Do you think long distance relationships work?

Question

I met this really great guy but (to make a long story short) we can't be together for a few years. We can't talk to each other or see each other. He says he's waiting and I am waiting for him. But do you think he'll wait, i mean do you think it could work?

PS. Im 16 and he's 17

Answer 1

girl u are in exatly the same situation as me. i'm turning 16 in a month. the guy is 17 turning 18 this year. and he is off to uni. we dated for 9 months. the broke up cause he doesn't belive in the long distance thing. i figure if its ment to work out it will. he says we have something speical and it will me hard to top so who knows. hope it works out for u.

Answer 2

The first key to success with long distance relationships is effective communication. It is important for both parties to be able to feel that if they need to talk or write to the other person, communication will be welcomed and met with active communication from the other. The quality of the relationship is more likely to increase if both people develop the ability to share feelings openly with each other. The second key to success is a demonstrated commitment to the relationship by both parties. What kind of commitment, and how serious or light it is, will be different for different couples. Being so far apart can be a scary and risky endeavor for most couples, so the third and fourth keys are a willingness to take risks, and the presence of a solid and secure trust between the two people. This doesn't mean that each person needs to skydive from a plane, but rather, that each will trust that the other person's social life in his or her own town will not be a threat to the relationship. Trust is so important that if it isn't strong, you can make a conscious effort to work on it, both on your own and together. This point leads to the fifth key, independence for each person, with a healthy level of dependence upon each other. When these are present, there is a balance of power in the relationship between both people, and each person can be autonomous but still get emotional needs met by the other person. Furthermore, with an appropriate balance of independence and dependence, each person is allowed, even encouraged, to grow and change as an individual, which everyone needs. It is, therefore, wise not to expect that your partner or yourself will always stay exactly the same as when the relationship started.

Answer 3

You can't have a relationship like this. I doubt seriously that a guy is going to wait like this. The first girl he sees that he thinks he might like to ask out he will and you won't know about it. He could be doing that now and keeping you on the line as well.

Move on tell him that a few years is along time and emotions and feeling change within that time. Why are you putting your life on hold for someone you can't have?

Answer 4

Nope. Not if there's no communication. If you can't talk, you can't build a relationship. Bottom line.

PS- You are still young, and people change. Don't shut yourself off to a potentially great relationship just because of this. You may be waiting for him for years, and having built an idealized version of the relationship you have and will have could ruin the opportunity for someone wonderful.

Answer 5

Honey, long distance relationships can work, but there has to be some type of communication. If you can talk or see each other, it'll be almost impossible. You can't live just by letters, you'll need a phone call or something. Where is he going?

Answer 6

If its an online relationship from say a chat room, no it probably wont. People tend to be players online.

If you have been together in person, say in school, and are very close and work really hard at control, then yes it could but long distance is very hard, even if your boyfriend lives 20 miles away...

Answer 7

yes long distance relationships work but only if the couple is devoted to one another! they dont work if u go out with some other guy... or the same for him! just ask yourself if u really like this guy or make a pro con list! u seem a little young to be devoted to one guy!! so if u r having any doubts about the relationship then it probably wont work out!

Answer 8

Short term - yes.
Long term - no.
Better sooner than later you two need to occupy the same space and do some personal one-on-one standard dating.
If you can't do that, keep it on a friendship level until you two CAN get together to begin true dating (if both still interested by that time...).
Good luck!
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Answer 9

Ok do this.....look under answers and read the 3000 answers to the identical question. You will probably find a few saying it can work.... I say....rarely does it work so odds are the answer you won't like hearing is NO. LDR's almost never work....and at your age neither do teen relationships even when you are close.

Answer 10

honeslty i hate to say this but no.. girls and guys both need the others in their life and i mean he might find another girl or just a hook up don't be too mad you can do the same .. but when you guys can be together. be together. or maybe he will wait for you wish in that case will be the cutest thing EVER! i wish ihad a guy like that. good luck with everything.