My wife works at 4:00am until 11:00am then she goes to school from 12:00am - 4:00pm. And i work from 6:00 am - 6:00pm. Anyway since we have working schdules like that she wants her drunk mother to watch our children. She always drinks when shes at home and also at our house in front our children who are 7 and 3. And sometimes even passes out, and im worried she might pass out and the kids might be dead because she wasn't watching them since she was passed out. What should i do or say to my wife? She doesn't think her mom's a drunk
2007-07-31 14:07:37 · 11 answers · asked by Y2J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She says my parents are not suitable to take care of our children. She hates my family she doesn't want our kids around them i don't know why
2007-07-31 14:25:25 · update #1
You've got a fight on your hands and I don't think it's gonna be pretty.
Put your foot down and tell her that you will NOT allow your children to suffer or be harmed by her mothers dangerous habit and that if she will not allow their Grandparents to watch them then you are going to have to hire a Nanny (with your schedules a live-in would be best) and then DO IT and see if there is an agency that can provide one either Temporary or Permanent.
Children who grow up with parents who drink tend to look the other way and hope they change (but they never do). Your children don't need to see Grammy getting sloshed and make it CRYSTAL CLEAR to your Mother-in-law that there will be NO MORE drinking in front of the little ones and if she doesn't like it ........There's the door, don't let it hit you in the butt on your way out.
2007-07-31 19:24:33 · answer #1 · answered by HistoryMom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely feel you. That is not a good situation to place those children in, and the grandmother shouldn't be drinking in front of your children in your home. That's very tacky and downright disrespectful. That's a poor example to set for the children. I can see that you can't get your wife to see that this is an issue, and that's very sad. I understand that she loves her mother, but that doesn't mean that her mother's right. Sit down with your wife, and really let her know that you refuse to leave the children with her mother, and that they need to be placed in a daycare or some sort of alternative placement while the two of you work. That way, you're assured that they'll be watched and will be safe.
2007-07-31 15:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her how will she ever forgive herself if something happens to the children while her mother is watching them?
She needs to really look at this situation and not let loyalty get in the way of common sense.
The bottom line is.....you're also the parent so in this matter you need to put your foot down .
2007-07-31 14:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lay it on the line. Drunk mother = child abuse. Grounds for the agencies to take your kids away from you. No two ways about it.
2007-07-31 14:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by $Sun King$ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 07:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have that same problem, my hubby's mother is nice and all but she is on drugs, and theres so many things wrong with her. i cant trust her. she is a hypochrondriac (however its spelled) she is always getting high and i dont trust her. why dont you ask one of your family members to watch your kids or your mom? at least you will know that they are well takened care of.
2007-07-31 14:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say," I really think it is too much to ask of your mom." or Don't say anything and just get a babysitter.
2007-07-31 14:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by Pop Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pony up and get a decent day care to take care of your kids.
as the old saying goes, you get what you pay for.
2007-07-31 14:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your wife should quit school and parent her own children.
2007-07-31 14:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell her its just not safe for your kids... pay for a sitter
2007-07-31 14:12:51 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋