MUSLIMS ONLY,ok i have this problem affecting on my life how to get it off me????

Question

ok i know thats wrong but it just keeps hunting me well the subject is about girls ( so i go see videos and stuff ) im 18 year old guy second year university i cannot marry at this time cz i dont have money and i cannot go ask for a date cz its illegale (in islam)i do my prayers every day and every time i wont to stop it tomorow i will return!!!! i dont know whats wrong with me but if someone solve this problem i will be greatfull

u can say i live alone most of the time and sorry to tell u i dont have friends just find another soultion or i will delete this question

i asked a cheikh about this problem and he said there isnt any solution just do prayers and ... but when it comes to me i just cant blocked i need a solution and fast plz i really need to get it off just a solution plz

im greatfull for ur helps but the thing i didnt wont to tell the fact i do such things i help peaple and im greatfull for that but i dont have my fun time thats why i dont have friends so when at the end of the day i feel like im not having fun i try to do my best to overcome this problem but i just wont relax and i do prayers and i study quraan in this summer and tijwid but this problem is really getting inside me and i just wish that it will be erazed some how

Answer 1

Yes, we all are humans and are tempted towards evil and wins over us sometimes. It is a sign of faith (Iman) in you that when bad deeds are done you feel ashamed, sad and regretting and rejoice and happy when something good is done. Now there is a solution to every problem. Marriage is the ultimate solution actually and if one cannot easily do that Prophet (PBUH) asked youngsters to make the habbit of fasting.
As the brother above said, we must keep any media that takes us to sinning in public rooms. Also have a good friend's circle who are good mannered and help you to be steadfast on Islam. Supplicate a lot and repent sincerely to Allah.

I have a way of mine is that fix problems when I go weak. Take 30 or 40 days out of calender and mark the date. Stop the media that brings to sinning or give less times to those things and give more times to do good deeds. Prayer, Fasting, Supplication, Charity, helping etc. Do works something that is benificiary to this world or the next world or spent time in gaining knowledge or reading good books etc.
We all know humans have spirt as well as flesh. Actually we are feeding our flesh on daily basis but we less care about our spirituality. So doing more good actions will gain more willingness to do good and spiritual power in you to over come the desires of the flesh. Try this method for few days and it works... we know what happens in Ramdhan... yes, we do more good and get ourselves far away from even things that is n't bad but not good to us....

Answer 2

You are still too young. to get married.You must study harder and make yourself busy by moonlighting in a restaurant or shop so you can earn money.Stop seeing porn video and playing adultery and also dating a girl by praying on the right time and fasting.You must strengthen your faith so you can avoid satan's temptation..After praying you must do your prayers everyday and do not stop it.God will bless you if you (1)make a hard effort for bettering your own condition and also (2)do not forget to pray and do your prayers.Without these both qualifications you will fail.God will not help and change your bad condition or destiny without your own hard effort and do a prayer..It is spoken by God in the holy Qur'an.
You must be optimistic and do not despair..Try and try .again my brother after all you will success at last. God will bless you..Salam from your old brother in Jakarta Indonesia.

Answer 3

This is one example of the way Shaytan attacks the sons and daughters of Adam. First he starts with getting you to do something small like check girls out while you are out and about... then he tries to use his whispers to get you to look at pornography or other sexual stimuli. Though that's only the fisrst two steps... then he'll try to get you to actually meet up with a woman. And once you do he'll try to get you to touch her hand... then kiss her... and continue to whisper until you finally commit Fornication/Adultery. That's his ultimate goal with you!

The key is not to be without sin, as that is impossible. We all slip up, from time to time. They key is to repent when you slip up and attempt to stay away from repeating. And you can try to keep away from such sins by removing the means to them. If you tend to look at girls then don't go out more than you need. If you tend to do stuff on your computer, it may be time to get rid of the internet connection. If tv has become a problem then that's easy enough to go without. And try to keep your mind and body busy with that which is Halal... as the idle mind is Shaytans playground. Allah knows best! I'm praying for you brother.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Dear young Jazzar

Whats happening to you is very common in young age and we have all been there. Everytime you get a notion of dating, committing adultry etc, you read in full: 'La Haul-e-wa-la quwwata illa billah-i-l aliul azeem' as frequently as you can in 24 hrs. InshaAllah you will defeat the satan. By the way, this is real jihad. Real in a sense that you are fight satanic temptation of doing wrong things. The best jihad is that you declare war on satanic temptation. Muhammed(peace be upon him) said: 'If you can guarantee whats in between your legs and whats in between your jaws, I guarantee you a place in junnah(paradise)'
Meaning if you do not commit adultary and do not misuse tongue(backbiting etc), then you have a place in Junnah. Good luck Jazzar

Answer 6

Something very good in you is that you are feeling it wrong, Along with the prayers, Zikr Allah will help you and fasting as well.
Astaghfaar, Salawat on Muhammad pbuh, Chapter Ikhlaas, Falq, An-Naas, kepp on reciting and be hopeful from Allah swt. who is Oft Forgiving and the Merciful.

Answer 7

Asalamolaykum

When you feel you're being tempted..... just throw yourself into Islam. Read Qur'an when you're having an especially hard day.... or say nawaafil prayers. They say one of the five questions you'll be asked on the Day of Judgment is what you did with your youth.... so i'm sure you'll be rewarded for your patience

Peace and Blessings

Answer 8

The prophets solution to your problem is to fast.

I had the very same problem like you, what I did, is that I moved my computer to a public space, like the living room, because I mostly watched videos in my comp and I tried spending time with other people.

Hopefully, this will help.

Answer 9

There are some tips for young men to diminish their sexual desire:
- take cold bath
- fast often
[the upper two are advice from Rasulullah s.a.w.s.]
- don't watch porn
- don't watch shows hosting girls, especially those sexy ones
- recite Qur'an often
- avoid spicy food as it enhances blood circulation and sexual power
- quit listening to music

Despite all that there is no method that works 100%, but those things help to reduce it, marriage is the best solution though.

If you have anything that you wish to talk in private feel free to contact me on my IM or email.

Answer 10

Islam is a lie. The only thing wrong with you is your delusional belief in Islam. Your chances of having a happy marriage are extremely low because of your blind faith.