I'm getting married and unfortunately I have 2 brothers and my fiance has 2 brothers. We both don't have any sisters. Since the groom chooses the best man and groomsmen, he chose his brothers and 2 of his friends for the best man/groomsmen roles. I have no problem with that. But I would like to include my brothers somehow in the wedding. Our wedding isn't going to be really religious or anything so there won't be any biblical readings. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can include my 2 brothers?
2007-07-31 16:49:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, if you're willing to be slightly non-traditional and are close to them, you could ask your brothers to be two of your attendants.
One bride I knew asked her brother to be her honor attendant, and everyone who knew them thought it was great because they knew how close the bride and her brother were.
Another thought: just because it isn't a religious ceremony doesn't mean there can't be readings. Pick a poem or a short passage about love and/or marriage for one or each of them to read. You could also have one or both escort your mother to her seat.
2007-07-31 16:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just some ideas (but I'm sure others have better):
They can make a speech or read a poem.
Are you having a candle lighting? If so, they can light yours and your grooms starter candles.
Are you writing your own vows? Than, you can have them printed on scrolls and they can carry them to you and your groom when it's time to exchange.
If you have assigned seating at the reception, than they can help guest to their tables. They can also help hand out things.
You could always ask your soon-to-be hubby to include your brothers in the groomsmen roles. I will probably include my boyfriend's sisters, unless he or his family states they shouldn't be included.
2007-07-31 16:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have them stand on your side and be your "attendants" which is a very modern thing to do.
Or you can have them be ushers. Ushers will assist in seating the guests, and also the mother of the bride is usually the last "guest" to be seated your brothers could walk her to her seat.
Personally I think family should come first whether yours or your fiances, all 4 shoudl be grooms men and the friends should be ushers. After all if either of you had sisters they would be bridesmaids.
Good luck!
2007-07-31 16:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really close to your brothers, yu could have them as YOUR attendants and ditch the bridesmaid idea. Ya miss out on the pretty dresses in pictures but it is an option.
Another thought is to have them read a poem or short essay during the ceremony. That way, they participate but you avoid the religious bit.
Depending on their ages, you could have them jointly emcee the reception.
When I got married (it was a second for me) I had my Mom as my attendant and my two sisters emcee the reception. A little unorthodox but it turned out wonderfully.
2007-07-31 16:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may no longer positioned on white to a marriage, even the reception or, as you're calling it, the "after occasion." it particularly is a great etiquette breach. So the 1st gown is out. the 2d gown is larger, yet till your brother's wedding ceremony is extremely formal, the gown is slightly over-the-genuine. If the male travelers are wearing tuxes and the female travelers are wearing complete-length robes or cocktail attire, the gown could artwork. maximum weddings are no longer that formal so as that gown could probable be out of place. additionally, Luv2Answer has a ingredient. Why are you changing out your bridesmaid gown? that's no longer what you're meant to do. till the bride has fairly asked you to alter, you're meant to maintain your bridesmaid gown on. remember, it particularly is the bride's day so which you do no longer prefer to do something that takes interest from her. Your day will come.
2016-11-10 21:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should be groomsmen as well. Your fiance should know better and have them as the groomsmen rather than his friends or in addition to his friends. It is disrespectful not to include his new family. If he had sisters you would have to make them bridesmaids. Maybe have your brothers stand on your side where the bridesmaids would stand. (bridesmen)
2007-07-31 16:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1. If you are coming in thru a gate or doors, get them to stand either side and open them for you and stand there untill your up the front then they can be seated too.
2. Ask one of them to drive your car
3. Ask if they would like to say a speech
2007-07-31 16:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Candlelighters, ushers, or have them do a reading-- it doesn't have to be from the bible, maybe a poem you two love.
Congratulations.
2007-07-31 16:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by imamom4god 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have them valet park your guests cars. They will get some good tips .
2007-07-31 17:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by DJT28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my cousins (girls) were candle lighters, but I see no reason why your brothers couldn't do it.
2007-07-31 17:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋