My sister would like me to throw her a bridal shower. She would like the invitation to state something like..."gift cards only". Is that appropriate?
2007-07-31 14:55:27 · 19 answers · asked by makenasmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is NEVER EVER EVER appropriate to ask for a gift, money, gift cards or anything else when sending out an invitation to a shower, wedding or any other occasion, for that matter! You can "tell" people if they call you and ask what she wants, but PLEASE PLEASE don't be so tacky as to put it in the invitation.
2007-07-31 14:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
It really isn't appropriate to specify gifts desired on any type of invitation. I would suggest that perhaps she register for gifts, if she is wanting specifics. Typically, people give gifts that they can afford, therefore most of the time you aren't gonna get what you registered for either. (Most of the time something similar in a smaller price range) I bought one of my friends this real elegant glass salad bowl set that cost $70, but because it was a previous years style so I got it for $15.
Chances are if you do specify gift cards only, not very many people are gonna go. Some might be offended or embarrassed if they were planning on getting a gift of only $15-20 or so. And those that aren't might only give a few bucks, and to a store that may not be useful to the bride or her future hubby. Example: I once got a gift card for $30 to a store where the cheapest thing I would find useful was like $110. Needless to say I still have that gift card.
Just remind your friend that it's truly the thought that counts and she should be grateful for whatever gifts anyone gets her.
2007-08-01 09:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is very tacky!! Etiquette states that invitations for the shower should not mention gifts at all, although it has become custom to include a card with the bridal registry info to make it easier for guests to purchase something the bride wants.
Have her register as usual and then try to spread by word of mouth that she would like gift cards, but don't be disappointed with gifts. Most people do not like being told what to buy!
Good luck!
2007-07-31 15:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Reba 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
SUPER tacky. The first thing you can do is register for things you actually want and let your family spread the word (you arent supposed to mention gifts at all). Secondly, about half your guests will just give you money anyways which is better than gift cards because you can use it to pay off the honeymoon or buy things you really want where you want instead of being limited to one store. What we ended up receiving was about half the gifts from our registry, half money, 2 gift cards, and 2 gifts not on our registry.
2016-05-19 03:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by kala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they why would you even have a shower for her? so people can show up to give her gift cards? thats just stupid...I would skip the shower period and simply give a gift at the wedding instead if I got an invite like that. and thats just tacky to tell anyone what they can and cant get you...even if it is on the shower invite. I just would give her a card that states "I give gifts only and since its a gift card only shower, I was unable to give you anyhting...sorry bout your luck...try not being a greedy b*tch next time." how sad that a bride even has time to think about gifts when she has a wedding to plan.
2007-07-31 15:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no it is not right. a shower is thrown for the bride to be and those invited should be allowed to bring a gift they feel is appropriate. i would never limit a bridal shower, nor wedding to where the guests were told what to bring. i understand you would like to pick out your own gifts, needs but it would be very tacky to ask that your guests be limited to only items that you want ... that is what shower / bridal registeries are for.
2007-07-31 16:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by surreal_survivor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT! Not only is it in extremely poor taste to ask for gift cards, but asking for money, contributions toward your honeymoon, house or even mentioning where you are registered on your invitations is also right up there in the "no manners" category. Let your wedding party know that, if they're asked, that's what you would prefer so they and your family can get the word out, but never put it in print.
2007-07-31 15:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that would be appropriate to put it on the invites but a lot of people will probally end up asking you what they can get her. With my soon to be daughter-in-law, when someone asks me what they want or what they can get for them.....I suggest getting them a gift card and then they can go choose something they want. The reply is usually, "hey, good idea, that's what I'm going to do." Its easier for them and they end up thinking its their idea. Everyone is happy...I much rather do that then get them something they might get 3 of.
2007-07-31 15:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not alright. Mention on the invites where she is registered and you can spread the word by mouth that she would prefer gift cards.
2007-07-31 14:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nope nope, not okay to mention gifts at all on the shower invite. you can include those little papers saying where they are registered at and they can register for gift cards, but you can not tell guests they HAVE to bring a certain gift.
2007-07-31 15:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋