ok i liked this guy for 3 years hes scared of relationships but he loves me. hes always been there for me. and now theres this guy i knew for a year i recently just say guy #2 and he was showing me affect which #1 doesnt. i feelt like we had a connection. but the thing is there best friends! & guy #1 we know everything about each other and #2 we dont have that mouch in common but hes so sweet and will act like a real bf which #1 doesnt. i have no idea what to do. i dated #1 3 times and he always found a reason to break up. and he gets jealous and beats up guys who come near me. and were not dating but he calls non stop. what should i do. idk?!
2007-07-31 18:34:14 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the thing is they been best friends since they were babys. and i've done this to #1 before. and hes still mad. i think its wrong to date your ex's friends. But i'm starting to like #2.
2007-07-31 18:45:49 · update #1
Well you’ve been there in done that with one of them. Only you know how that relationship worked.
In it didn’t or you’d be with him. If u still fill something for # 1 in u think it’ll be different ( which it wont it’s happened to me before) # 2 seems like he’s in too in he’s NEW!!! So you should really think about that one. But either way you need to pick one or u’r just stringing them along. I hope that last line wasn’t to mean.
Good luck!
P.S. Pick carefully.
2007-07-31 18:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sara D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!! Do not ever get between best friends, especially when they are men. That is the worse thing, Now it is natural to feel this way when you spend time with people but you already said #1 is mad at you for the past so don't do this to him if you care about him. You will come between men who are probably closer then brothers. You can control yourself. if it gets unbearable be straight up with #1 and tell him that he means so much to you but if he can't commit then you have to find someone who will. But that it has nothing to do with your friendship with him. If you really feel like you are in love with #2 then you need to be honest with #1 also. Be a mature in this. Use common sense. What would you want someone to do to you in this situation?
2007-08-09 01:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by Too Blessed To Be Stressed! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Pick EITHER of them. #1 isn't going to change. I know you might have love for him as a friend , of course, becuase you spend alot of time together.Also he more than likely has other girls on the side and that's why he acts over proctective and aggressive towards you. Because he knows what he's doing. Also dating his BFF isn't going to solve anything, its just going to give you another person to focus on. and He's not the thing to focus on. Focus on yourself for a little while and things you can change about yourself for the better and by the tim eyour done doing that someone will have noticed you. when you find true love you'll then realzie how wrong#1 and 2 are
2007-08-01 02:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by Autumn J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been in a relationship with guy #1 three times and you keep breaking up, its prolly not gonna work out. I would say since you are not commited to either one, get to know guy number 2 better if he seems to be more of what you like then go with it.
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2007-08-08 22:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by d_da_big_dawg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i f you start to go out with guy 2 then guy 1 will get jealous and if guy 1 ask you why are you dating guy2 just tell him that he act like he didn't want to be with you and guy2 does .and some times opposites attract and you may find out that you have more in common then you think or you can learn things from each other ,do what makes you happy
2007-08-08 23:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor #2. He's doing everything right, but you're so hung up on #1 that you can't see it! The first guy is only a friend, and will continue to break your heart, if you let him. The second guy is catching you on the rebound, so you'll probably break his heart, unless you come to your senses. Forget #1, and lose the drama.
2007-08-08 21:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step out & look in. Stop making excuses for #1 & just go with #2.
2007-08-01 01:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by June Gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the #1 is not your #1 he doesnt want a relationship and he probaly talks to alot of girl pick #2 try something new but them being best friends is hard your gonna have to pick one and hurt one...tough break kidd
2007-08-01 01:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#2--#1 had his chance--if he can't commit after 3yrs and is jealous and violent he should get the boot--don't waste anymore time on him.. Even if you don't end up with #2---#3 or #4 might be even better.
2007-08-01 01:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by gastonkitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch #1. He sounds like a real control freak.
2007-08-01 01:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋