I have a problem. Im a christian who has not too long ago gave in to God because my life was going down the drain and i finally gave in and confessed to him , accepted Jesus in my heart. after a while i stopped smoking and drinking it was hard but God really did give me the strength im trying to become a better person.. but i have a problem you see i have a boyfriend that i really truly deeply love with all my heart and he loves me the same.. he is the most caring lovin guy i ever met in my life.. he is close with his family and treats me with respect and is always there for me... i met him before i began this mission to getting closer to God actually he helped me somehow. he lost his virginity with me and i feel so bad now cus now i wished he had kept it.. we have been going out for almost a year and the problem is that my mom does not know anything about it because im scared to let her know im scared she will not accept it .. shes a loving mom but im still afraid to do that.
2007-07-31 16:27:13 · 10 answers · asked by victoria1617 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Also my stepdad he is a good man but he would not be too happy because he is a muslim i hate that but he asked me to not fall in love with him but its too late.. before they knew him as my friend i used to lie to them where i was going when i went to see him then i finnaly let them know that he is a friend and they let me go to prom with him.. now i dont lie to them bout where im going.. but as a christian i feel it is very wrong of me too keep this away from my parents but i love him soo much idont want lose what we have now.. what should i do? help.. tx and God Bless YOu .. mwah
2007-07-31 16:31:06 · update #1
sorry by the way im 18 .. and i know this question is kind of weird i just wrote it without looking over it hehe.. um well when i first started having sex i wasnt in the right path i did all things wrong i had a really bad boyfriend before and stuff and i never prayed never went to church so i was just a stupid teenager but now i regret it all ofcourse but i cant do nothing get my virginity back and even when i had sex with my boyfriend i wasnt with God either later on i just started thinkin and more and changing and i thank my boyfriend because he let me see what kind of person i i reall am and that my old ways were not good for me.. .. tanks for the answers and being honest i appreciate it and i pray everynight for help i just wanted to know what other people would of done ..
2007-08-01 05:38:20 · update #2
also i dont need comments about that God does not exist. thank you . He does exist and you will know that one day i promise u ..
2007-08-01 05:39:51 · update #3
God doesn't exist. If you love your boyfriend, concentrate on making that relationship work. Don't worry about his virginity. He doesn't miss it.
Congrats on stopping your smoking and drinking, but "God" was just a mental crutch you used to get through that.
2007-07-31 16:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by nondescript 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I guess since you asked this question from a Christian perspective you were hoping to get an answer from the same perspective. I will try to give that in a Titus 2 sort of way.
I think you already know in your heart that this relationship is not one that God can honor. We are told, as Christians, to not be unequally yoked. That means we should not be joined to someone who cannot walk our path side-by-side with us as a Christian. This doesn't mean there is something wrong with your bf, but he could never be your spiritual leader or head of your household as a Christian husband is called to be because you two would be going in opposite directions spiritually.
God forgives us for sin - disobeying Him - when we ask and repent. The repent part means we stop disobeying Him. He also delivers us from what has us trapped when we ask Him. Because you have had sex with this young man, you have been joined to him in spiritual ways. That is contributing to the "deep love" you are feeling for him. You have to break these soul ties so you can see things clearly again. God can do that for you. But you have to actually desire to obey Him more than doing what "feels right" or "feels good" for that matter.
And just so you don't think life is all down hill from accepting Christ, the relationships He gives us are so much better than those we trap ourselves in without His direction. Talk to your mother, especially if she is a Christian. And talk to God. If He is really first in your life, as you say you want Him to be (that's what being a Christian is, btw), then do what you already know you should in this relationship that is against what the Bible says is right for you. I will be praying blessings for you.
2007-08-01 01:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by GrowingMama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention your age, but by your story I would guess that you are somewhere between 14 and 16. To young to be married !!! Now it sounds like to me that his family are on a right course in life and that if all you have said about him and his family is accurate you have every reason to share your heart with him and tell him exactly what has happened to you, but at the right time when he is in a reflective mood !!! With your mom she might think it is to early for you to talk about being serious. So why not invite him over to your house on a casual basis and let your mother no that you like his family and him and maybe your mother might have more of an open heart to this than you think. Obviously I am guessing my way thru this and you have to fill in the blanks as best you can !!!
Prayer and faith are required too !!!
2007-08-01 00:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by rapturefuture 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should obey and be honest with your parents whether or not you are a christian. If your boyfriend really loves you he will not put in a position to choose. Pray about it and see what the Lord has to say. Get your answer from Him not here.
I am not being harsh, just speaking from some personal similiar experience.
2007-07-31 23:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by hankelmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An important factor - your age - has been left out.
I will assume that you are old enough to be having sex and consuming alcohol legally.
You do not owe your parents an explanation about this. Why should you tell them? It's your personal life, your relationship... not theirs. Do you tell them about every little thing you ever do? Of course not. Do you tell them all of your thoughts all the time? Of course not. Some things belong to you, not to them, and you should get over this idea that you need their approval for something to be fine.
2007-08-01 04:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by Skye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a minor (which, from the tone of your Q, indicates that you probably are) your parents are both legally & 'somewhat' morally responsible for you, both before God & man...
Keeping secrets from them is "lieing by ommission", a type of deceit. That is (partly) why your conscience bothers you.
You are taking extreme risks by engaging in sex, under such circumstances. This shows lack of: maturity; self-control; wisdom; empathy; etc... Which indicates that you aren't ready for marriage, or children. (You are gambling BIG-time regarding the latter!)
I suggest approaching God about these matters, in prayer,
http://watchtower.org/e/20001115/article_01.htm
& carefully reading the following Scriptural articles :
2007-08-01 04:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a relationship that is well worth building. Although there are absolutely no grounds for believing in any sort of god, it is evident that you have found such a belief to be useful, as many do. As for your parents, much depends on your age; I assume that you are of age and can therefore do as you please, and at some point it would be well to apprise the parents of what is going on. If they are smart, they will be supportive.
2007-07-31 23:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell your bf that u r a Christian and u dont have sex b4 marriage any more. set the rules, and if he is not ok with that dump him. if he really likes u then he will understand.
good luck, and dont think that since he is a guy he wont do that(i'm a guy and i wont have sex with my gf even if she asks)
2007-07-31 23:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by midge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 You got problems
2 You are already married in the eyes of God and Jesus
What you do from here is up to you!
2007-08-01 00:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You no that your mother loves you, just tell her the truth and it will make you feel better,the truth will set you free.god loves you!
2007-07-31 23:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by marva h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋