So this guy I like....this is the second time he has done it to me...shame on me. We went out on a date and about a week later he kissed me...he just got out of a painful relationship so I expected him to go slow. But it has been more than a month since anything has happened but he still tells his sister he likes me. What is this suppose to mean? What do I do?
2007-07-31 16:27:26 · 12 answers · asked by lovely_chickady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry hun, but this guy is a wimp... a TRUE man will talk to YOU first.. if he's talking to his SISTER.. then its a no-go
thats called a red-flag..
a month has gone by, and i assume you are crazy about him, correct?
well.. he can tell his sister all he wants, but what the hell good does that do for you? he is childish and doesn't know what he wants because he is on the rebound..
its called little boys..
he needs to grow up.. and you need to move on
or, if you really like this guy, call him and ask him 'whats up with you kissing me and then acting all shady afterwards" tell him you understand that he is healing from the last relationship, but that doesn't give him any right to abuse/use/neglect you.. thats just garbage..
if you let him know the TRUTH, it will be SO freeing.. and if he never talks to you again, SO BE IT.. you are probably better off without a boy like that anyways, girl.
seriously get a move on.. do something..
don't let him have that much control over you. YOU decide.
-hoping it gets better because men can be a pain in the butt
2007-07-31 16:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by purengenuine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems best that you should open up about the problem, although there is a possibility that he's doing this intentionally. some people like to play this game to gain control in the relationship, the more control, the more things you are able to do. this is the beginning of the manipulation, he loves you to death one minute, then can pretend you don't exist the next. then you have to draw yourself in further to have him notice you again, meaning that you'd have to run the extra mile just to gain his love...which is wrong by the way, neither the man or woman should work any harder than the other to gain each others love.
but...that's why you should just talk to him first, because he could just be oblivious to the fact that he's not giving you the attention that is needed for a healthy relationship(us men can be kind of dumb that way). so talk to him, but don't attack him either, just let him know that things seem weird. If he reacts negatively, then that's a possible sign that he's just messing with your head. positive could be good...but he could fall back into the routine again...if that happens, then I suggest finding a new bf. I promise you, it's better to end it now and find someone more willing to treat you right...
it might hurt at first, but you'll find something better...IF he turns out to be a manipulator, but if he's just forgetful, then don't mind too much.
2007-07-31 16:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by it's National Security 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him out and like, do stuff. Don't expect the guy to do everything, like, ask you out, or kiss you or, i don't know, stuff like that. Its a LOT of pressure, and I honestly hate that.
If you like him, and you already know he likes you. Ask him out, and if he has just gotten out of a painfur relationship then go slow, or, I don't know. feel your way through the relationship, 'cause that's usually the burden that men are left with (and I also hate that)
2007-07-31 16:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by colo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This means he is waiting for you to make a move to show him you like him back...guys dont like to put everything out on the line...like a kiss...if they dont feel the girl is returning anything...we dont like to chase too much...its your turn...pick up the phone and tell him how you enjoyed that kiss...
Goodluck
2007-07-31 16:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by Vincent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And men say WE'RE the ones who are confusing! lol...sweetie, this means he likes you. He wouldn't say that to his sister if he didn't. Sometimes when we like someone, we make things out of proportion. Don't worry! Be happy, he still likes you :)
2007-07-31 16:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by colorfulgarden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he won't make a move then you do it. if he retreats or acts like you're too forward then tell him that when he makes up his mind about you, you'll come back around. don't waste your time worrying about things like this; people come in all different varieties and he's obviously a rather indecisive type.
2007-07-31 16:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe he is a gentleman and wants to be sure that you are over the last relationship, and is really interested in him....or he is fickle....don't rush it, it just may be the real thing!
2007-07-31 16:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by luvwaterandmtdew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
us guys do that because we like you but we dont want to show it to much so it looks like were desprete for you so we
just show you love a little bit at a time
2007-07-31 16:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a butthead,his loss,,
move on babe
2007-07-31 16:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by 4 strings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys will be boys and when ur a women they will still be boys
2007-07-31 16:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋