when I was ten My mom was spanking me with a belt then I got pissed off and took the belt from her, she got mad and punched me and I fell to the ground trying to get away. she sat on top of me and pounded my chest with her fist, I had bruises for like a month. My family sadi its what I deserved for being a brat. Then about a month ago ( ia m now 13) on the day I started my period no less I said something to piss her off and she was slapping and punching me, she puched me into the washed and it cut my side. she then left me alone. im not sure if this is child abuse but I want to know. I cant tell on her or else I would probly just get in trouble more. I have talked to my friends about this but As children I believe our judgement is clouded can someone help and tell me their opinion? Oh by the way my 'rents are divorced and I am forced to visit my mom during the summer. they divorced when I was 8.
2007-07-31 14:41:58 · 23 answers · asked by Vanna H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I cant go to anyone, my dad says thats what I get and my dad doesnt even spank me much less hit me
2007-07-31 14:50:15 · update #1
like I said I cant go to anyone, Im really not sure f it is abuse even though yall said it was, I'm afriad that the cps will just determine It wasnt and send me back to my mom, who will just hit me agian...
2007-07-31 14:52:35 · update #2
Do you have a close family friend you can talk to? How about someone at school counselor? Maybe call someone in the local social services? To me - that sounds like abuse and you need to get someone nearby to help you before you are hurt any worse!
Here are some online resources:
http://www.childhelp.org/get_help
http://www.loveourchildrenusa.org/ifyouneedhelp.php
http://www.childabuse.com/index.html
2007-07-31 14:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that your mother is so mean to you. I too come from a family separated by divorce and forced to live with my mother, but I never had any problems like that. However, I can recall when my parents were together that my father used to spank us with ping pong paddles, which sting quite a bit, a very thick hand made wooden paddle, could leave marks if hit with hard enough, and his belt. We never said anything to anyone about it because we were afraid and on top of that, we never had marks or bruises to prove the abuse. But if you want my honest opinion, if she has actually physically hurt you and you have the bruises to prove it, tell another adult, someone that you know you can trust. Ask for help now sweetie, because if you don't the abuse will continue. My prayers are with you. Hope my advice has helped.
2007-07-31 21:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is definately abuse. While i think it is ok to spank, it is never ok to punch and hit and leave bruises! you need to tell someone. i would recommend telling your dad or call an abuse hotline. you could also tell a teacher if that is an option. i am a teacher assistant for emotionally disturbed children and i get told quite often from my kids what there parents do and if we think it's abuse, which it always is, and there was even a kid in a similar situation as you, we had to report it so he could be taken out of the home. All i know is it is abuse and you shouldn't have to go through that, it will cause many emotional problems when you get older. Get help!
2007-07-31 22:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by brit24 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I call that child abuse. But I've never heard of such parent before usually parents just give you a hit once a while but cuts and bruises... oh man I would call the cops but are you a respected child at your school if you aren't and like a person who doesn't care about anything you should probably change some things just my opinion
2007-07-31 22:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Physical punishment, ie, spanking becomes abuse when an object other than a hand is used, a child is struck anywhere but on the buttocks, or if there are marks left that do not fade away within 30 minutes. Report this to your father immediately, or to the police. They will make sure you are no longer left in this woman's care. Please seek help somewhere, because these incidents always escalate.
2007-07-31 21:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by missbeans 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie.. this is child abuse. You don't have to call the cops.. You call call your local child abuse hotline and tell them exactly what you told us. Tell them no family member is helping and even your father is not helping. Ask them to come and help and they will take you right out of the situation. You are being abused and you have every right to be some where safe and cared for. I am very sorry you are going throught this, but you do NOT have to go through this alone. Please feel free to email me at any time to talk, but in the meantime look up your local child abuse hotline and get some real help in real life and get the heck out of your moms. She is an abuser and she will not stop. It will only get worse. I am begging you to not sit around and wait for it to become worse... do something NOW!
2007-07-31 21:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by billies35 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Talk to your dad. Now. You seem like you are getting old enough to end the forced visits.
For the record, I was hit once by my mom (I said "F... Y.." and she slapped me). My son has never been hit. I was well behaved, and successful. My son is a joy and also well behaved.
I know some folks who are ok with spanking, but there is NEVER an excuse for hitting a child when angry.
2007-07-31 21:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by tweedropjes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is child abuse. Cps will do something if you show them marks. The only time i never known of cps to do anything was when it was a dleiquent teen that is making things up to just get their way.
If you call cps or talk to a school counsler or call 911, they can get you help. They have to investigate within 24 hours.
Please try talking to your dad again, make him understand that your mom is hurting you.
Get some help for your self.
2007-07-31 23:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by diane33michigan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the local laws are there but here CPS will tell you that ONE open hand swat on the butt is the limit. Anything after consists of physical abuse. You need to talk to a teacher or school counselor -even though you say you have no one to talk too- you have to talk to SOMEONE. This IS abuse.
2007-07-31 22:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by Snarky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, and if what you are saying is true, You need to report it NOW, if you are in school you should tell your counselor and they can help you tell the police and press charges against your mom. Does your dad know what your mother is doing to you? Do not allow this to go on. A Parent should never treat a child or anyone in this way. Good Luck.
2007-07-31 21:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by perkie5 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋