Some guys just go with easier girls when demure girls don't give in. I am worried if I insist on not sleeping with guys until we have developed a relationship I won't be able to get any guy as they all go for easier catches.
2007-07-31 17:26:42 · 24 answers · asked by prettyinpink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats usually a good motto to live by.
2007-07-31 17:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by LD 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alright, obviously you can have sex whenever the hell you want, no one will stop you.
But sex is so much more meaningful when two people care about one another.
A few generations ago, sex before marriage was an abomination, forget a meager relationship. About two generations ago sex in a relationship became socially acceptable, and now even the framework of a relationship has been deemed unnecessary.
So it's a much better idea to save sex for intimate relationships. That's what sex is all about, after all... without that, it's kind of pointless. Sure, it feels great, but only on a physical level. You'd be missing out on a whole other level of pleasure.
2007-08-01 00:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by Dan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My jaw is on the floor right now from some of the responses....
Yes, not sleeping with any random guy within the first 6 hours of meeting him is a good idea... as is using several form(s) of birth control.... but come on, people. It is only sex! Yes, pregnancy and diseases are possible, but you could also be hit by a bus tomorrow when you step out your front door. Of course, in 100 years or so, the entire issue will be academic: you'll be dead, and no one will care who you slept with, how many times you did, or even if the people in your day labeled you as "easy", or not. Unless you are the modern day Don Juan, of course.
The best solution is to have some carefully chosen, sensible standards of your own as to which guys are worth pursuing, and which should be avoided at all costs. Then, sleep with the guys who meet the standards, as you meet them, and whenever you feel like it (using prudent protections, like birth control, of course).
This makes far more sense than waiting some arbitrary period of time, because the guy you're talking to may "only" be interested in you for sex. (All guys want sex, BTW)
Why would anyone wait for months or years, only to find out that the object of their affections doesn't share their taste in the bedroom? Just think of the years of fun involving chocolate pudding cannons, chicken feathers, and nude people that you're missing out on. =D
I kid, of course. However... one thing I don't kid about, is being one of the guys who are now looking elsewhere, after having been jerked around by one-too-many clueless American women (and yes, I *did* wait years in some cases, with no happy results). Finding a great guy DOES have a competitive element, and if you can't (or won't) step up, then do not be surprised if you have to choose from the mediocre leftovers when it comes to guys. And don't complain: You have no one to blame but yourselves....
2007-08-01 01:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you want to be "easy" or do you want a relationship? Because if the guys you want to have a relationship with can't be in a relationship with you because you won't sleep with them until you know that they are actually interested in you on more than just a sexual level, then it kind of sounds to me like you're looking at the wrong kind of guy. It all depends what you want. Not all guys want easy sex, not all guys want relationships. So really, the question is, do you want to sleep with a guy and hope that he might come back for more, thus indicating you are in a relationship, or do you want to find a guy who you can establish a connection with before you sleep with him?
2007-08-01 00:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by dayyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what kind of relationship??? ---- even the first date is strictly speaking a relationship ---- if you mean wait a few days weeks months before having sex --- im sorry that is truly meaningless ---- for younger people see how your feelings develop and where you feel the relationship is going ---- for older people with more experience then you may have sex on the first date because we know what we want and if we feel the relationship is worth pursuing or if we just want to enjoy each other ---- all these things are relative and you need to sometimes take things slow ---- best wishes
2007-08-01 00:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with any guy so long as your in a relationship? If a guy really genuinely wants to be with you he will wait and respect you for it too. As long as you keep him happy in other ways. Those easier girls are tarts and guys just sleep with them for sex and push them to the side when their done and laugh behind their backs too. They dont think they are attractive, just hoes. I wouldn't want to be like that and dont think you should care that a guy would only want to be with you for sex, then he is not worth it at all! I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and he waited two adn a half years to have sex with me and I am greatful I did that.
2007-08-01 00:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by Me, myself and I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for marriage. I know you're proabbly not going to listen to me but why share something as precious with a person that you're not going to spend the rest of your life with. If you have already had premartial sex, ask for Gods forgiveness and don't have intercourse until marriage. you might think about biblical counseling over phone, most churches offer this and it's free.
sex can wait, you should wait, if a guy pushes for sex and you tell him about this Christian view and he still wants sex, he's not a guy that respects you and you NEED a partner that respects YOU
2007-08-01 00:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is worst the wait. Because if you are dating a guy and he will agree to wait then he will begin to like you for yourself. And most good men will respect you for waiting. No matter what your peers may say no one what a BMW with a lot of miles I am sure you know what I mean.
2007-08-01 00:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a great idea and the sooner you get rid of the jerks the sooner the better guys will appear... yes don't give in to have a boyfriend, it wont be special if you do that... Just give it some time and the ones who can't wait are the ones that aren't worth having to begin with....
2007-08-01 00:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by I Heart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you planned on being played around by guys then go ahead give in to them. but if what you have in mind is a sweet and serious relationship then wait on til the right guy comes along. dont be bothered by being thrown away by those play-go-lucky damn boys. insist on not sleeping with them and earn their respect. your right man will be proud of you girl... Good Luck!!!
2007-08-01 00:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by ching 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I respect girls like you more than i respect hos. It shows that you genuinely gotta know someone before you give it up, which makes sense. Guys get with easy girls for a quick f*ck, but never get with them for relationships. Girls like you are the ones who get in relationships
2007-08-01 00:37:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋