Girls don’t realize that the nice guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. However, girls don’t see it for some reason or another. They look at the nice guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about their asshole boyfriend. But the nice guy isn’t THAT naïve. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along. The problem is that since he is a nice guy he keeps listening. Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend.
When they get the emotional support from the nice guy, they don’t need it from the asshole. The nice guy gets the **** end of the stick while the asshole gets all the action. I am starting to wonder if being a nice guy is really the route to take to get girls. Girls aren’t looking for nice guys, they say they are but they’re not. Girls look for the perfect asshole,but there is no such thing!
2007-07-31 17:05:58 · 27 answers · asked by JBSF 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the asshole is because assholes ignore the girl they are with. The women wonder, “Why isn’t he paying attention to me?” so they explore why. They poke and prod and get closer to the asshole. They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The asshole finally says, “I’ve let this beauty dangle long enough, time to boat this bass”. It is then he puts on his charade and the girl feels like she has won him… even thought all she has won is an asshole.
It’s amazing that assholes can get girls. Actually, now that I think of it, it’s not that amazing. They are assholes at heart, but to meet girls they lavish their undying love. IT’S A CHARADE. They act nice, friendly, and they listen… until they get into what they’re after. Their prey thinks they are in love with them, however when they realize what assholes their predators really are, they pretend like the asshole is really nice inside.
2007-07-31 17:08:27 · update #1
I actually dont think its worth it to be a nice guy anymore, the problem is I cant help it.
2007-07-31 17:09:25 · update #2
The girls who have those nice guys come in last, are the ones who are too damned stupid.
2007-07-31 17:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well the truth is that there is this saying: nan ren bu huai nu ren bu ai (translated as a women won't like/love/be attracted to a guy if he ain't an asshole) the myth of this statement has buffed alot of men n women out there till now in today's society.
but that doesnt mean anything it just means that either one of the involved personal is just relational immature only. and all these will change as one mature.
from what you had written i can see that you are a nice guy and lonely and in search of "the one" but i think for now just be who you are and observe the world and society abit more you dun have to be bad or change yourself to get girls to be attracted to you for "the one" who can see the real you will appreciate you for who you really are and can be.
If action and trying to score is what you really are looking for then the only thing i can say is that don't be picky with the available options presented in front of you now.
But for now just be who you are, and enjoy life to the fullest with no remorse and dun put yourself in unnecessary emotional stress and depression. I know cos i'm speaking from experience :) i felt and thought the way you did.
2007-07-31 17:40:15 · answer #2 · answered by brendantlm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. I'm one of the FEW girls out there who looks into people. All these little assholes runnin around thinkin that they are some hot sh!t are just insecure little turds. I happen to of found one of the nicest guys, and in some things, yes, he does come in last cuz of his kind nature, but most of these "girls" dont realize that they treat you like a queen and will be there for you no matter what. They give you what those other assholes can't get up the courage to give.
there are some real girls out there.
2007-07-31 17:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude. I think you are confusing being a nice guy with gay guy. Be a nice friend not a gay friend. Plus you say you want to score. What the hell is that? A relationship happens from both side. You think it is like a sports match and you have to act a certain nice way to be with a girl. You have to be honest with a girl and you can have any girl out there.
2007-07-31 17:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, sometimes it's easy to overlook the obvious. I always think that the best way for a nice guy to win is, when the girl's blabbing about the latest jerk that dumped her, to gently take her in his arms and say, I'm not a jerk, and I have passion and desire and boundless friendship - women are kind of weak after a breakup, so there's a chance there.
2007-07-31 17:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im tired of questions/topics about this. Girls don't ignore the nice guy. Girls only ignore the "shy guy." Because guess what! Girls actually like to have fun! Not just be emotional wrecks all the time, having "deep conversations" with you shy guys.
Plenty of nice guys get girls. Girls love nice guys, you just have to have some balls along with your good personality.
2007-07-31 17:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by Hangin Round, Downtown ... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are only listening to her in the hopes of scoring then you are not truly a nice guy. women want someone exciting and interesting. power and confidence are also attractive to women, as is the appearance of being slightly dangerous but not downright evil. they like the idea of being on the arm of someone who inspires a bit of envy from their fellow women as well. nice sometimes equates to boring and predictable, or wimpy, or needy. remember to be at least somewhat honest about your intentions too, because most women can see right through a bloke pretending to care just to get her in the sack -- that might be the real problem you're having.
2007-07-31 17:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the long run nice guys don't come in last. They are the keepers. The one you marry. the one who will be a good father, and faithful to there wife....I married such a man. Sad to say after 37 years of marriage 8 years I buried him. He was wonderful!
2007-07-31 17:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each lady is distinctive. Me? i do in comparison to those cocky adult males. I definitely won't be in a position to stand them. i may well be pals with them, yet they know that the two I hate it or they're in basic terms joking while they're being cocky. For some ladies, the cockyness is a activate. in basic terms discover the applicable guy. For me, my boyfriend is the sweetest, non-cocky, nicest man or woman I even have ever met. an excellent thank you to respond to your question? the effective guy does not constantly come final. It in basic terms relies upon on the lady.
2016-10-13 07:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by herrion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHIVON is so right. My daughter is one of those girls she talks about. She thinks not of herself first, but everyone else. Her boyfriend gets and her share everything....feelings, thoughts...communication. That is the key to any relationship. I hope that someday they will marry. He has given the time to know her inside and out, visa versa.
The right one is out there. The "plastic" people (I call them), are the materilaistic ones that care nothing for the guy's feelings, but what the guy can buy them or do for them. Avoid those types of girls, and you will eventually find the right onw.
2007-07-31 22:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys come last because being TOO nice is a sign of being TOO FEMININE. Girls,doesnt matter what age, like their men to be MEN, you know a balance of being nice and being dominant, masculine, strong. No girls wants to come home to a little sensative boy. If given the choice, women would rather the strong arrogant asshole, then the soft weakling nice boy. Women are women and men are not women.... GET THE HINT
2007-07-31 17:12:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋