A new family moved into a house that was up for sale recently. A neighbor tried to welcome them with a fresh bouquet of flowers. The lady that answered told her "No thank you. We don't want anything to do with any neighbors." before she shut the door. Obviously, there were problems because they moved here. My family had our ups and downs with our neighbors. (Misunderstandings, disagreements, kids fighting etc.,) That new neighbor needs to realize that she may need a favor some day (ride, babysitter, lawnmower etc.,) I feel it is sad because they have 3 young children. This is a suburb in Southern CA. Should that family have moved to a rural area where they wouldn't have neighbors?
2007-07-31 17:09:57 · 11 answers · asked by LAgirl 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
They could have least accepted the flowers, and then taken it day by day.
2007-07-31 17:32:51 · update #1
If they want to be left alone, I'd leave them alone.
If the new neighbors ask for something later on, remind them that boundaries were set from the beginning, and therefore,you don't feel comfortable assisting them.
2007-08-01 03:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I think someday they will need something and no one will help them out. But there could be a lot of reason they don't want to be friendly. I think I would just leave them alone and maybe when their ready they will come around. There is a lot of rude and nosy people out there and maybe they have had some ruff times with some of them. I would keep an eye out for any unusually activity just in case. You sure don't want drug dealers or child molesters living close by. Especially if there is children around the neighborhood. Just because the have small children don't mean the parents are alright. You can't trust anyone these days.
2007-08-01 12:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kathy H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Blaming some one out rightly, would not be justified without knowing all the facts.It might be, that your neighbors had some earlier bad experience, for which they are reacting in such a manner.Maybe they are loners and noninterfering type.But your contention that, considering their future requirement / help they should have accepted flowers is not correct.A relationship is without any motive or intention.Any relationship, which is nurtured with a motive or expectation doesnt last long.Relationship must never be selfish or expectations attached to it.The problem nowadays is, people expect a lot out of everything.And in the event of non fulfillment of their expectation develop strained relations.
2007-07-31 18:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by MrKnow_All 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have the same prob, but the difference in my case is that they dont have kids and are very up themselves and wont even say hi etc... It was actually quiet funny when she was saying not so nice stuff about my partner and it got back to me via one or her work colleges (which she didnt know that she knew me)
now everytime i see her she has her head down and walks on by, with no apology etc. Neighbors theses days are morons, there either to scared to open the front door to strangers or up them selves...
Its normal these days
2007-07-31 17:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by 1 kidlet & due in 9 weeks 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, not really. They may have had a load of problems with their previous neighbors. Of course my first thought is they're drug dealers or have done something wrong. If they didn't want to interact with people, you're right, they should have moved to the country.
2007-07-31 17:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, they have a right to live wherever they want to...and I don't think it was rude, she was telling the neighbor (thereby insuring that everyone else would be told) what her boundaries are....she did say no thank you, after all. Just because a person or group of people do not subscribe to the same social mores as another group does not make them rude. I think a person can be well mannered and still introverted as well as an ill mannered person can be extroverted.
2007-07-31 17:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by Michele 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
People don't always want to interact. They may have had bad past experiences with neighbors. Just wave and smile when you see them and perhaps they'll warm up. Not everyone wants to be buddy-buddy with their neighbors and there's nothing wrong with that. Some people are just private by nature.
2007-07-31 17:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by dolce 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe they are hiding something. Or, maybe the government just gave them new identities to protect them from someone. Very dark, don't you think.
2007-07-31 17:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus Blossom 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think anything could have happened to them in their last neighbourhood, it could have been very bad indeed. I would just let them be, and respect their choice. Remember, good fences make good neighbours.
2007-07-31 17:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by Renesme 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think they are rude and just leave them be, some people are just Jerks.
2007-07-31 18:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by Jai 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋