What am i doing wrong !..it seems like guys only want me sexually and not for me ? why cant they respect me..?

Question

i havnt been able to find a decent guy ! whats wrong with all of them

Answer 1

If you project yourself sexually and in a sexually connotative way then guys will perceive you that way. If you dress "sexually", tone it down a bit and if you flirt that way change the strategy and date different guys then you normally would.
Dont move too quickly in the relationship either, it gives off a vibe you dont want! (the guy might but you dont)

Answer 2

Answer: YOU.

You are the problem to this problem.

Two things to share with you.

1: Circle of Influence with friends.
2. Who you are.

Who are your friends and who do you mix with.
I'm sure you know that people of the same kind tend to be together.
Popular with popular, pretty with pretty, ugly with ugly, single with single. Reality in the face, live with it.

That's your circle of influence. Why you attract indecent fishes is because you are swimming with the wrong flock of fishes in the first place. You're a a whale, swimming among sharks.

You need to step out of your current circle of influence. Namely, step out from the people you know (not abandon them,of course) and start making new friends. You must be an attractive girl, so how to find the right guy? I'll get to that soon.

Anyway, you have to start mixing with different people. Because you swim with sharks, you'll only find more sharks. You need to swim away and start swimming with different fishes, or with whales. They increase your circle of influence and give you newer friends probably more decent.

secondly, YOU, why do you have this problem? Because of YOU, the way you portray yourself with the first impression will attract the guy you portray yourself as.

You want a decent guy, then start being a decent woman. Dress up decent, act decent, look decent BE decent. But for it to effectively work must also mean step 1, going into a new bunch of friends who are decent then the previous.

To find that decent man, you need to be that decent woman to attract that decent man, and most decent man, would likely be very shy to approach a hot babe like you if you are indeed a hot babe as you describe in little words. So you likely will have to make the first move on a target, then after that, let them make their move once they are comfortable. You wouldn't want a man thinking you want to go over them.

Make your move, give a good impression and show them who you are, a decent woman. Then let them make the rest of the move once you let them shy decent man know that it's comfortable for them to actually TRY asking you out.

The problem isn't those perverts, it is you. You seek for a men badly enough for practically every sex maniac in the country to come looking at you like a bee to a honey.

Hang out differently, even at places. Because by changing yourself, you change the view of others and start attracting different men, and also making more friend.

Answer 3

Unfortunately some people just have that kind of nature. If you hurt someone you claim to love just because you can you don't deserve them at all. The fact that you're still there despite this treatment ain't got nothing to do with love.If you truly want better and if you truly love yourself you'd know there's nothing there for you and him and you would have left him a long time ago instead of staying there and hoping he would change. He may treat you wrong, but by staying with him you're giving him the permission to mistreat you. You need to love yourself before expecting anyone else to love you.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with them all. Just the ones you seem to be finding attractive. Not all men are after sex. To find a decent guy, just date often and hold off on the sex. If they pressure you, talk to them openly and tell them you will not sleep with them until you feel ready. Tell them it maybe a month it maybe more. If they complain and try to pressure you then move on to the next. Dating can be fun, but don't let them talk you into anything. You are in control of your own body. The best way to find a guy who is worth your effort and your intimacy is to find one who is patient and open to genuine communication. Don't worry, there are plenty of good guys who are willing to be your prince charming. You just have to be patient and willing to wait it out. Good Luck,

Answer 5

I'm sorry to say this but for them to think this must mean you have given off the wrong impression or you sleep with guys/partners too early. I personally made my boyfriend of now 4 years wait 2 and a half years before we did this, you need to teach them to respect you and not be open for physical stuff otherwise you will get disrespected, I am sorry but you need to toughen up!

Answer 6

Well, Dear, you really don't give much information here. Guys are normally going to try to get as much from you as you're willing to give. Have you been putting out too easily and got yourself a reputation as being a easy lay? I don't mean to sound crude or insulting but I have nothing to go on here. But I have stated this before in here. An old Texas adage, "Why buy the cow if you're getting the milk free."

Answer 7

Some it depends on how the person was raised. Others (like me) learn through some time and hard things that women are so much more than that. Another thing, could be the whole area where you are at. Just keep rejecting the creeps and wait until someone does like you.

Answer 8

If guys think of u in that way... either u need a personality change or a u need 2 look different. um guessing u shud go for the former. n oh... seriously.. u cant help it, 98% of guys luk at hot chicks wid sexual thought in their head... nothing doing. ont 2 worry.. der r millions of decent guys out der who will talk 2 u n then think sexually of u. hehe

Answer 9

That is the age old question. You are NOT doing anything wrong. At least I don't think so. Are you dressing sexually or are you discreet? I know people don't like to hear it, but it sure is the truth that the way people dress is the first impression of who they are.

I don't know how old you are but try your hardest just to be the best person you can be and surround yourself with the best people and it will all fall in place. Don't rush it.

Answer 10

Not all guys are this way. I know for a fact because sex is not the only thing that plays into a relationship for me. You must keeping looking and you will find the right guy. Good look on your search.