you could develop a few issues from the experience.

Answer 3

Wo this very serious ok go to mom and tell her about it, but there might be an instance that she might not believe you ok go to an aunt or an uncle who you can also trust. Because if this goes out it's jail time for you step dad you must be strong to do this not physically but mentally and emotionally, you should be sure of what you say to the authorities and try to remember exact dates when he molested you if it is possible. Do not hide this it will bother and affect you for the rest of your life if you will tolerate this. Wish you good luck with this endeavor you will take. Do not be afraid to tell some one about it, it in a good sense that you wrote it here in yahoo answers but definitely you really need professional help, try also to talk to a councilour in school or anybody you can trust and help you.

Answer 4

EVERYthing that SweetiePie said is good advice:

don't play with this, it is too damaging to victims that really need it. If it's true tell mom now. She loves him & may try to ignore it or work it out. He NEEDS help bad. The authorities will open his eyes so he'll start repairing his sickness.

If your mom don't call 911 right away after you tell her, then you should call 911 yourself, or tell a female teacher, female cop, or adult of that nature. I'm praying you are just making this up, or else you will get it resolved NOW. it's 2am everynight means tonite.

even if he accuses you of doing it with him, that makes no difference! a man that age having any kind of touchFeely with a person your age illegal & sick, no matter how much you are with it or against it.

Answer 5

I would first speak to someone other than your mum to have another adult know about this to back you up should she not believe you.
Someone like an aunt, cousin, even school councellor or nurse - anyone who can initially help relieve you of your awful burden.
Then, once you find you can talk about this abuse (AND IT IS ABUSE), approach your mum with that other adult present to help you.
This activity is wrong and must be stopped right now.
Good luck little one.....act today for a happier tomorrow - you are in my prayers.....xxx

Answer 6

Wow. If you feel weirded out telling your mom about it, you should call the police! there are also many social worker programs that can help you, i cant think of anything off the top of my head, but you should definitely let someone know. A teacher, a neighbor, just anybody who can get you help.

Hope that helped :/

Answer 7

If you are telling the truth, then this is really serious. DO NOT play with a story like this because you could ruin your whole family's relationship!

If you are serious - call your mom right now and tell her. If she doesn't help, call 9-1-1.

Answer 8

tell her that your head is popping, and unable to pass. Then lay your head on the mattress for few hours, and later around 11:00 AM say her which you're feeling greater ideal now. Who will visit college after 11:00 AM. LOL

Answer 9

This is obviously a serious problem. I'm sure your mom will believe you over him so don't be afraid to tell her. And the fact that you haven't gotten your period yet could be a problem to. This is already a matter for the police so you should report it to them asap.

Answer 10

Do yourself a big favor- face up to what's happening to you and talk to someone. It doesn't matter what he accuses you of... if you need to, just videotape what he does to you, this way you have proof to show your mom and the cops, because he needs to be locked up. But, try and talk to your mom- or if she needs proof, just tell her to leave work one night and try to catch him in the act. It really doesn't matter who you talk to really, but it would probably be better in the long run (for your relationship with you and your mother) if you spoke to her first. But also talk to a counselor or preacher or someone who can help you get into counseling- trust me, after 5 years of this- you'll need it.