My boyfriend texts another girl everyday all day, but deletes her messages before I can see them. He forgets to delete the sent texts in which he calls her "sweety" (which he calls me) and has sent her "muah's" and winks. I recently discovered a cell phone bill full of texts to her. Before I knew of this, I told him that I didn't like the way he flirted with her and so he stopped doing that, but now he is secretly texting her. If she happens to text him when I am around he reads out loud as if he can't believe she is texting him...but he doesn't know I know better. Am I right to consider this as emotional infidelity? Idk what to think.
2007-07-31 13:54:50 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should add that when we are together he always tells me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me and is very affectionate. We were high school sweethearts & were apart for 10 years before finding each other again last year. We also live together.
2007-07-31 14:20:51 · update #1
also...I do know the girl he is texting...she is in his band.
2007-07-31 14:57:33 · update #2
i think you are right to consider that. if he were just texting a "friend," i highly doubt he would call her a nickname that he calls you--you're his girlfriend, for crying out loud. it's even more ridiculous that he feels he needs to delete these texts, like he's hiding something from you. definitely be careful...
2007-07-31 13:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by falalafalafel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's just a boyfriend, the sooner you get rid of him, the better for you. You have to get the mindset that when he can do it when you two have no permanent commitment yet, what more if you're already married, right? If it's just a random flirting, well, i guess it's forgivable but if you know for a fact that they have been constant textmates for a long time already, you have to ask yourself, do you see yourself putting up with that any longer than you already have?
2007-07-31 14:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by bojeje 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's unacceptable. Any guy who calls another girl "sweety" in a txt or spoken is cheating. I don't care if she's another girlfriend of his or not, dear.. the way he is treating you is horrible and you don't need to be treated like that. No one does! If you really, really like him, you could try to talk to him before calling everything off... but if you feel like it's beyond your control, then dump him. I know you could find guys a lot better than him who'll treat you a whole lot better.
Never let a man treat you like that again! Ok?
I'm truly sorry that he's doing this to you... if you need to talk about it feel free to IM me.
2007-07-31 14:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by ΘHabeas CorpusΘ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's already calling her "sweetie" then something is up. Sometimes emotions are worst than physically cheating and usually emotions mixed with hormones will end up physical. He is most likely using this girl as a backup in case anything goes wrong with his current relationship - meaning you.
2007-07-31 14:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by JJisconfused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think theres anything wrong with him talking to another girl through texting. Its just the fact that hes calling her nicknames and deleting the messages hiding everything from you that makes it suspicious. All i know is that he has a backup in case your relationship doesnt work out
2007-07-31 13:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
absolutly! you are soo right. the reason that he uses these pet names such as sweety is so that he wont get your anesm mixed up on accident. even though he knows your name obviously he does it so he doesn't get confused! this is such a bad thing expecially if he has you.. i say you break up with him even though i know it might be hard be he is cheating on you emotionally. maybe not physically but it will go further.. hurt yourself now.. rather then a year down the road when you are soo much more attached. meaning break up with him now. you deserve so much better. you sound like a sweet girl. good luck
2007-07-31 14:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I consider it a form of cheating and he's definitely having a good time making a fool of you. And he is still flirting with her through texting. You know you are better than that, and him playing games with your feelings is not love. He needs to know that you see what is going on and you are not going to tolerate this behavior anymore.
Best of luck to you.
2007-07-31 14:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by debbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say this but...ya he's already cheated..emtionally, mentally....but has he PHYSIcally ???? Does that matter to you..Would he like it if u were texting another guy..and then playing dumb about it...Do u have that sick feeling to ur stomach..that means u already know the RIGHT and truthful answer.. Good luck, and remember u r worth having the best..
2007-07-31 14:02:37 · answer #8 · answered by truthgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating. Don't stand for it. Talk it out with him before dumping him. If he tries to say he's not doing anything, ask him why he deletes the messages.
He's a jerk. Sounds like what my friend's bf used to do.
I don't know you, but have more respect for yourself and do something about it.
Wow, he's a jerk.
2007-07-31 14:06:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mama C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you already named it. You just don't want to claim it. Dump this jerk. Consider yourself lucky you found out about it before you got really serious with this piece of trash. If it's already serious, get yourself another man to text and see how he feels. Either way, dump this jerk.
2007-07-31 13:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by chinky95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋