My ex-boyfriend dumped me for another younger and prettier girl (it wasn't the first time.). I told all my friends and we all agreed that I'm through with him. Then his new girlfriend moved like 5 states away(seriously). Well they broke up and he asked me back out. First I said no even if he begged. Then I said if he convinced all my friends he was good enough for me then I would. Well he convinced all my friends and literally got an his knees and begged me to take him back (I can't make this up). I am so confused. Should I take him back or not?
He was my first love and I still really like him. HELP!!!
2007-07-31 17:02:19 · 20 answers · asked by REY MYSTERIO ROX!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone deserves a second chance.....but, you don't want to be his rebound. Tell him to stop begging, pull himself together and that you won't take him back just yet but you can be friends. He's probably regretting his decision to dump you for the other girl. Tell him he needs time to get over her and you need time to forgive what he did.
2007-07-31 17:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pain actually helps us grow, makes us stronger and often makes us better people. It has been compared to the process of coal being turned into diamonds, or the irritant in an oyster that makes the pearl. We don't want to become so afraid of pain that we don't allow ourselves to feel and to love.
It sounds like you have chosen life over fear, so let me congratulate you.
Enjoy the love that comes your way and know that the pain is part of the deal. Remember that you have the ability to heal and the capacity to endure some pain. Life s scary when we don't know what to expect. You have already experienced the worst that can happen with love: heartbreak. Trust the wisdom in your heart that knows that you are ready to give this guy another chance to love you again. As the adage goes: Love is lovelier the second time around.
ravishingV
2007-08-01 00:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by ravishingV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer is NO. If he really wanted you in the first place he would have stayed with you instead of dumping you for a younger and prettier girl. I don't care how much convincing he is trying to do if he did it once before he'll do it again.
2007-08-01 00:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by naynay678 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girl love doesn't dump you for another girl. He's a jerk to say the least. He's only trying to get back with you because a girl left him. You don't deserve to be treated like sloppy seconds. If you take him back you're just allowing him to mistreat you over and over again. He's not the only guy in the world.
2007-08-01 00:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So how many times are you going to give this guy a chance?? Shouldnt he only get ONE chance and if he cheats on you then he is putting you 2nd when you should ALWAYS be first!!!! DOnt go back to him!!! You just need to give yourself time to get over it and dont let him manipulate you like this. It is VERY selfish of him to cheat on you TWO TIMES or MORE! By you going back to him you are only encouraging his bad behavior because you are putting up with it and he WILL do it again! Stay away from him and give yourself time to get over it and regain your confidence. Someone will come along that will enjoy being with you and NOone else.
2007-08-01 00:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by Justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is using you as his backup lay for when he doesn't have the younger and prettier woman of the hour to go romp about with. if you are alright with this arrangement then by all means, let him use you, i'm sure he appreciates never having to go through a dry spell because of you. most women wouldn't dream of settling for being a backup piece of *** though, and i would imagine you are no different so in that case, tell him you've got him all figured out and you would prefer not to be with someone who only wants you when he doesn't have anyone better to be with.
2007-08-01 00:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go sista! Can you be sure that he won't do it again? I don think so, You went thru the pain once and since you're thru, don let it happen again! Chances are if u let him in, he'l put u thru it again! True enough, u can't love with your brain, but the world isn't a nice place for emotions to rule. Take a practical step! He walked, and he will do it again!
2007-08-01 00:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you take him back he's only going to leave you again when the next best thang comes along. He's just playing you. And sounds like he's good too cause he played all your friends.
2007-08-01 00:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by davidthegnome2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though he is you first love he would not be your last love. think,he dump you for a new girl then when they splitted he wants you back... that means you are just her second choice. You are not a trash to be picked up again
2007-08-01 00:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by han 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no cuz he is gonna keep doing it..after he did everything wit her..he made u sad and stuff n now it looks like he is using u..trust me guys come and go and no guy is worth a tear..so dont accept him find a much better guy that treat u like ur suppose to be treated..it might be hard to find but he would come to u-u just need to give it time..go out with ur girls n have good fun n forget about him 100% it might be hard but it will be better...
2007-08-01 00:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by Lil Skittles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋