Am I cheating?

Question

Girls...what do you think it means when you start thinking a whole lot about cheating on your boyfriend and wanting attention from other guys? Is this normal as a relationship goes on, or is there something wrong?

no, I'm not married, and no, we're not sleeping together. I'm just a kid :p. 16, 17 in less than half a year. I figure it's good to experiment...then again, I want to be loyal.

Answer 1

ur bored or dnt lik the person ur with change some thing make it interesting

Answer 2

this is not normal. My boyfriend and I have been in a serious relationship for over a year and I would never think about cheating on him ever because I love him very much. Yes, attention [especially from the opposite sex] can be flattering, but don't let it get to the point where it starts interfearing with your relationship. It doesn't seem like you really love this guy if you're thinking a 'whole lot' about cheating on him so maybe you two should give it a break and see how things go.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with you feeling that way, I would just question WHY you are feeling that way.

All of us in a relationship have at some time or another thought of another man or revelled in the attention of another man. It's normal to have those thoughts. Heck, some people even fantasize about someone else while having sex with their s/o.

Even though it is normal, what you are doing, I would question why you feel this way. Is there something you need from your relationship that you are not getting? Perhaps you are rather young and haven't been around very much and are just wondering if perhaps you should date around a little more before settling down.

You need to openly and honestly take stock in why it is you are feeling the way you feel, and do something about it. If you don't want to be with your boyfriend anymore, then you need to break up with him. It doesn't mean you don't care about him or never loved him, but if you feel so strongly about being with another man, it would be better to break it off with your boyfriend and sow your wild oats for a while before you decide to settle down.

Answer 4

It's perfectly normal to want attention from other guys, it boosts your self esteem and makes you feel great but if you're honestly thinking about acting on these thoughts, there is something wrong in your relationship. You're starting to seek from others what you're missing with your current boyfriend. Think long and hard what you're really wanting and talk to your guy about what is lacking in your relationship. If things can't be resolved, don't cheat just break up with him and find a guy who meets your needs.

Answer 5

Well not exactly. Just thinking about it isn't that bad but it seems u need to spend more time with your boyfriend so he can distact u from thinking about other guys. And yes it is normal for a girl to want a little attention from other guys just make sure that is all your getting from those other guys. I mean I like attention from other guys to and I have a bf. It is way normal actually I mean what girl doesn't want to see if she's still got it. lol.

Answer 6

Something is definitely wrong in your relationship, you either tired of the guy and lying to yourself that you still want to be with him, or he's not doing what he used to do for you anymore. or you're just young and you don't want to be tied down, maybe you should take a break from your bf, and start dating other people and see if you enjoy that or you miss being with your bf, if you like the dating life, then i say go for it, but be careful because its hard to find a guy that truly cares about you!!!

Answer 7

Well everyone thinks about it and imagines it in their head, but if you are really planning on acting on it I would leave before you cheat. I have always been a big flirt and being in a relationship won't change that. I have been with my bf for 8 years and never ever cheated.. not even a kiss. We have an understanding.. as long as you don't flirt with anyone in front of me you can do what you want (flirting NOT cheating) just don't tell me about it. It seems to work out for us. I don't care if he flirts with some girl while he is out having a beer with the guys.. just don't take it further and don't tell me about it. Flirting is fine, its healthy.

Answer 8

If you don't act on it, then no, it isn't cheating. It might not be entirely healthy for your relationship, but it isn't cheating. Maybe you need more attention than you're getting. Maybe you need to talk to your boyfriend about a fantasy about another person. You never know-he might be into the fantasy, and you two could pretend together. That might be all you need. Or maybe you two could agree that it's okay to flirt with other people, as long as that's all you do.

As long as you and your boyfriend make decisions together, you're going to be okay. But as soon as you start hiding your feelings, or acting on them without his knowledge, you're going to hurt someone.

Answer 9

The fact that you had to ask probably means something is wrong. If you aren't happy, it is easiest to break it off rather than risk making a bigger mistake later. Ignore the people in this post who are calling names - millions of relationships end - only a few last forever. :)

Answer 10

maybe I could say that some of the wanting attention was normal, but i think that the fact that you are thinking about cheating means that you have already cheated in your mind. i think that your boyfriend would agree. you might want to evaluate how happy you are with your relationship.

Answer 11

We all fall short in imagination or free-spirit but you have to be true to yourself before you can achieve that special person you want your attention to be of and about. Do you want a relationship or a flirtship? Does he treat you with respect and reason with you? Does he lie,steal, or flirt with other girls when you're together? You might want to consider being single and mingle!