My friends always used to tell me that any guy I would date would only end up wanting sex. I guess you could say it was kinda true. At times, anything was really bad. I felt like giving up on love for sometime until it would happen. Like I wouldn't force it to happen. It felt like somehow I was being mistreated & it made me feel worthless. Now I've been dating this guy for well over two months and he's really the sweetest guy yet. He acts affectionate in public and when we're alone. I can see that he does care and my friends see it too. They actually like him and how he treats me. But for some reason, I cant help but feel like I have this haunted thoughts behind my head. Like the worst scenarion can happen. Or like it might end up being too good to even be anything decent and real this time. He's the type to have alot of friends, girls or boys, and when he's with the girls, it's like I wonder why he chose me over them. I know I'm not that worthless, but it's just the feelings I had..
2007-07-31 17:08:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
before are still there. It's like I can't help it. But I really don't want to think about it. Is there something that wrong with me or what? And what am I suppose to do? He says he would never do anything as cheating or whatever and I see that he's not lying(he really cant). But why do I have theses haunted thoughts?
2007-07-31 17:09:53 · update #1
Oh and to this guy you replied...I never said we hadnt had sex. We actually did. Stop assuming things.
2007-07-31 18:03:41 · update #2
You are having these thoughts because of the way that your previous relationships ended. You will feel this way until you are completely comfortable and trust your new bf completely. You need to work your way through your feelings and just let your relationship play out. If this is truly meant to be God will help you through.
2007-07-31 17:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sunman33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok, it's normal, it's cool
He sounds a bit like me, every girl I chat with, calls me sweet after a while.
But I'm dedicated to someone.
That's what I think he feels about you, dedication, affection.
The guy loves you
U say he had a 100 other female friends, why did he choose you?
He loves you, same as my love, I love her, even though(idk why) everyone says WHY the heck dud u go 4 her when there are 99 others?
So trust me, it's cool, he cares. Think of all the good times u've had 2gether whenever this happens, or just think, "Block it all out"
2007-08-01 00:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by hameerabbasi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should continue to take things slowly. If he really is the real gentleman of your dreams, than he should not mind that you are taking things at the pace you are comfortable with. If he really loves you, he will be patient.
Also, you should not base this person on your previous failed or unfortunate experiences with males. Every individual that you date deserves an opportunity.
Try discussing these concerns with him. If he is sympathetic, soon enough, you will know whether you two are right for each other.
In the meantime, enjoy the experience, stop stressing, and convince yourself that you are worth it, and that you deserve a great mate, whether it is him, or someone else.
Best of Luck
2007-08-01 00:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's been with you for these two months and he hasn't had sex with you he really loves you. For alot of guys, but not me, two months is a long time not to have sex. Plus you say there are other women that he is friends with and he picked you over them. He's probably been tempted by them to cheat but he doesn't. So this guy loves you but your just to insecure.
2007-08-01 00:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by No More Mr. Nice Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not very confident in myself and it seems neither are you. You need to learn to love yourself more and then you'll understand why everyone around you does too. You need a boost in your self-esteem. Do things just for you because you deserve it everyone does and your no exception. Until he gives you something to worry about just enjoy life with him because it is way to short. Sometimes dwelling on what could happen can make you loose out on what is happening
2007-08-01 00:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by N m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's perfectly natural to be a little on the cautious side, and possibly a little doubtful. But you also should learn that there are also people you can fully trust. It's not easy, but with time you'll see who you can/ can't trust
obviously there must be tons of great reasons why he chose you, you should accept that.
2007-08-01 00:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by been found missing x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can tell you is that my friend went through the same thing and her suspistions were true and I told her what I'm telling you and that is to follow your heart, if thats confused then follow your head, and if thats is confused then follow your instint and it will never steer you wrong.
2007-08-01 00:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Wips and Chains 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are still hearing your friends ---- forget about that and enjoy being with this guy ---- if you think he will cheat on you and distrust him eventually he will confirm your worst fears either by leaving or cheating --- just take him at face value enjoy being with him and enjoy life ---- best wishes
2007-08-01 00:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to BELIEVE HIM! Because if you constantly doubt him and look for something to go wrong, then you will be slowly driving him away yourself.
2007-08-01 00:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Hangin Round, Downtown ... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋