ex boyfriend and his family problems...?

Question

My ex and I both met at college. We only dated eight months but we were really close. I loved him so much and im sure he felt the same. About a two months after we started dating we found out that his mom was pregnant. That was a good thing. But then in Feb we found out the baby had a serious heart condition and the doctors only gave the baby a 50/50 survival chance(we started dating in October and broke up in June). At this point my boyfriend wanted more "space." I was tottally willing to give him that but it made me feel like he didnt want me there through a crisis and that maybe it was in a weird way, an exscuse to ignore me a little. But I was still there for him. All through March we hardly would hangout and he would hardly talk to me. I wanted to be there for him. I hardly ever pressured him to go out though because I knew his family life was crazy right then. But he would make plans all the time with me and then cancel last minitue.

After the babay was born things got a little better but then we started fighting all the time. We eventually did break up and I took it so hard. We didnt talk for about 3 weeks but then we slowly started talking again. He always says how he loves me and wants to be with me but "he cant right now." I really love him and want to be with him but I feel like for the last five months I havent had a real realtionship with him. I dont know what to do. I dont kno if I should wait and try to be there for him when he can or if I should try to move on. Its awful because im getting so emotionaly torn apart but I know everythings crazy with him right now.

btw, the baby is about 3 months old and still alive. Not at home, still in the hospital but as of right now hes doing as good as he can be for his condition.

Answer 1

Ouchie... why do I have to be the one to do this ooo lord, why me? Ether way hunnie, ... NO! Leave him be. See crisis like this show us the truth of the relatioship and you can FEEL it!!! You don't know how to explain it obvously becuase you still hold on and hope for this boy that something well happen and bring you that happiness you so want. Classic relationship pitfall. But this comes down to the simple fact that love is never enough. Theres no question how much, or how little, what matters is what this guy is doing with it. Which quite frankly is nothing. Also NO YOU DID NOT GET REALY CLOSE!!!!! Yea I bet you felt you did but this shows without a doubt that nope you didn't get close enough. I agree you probly dated for eight months, but the friendship is there or else this wouldn't of went this way, which means nope hunnie you didn't get close. And your hurting yourself thinking thats what you had, and thats what you'll get. Let go of the hope you good heartful person and understand this guy is showing classic signs at the least of just not knowing what to do with you, to not really caring about you for anything else but the once and awhile attention. So love yourself more then this, besides if you had, you would of had a friend to turn to for this, and not the wonderful strangers here at Yahoo! Answers... but in this world what choices do we have?

Answer 2

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