My ex and I both met at college. We only dated eight months but we were really close. I loved him so much and im sure he felt the same. About a two months after we started dating we found out that his mom was pregnant. That was a good thing. But then in Feb we found out the baby had a serious heart condition and the doctors only gave the baby a 50/50 survival chance(we started dating in October and broke up in June). At this point my boyfriend wanted more "space." I was tottally willing to give him that but it made me feel like he didnt want me there through a crisis and that maybe it was in a weird way, an exscuse to ignore me a little. But I was still there for him. All through March we hardly would hangout and he would hardly talk to me. I wanted to be there for him. I hardly ever pressured him to go out though because I knew his family life was crazy right then. But he would make plans all the time with me and then cancel last minitue.
After the babay was born things got a little better but then we started fighting all the time. We eventually did break up and I took it so hard. We didnt talk for about 3 weeks but then we slowly started talking again. He always says how he loves me and wants to be with me but "he cant right now." I really love him and want to be with him but I feel like for the last five months I havent had a real realtionship with him. I dont know what to do. I dont kno if I should wait and try to be there for him when he can or if I should try to move on. Its awful because im getting so emotionaly torn apart but I know everythings crazy with him right now.
btw, the baby is about 3 months old and still alive. Not at home, still in the hospital but as of right now hes doing as good as he can be for his condition.
2007-07-31 16:29:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I always tell my daughters, if its meant to be then it will be. This is not the time for this relationship, it might never be. You have to move on. Occupy your time and when the opportunity presents itself, start dating. If you are meant to be with this young man, then nothing will keep you apart.
2007-07-31 16:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your gut tell you? Most likely you already know the answer, but for some reason you're holding on to something. Find out what that reason is. Look back on your experiences and especially your experience with him and see if you can pinpoint times when you did not feel right about something. All of us chase after one thing and that is fulfillment. How does he fulfill your life? Be honest with yourself and the Truth will guide you on the right path.
2007-08-01 01:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by whatif 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said not right now it is best to be his friend and move on to other thing. If it is meant be then it is meant to be. Dont wait on him. There are a lot of women who wait for a man for 6 or more year waiting for him to take you back. Move dont waste your time waiting for you. There are other fish in the sea. Just be his friend, yall can be close friend but nothing else!
2007-08-02 23:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Woman of God! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen this happen a few times before. It never worked out. Don't mean to be a downer, but maybe you should cut your losses now.
Stay friendly and show him you've moved on. If he comes around again later, you can decide then if you feel like chancing another emotional rollercoaster again.
2007-07-31 23:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by KV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on with your life.
2007-08-01 01:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋