My husand will never agree to leave his parents and go live alone as he is totally his mommy's boy...and at times its ok but at times it frustrating i cant make a routine or i cant make my daughter do what i want her to do or learn that is because of the continueous interfernce....i am so confused and depresed as my family doesnt live here so i cant even fo to my home so fast...i dont know what to do it so depressing....having no wasy out....
2007-07-31 16:41:22 · 13 answers · asked by HIRA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have a way out, it's called divorce.
2007-07-31 16:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You husband is very immature. You do not give the age of your daughter or your own age. Why are you living with his parents? You will never have a happy marriage until you insist on getting out of that situation. You must talk to his Mother and explain that you two should be able to have a life of your own. If you do not pay rent there, you just about have to let her tell you what to do. But if the child is yours, you have every right to tell his mother that you will raise your child the way you want to. I think you must be very young, and therefore are in a terrible mess. Just establish your rights and establish your rights as a mother and a wife like you should.
2007-07-31 16:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you are to him is sex. Mommy can give him everything but, that. And if he wont move from them.. Get in the car with your daughter and drive to your parents place and leave his butt. Sorry that's life. You will never be the lady of the house. Your husband is wrong in this. You have every right to walk away. If you have to start putting money away to make a run for it.
2007-07-31 16:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is too attached to his mom, and may be afraid to be on his own. He may have fear of the responsibilities that a man must carry when he has his own family to support and his own bills and mortgage to pay. Talk to him about it, make him understand that you are not happy living there, and you never will be. Tell him that you can get a place real close to his parents' place, but if he wants to keep his word and make you happy, you have to move out. You can visit your own family to get the point across. (If you give him an ultimatum and tell him to choose between you and his daughter, he will probably choose his mom, so think twice before you do that)
2007-07-31 16:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's definitely important for a couple to establish their OWN family dynamic, their own rules, and routine. It sounds like your husband is putting his mom and dad before his own family and that's not good. However, unless his parents are disruptive, mean, or treat you bad, I'm not sure why being near them would be an incredible problem. I know it's difficult but you guys need to work on setting boundaries with them. Having family close CAN be a blessing - but in this case, it sounds like it's not. You just need to talk to your husband about it.
2007-07-31 16:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have your family of your own, you really should be living on your own so you'll have the freedom to choose what's best for your daughter. It's not fair you're being influenced by his family & unable to live as you wish. Can't you try to impress on him the importance of needing space & living w/your daughter as your own family not an extension of another family. You really should be on your own. Tell him they would be welcome to visit at any time, but it's just not being fair to you or your daughter. Is there any way you & your daughter could go visit w/your family for a wk. or so? Give yourself a chance to just get away from it for awhile. He HAS TO cut that apron string from his mother, he's a grown man now w/responsibilities of his own. Good luck to you!
2007-07-31 16:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get a lawyer's advice about divorce and total custody of your child. Then move back closer to your family. Your husband has made his choice, and it isn't your marriage. Was he like this before you got married? You may even be able to get an annulment through your church.
2007-07-31 16:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a way out, threaten divorce! That's pathetic, that he's that much of a momma's boy. Why did you marry him in the first place? You had to have seen that bad quality somewhere.
2007-07-31 16:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by pisceschica3589 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha. This comedian tale is meant for human beings to think of in a crude way. however the logical answer is for the husband to ask the butcher for chicken sausage in english (assuming that he speaks english). in case you forgot approximately that factor (that he's English), you will possibly immediately think of that the husband might flap his palms and disclose himself. the two way, they might nonetheless get their chicken sausage and all may be nicely.
2016-10-08 22:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so your married and he is still with his parents...not good. i would pretty much tell him that if he does love you, then he will break away from his mother. get the movie "failure to launch". make him watch it with you and hopefully that will give him a little motivation to want to move out. next thing i suppose would be to tell him if he dosent move out of mommy and daddys house then you will divorce him. next step, marriage counceling. i hope everything works out for you.
2007-07-31 16:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by sammie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You picked him to marry now your stuck with him. Your only option is to move out on your own and hope the little boy follows you.
2007-07-31 18:29:57 · answer #11 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋