what should i do about my brother and my mother?

Question

i'm 13. they keep calling me mean names. mostly just "bxtch", i dont even act meanly i dont do anything. i didnt care at first but NOW i do. my mother always tries to impress my brother, god knows why, hes mean to her. so when HE calls me a bxtch, SHE calls me a bxtch, my dad never does anything about it just shakes his head at them. so today my mom said stop being such a bxtch because she told me to do something and i said "in a minute" she didnt hear me so she yelled the same thing again so i said louder "IN A MINUTE" and she said stop being such a bxtch. i got fed up, and i didnt care, so i called her a bxtch right back.she should stfu people arent supposed to call their children "bxtches" no matter what, what a great example shes setting. if i have children i'm going to be a way better mother then her.

what should i do about this. when they call me a bxtch should i talk back? or just be quiet?

Answer 1

do you want a better relationship with you family, or want to best them in who is better?

talk with them, con them. Mom, I must of done something really horrible for you to say such a word at me, please tell me what it is so I will stop.

better yet be honest and ask for their love back, meet them have way...be more loveable. and pry. a family prayer would be great, until they join in pray alone, out loud to your GOD.\

mine is Heavenly Father but I pray in ;the name of Jesus as he wants me to reconcile the problems I'm having with x & kids.

Answer 2

I suggest that if your Father refuses to nip the situation in the bud you enlist another family member ...Grandparent, Aunt...you can also talk to a Counciler.
This form of abuse is a form that eats away the victim's feelings of self-respect, self-worth and tends to work rather well for the abuser as it leaves no telltale marks.

Be aware that the moment you bring in someone else, you will be labeled a Liar and worse and the abuse may become more frequent and worse. Stand your ground and let the person who is helping you know if the abuse becomes worse, as it may become necessary to remove you from the situation and very possibly out of harms way.

People who have never lived with an abuser tend to believe that the victim 'deserved' things that are said or done and serious things like 'broken bones' are not forms of abuse but just unfortunate 'accidents' which the victim seems to suddenly suffer a lot of. Children are targets for the simple fact that who would believe that a family member or upstanding community figure could do such horrid and cruel things----women who grew up with an abusive parent or caretaker, unconsensely (think I spelled that wrong) marry or associate with someone who continues the abuse because they learn to believe that 'they are bad and deserve to be punished' and so the abuse continues. Males who live with an abuser will start to act the same way. It is a 'Learned Trait', not in the way that is telling, but in a way that is subtle and so continues generation after generation.

Please get help and quickly my dear and the next time your mother has a smart remark for you simply say ' I'm sorry Mother, did you say something?' as sweet as you can ( I know it might seem hard, but it should throw her off balance), as for your brother how about ' That's Ms. to you.'
When a victim starts to fight back, it takes the fun out of it for the Abuser.

Answer 3

Uhm. This is called verbal abuse. And there is no kind of abuse that is OK. Talk to a school counselor.. if you're not comfortable with going to someone of authority.. The Counselors job is to ensure your safety and well being.. and they are required to contact the proper authorities for a matter such as this.

Answer 4

This is a form of abuse! I feel so sad for you that your mother is so pathetic and I also grew up with an abusive mother so I know how deep it cuts!

Don't talk back. Talk to a guidance counsellor at your school or a youth worker. You don't have to put up with this and they can arrange a counselling session for yourself and your family.

Answer 5

shes probably trying to gain your brothers affection by agreeing with him and doing whatever he does, which is an immensely immature thing to do. I think you should talk to your dad about it and ask him for help, if he doesnt then you dont have very good parents

Answer 6

i'd ignore them for a while just stay around your dad he probably doesn't like it any more than you do he'll do something if he's a good dad he's probably just waiting trying to figure out what he's going to say

Answer 7

Respect your elders, just try and figure out whats wrong, there is probably something she is struggling with so she takes it out on you...help her fix that and try and develop a strong bond with her...use prayer as a start, nothings impossible...Good Luck

Answer 8

well sis
i think you should be patient
donot call them like that after all she is ur mother
just trust in god and wait for the good time

Answer 9

How are you going to be a better mother? You have no self control and you apparently have no self respect. Do what you are told when you are told to do it, and apologize to your mother for calling her names. Ignore your brother.

Answer 10

They are just jealous of you. Just ignore them.