About my boyfriend, i live with my parents and he says he misses me and that he talked to his parents and they told him that it was time for my dad to know that i am with him, we have almost 2 years together, so we had been talking lately and he told me that i should tell my dad about us so he can visit me at my house, or that maybe i could do him the favor of losing his virginity, the thing is that i kind of want to do both we have talked about it and he said that he will wait for me, he made it seem like he wants me to have sex with him or to tell my dad about our relationship, he apologized later for that and he made me clear like always that he loves me and that he will wait until i am ready, but he is still saying that i should tell my dad and i really don't want to, he is like bipolar and has a bad temper and i am afraid he is going to react in a bad way, but my boyfriend doesn't understand that, what can i do? we are 18
2007-07-31 13:48:30 · 9 answers · asked by chikis*trikis 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
the bipolar is my dad but it's just that i am confused
2007-07-31 14:11:04 · update #1
legally you can do what you want but i can see that the respect you have for your parents has a big impact on your life............ be honest with your dad.......... at the end of the day he loves you and a parents love is unconditional.........
2007-07-31 13:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend sounds like a pretty decent guy. You've been "together" for two years!? Pretty amazing. I think it's time to talk to your mom first, see what she has to say about telling your dad. Yes, you're 18 and legally can do whatever you want, but you still live with your parents so it is great that you respect their space and feelings, that is essential.
Bipolar people are unpredictable [my best friend's husband is one and I'm quite familiar with his ways]. You may be able to catch your dad on a good day. He'll be open to the idea of your boyfriend visiting, but on a bad day, he might lash out at the idea. At this point, you probably have a pretty good sense of when it's a good day vs. a bad one.
Talk to mom first, that's the first step. I think your boyfriend should be able to visit you at home. Best of luck, you sound very sweet.
2007-08-01 17:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by Guinness 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your dad think that you have never had a boyfriend..or is there something about this one that you are ashamed of? afraid dad won't like? or do you think if you introduce him to your dad and he starts coming over he will pressure you into the sex part, which you are not ready for? First loves rarely last forever...think about it and think with your head, not your heart. If you ended up pregnant by a boy your father hasn't even met....how would that make your dad feel?
2007-08-08 13:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by VILLAGE PEOPLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggested to you before. Dump this guy. There are plenty of fish in the ocean. Ask your father for advise. Invite your father to lunch at a quiet place and discuss the situation.
I cannot imagine a young woman like yourself, putting yourself in harms way under the pretext of being in love. You do not have the skill to handle a bipolar person and the relationship may result in a catastrophe.
Please! Talk to your father, the one that really loves you!
2007-07-31 21:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by billy brite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i think tell your dad. tell him you want to be honest with him and wish this guy can visit you at your home. tell him you love him(you dad) and want to share this that is special for u with him.And about your boyfriend wanting to have sex with you i honestly dont recommend u to do it but if u do make sure to use something.a baby is something your dad would really take bad and he will defenetly not accept your boyfriend then. You will have a very rough time
2007-08-08 14:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by mommy 22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you see that your boyfriend is just dying to have sex. He is 18....he does not want to be a virgin anymore. It is all about sex. It's not about your dad. He just doesn't want his friends to make fun of him being a virgin anymore.
2007-08-08 20:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't write coherent sentences, or use a period for that matter, then you probably should not be having sex. Also sex is not a recreational activity, if you are not ready for a kid(which you aren't, it is obvious) then you should not have sex, even if you are using protection.
2007-08-05 21:28:03 · answer #7 · answered by manachains69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you get jobs. Then get an apartment. Then move in. THEN tell your dad. Then get married. Then make love.
TX mom
2007-08-08 13:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so your dad does not want you to date? Is that why he dosen't know about your b/f? You sound immature so maybe that is why your dad feels that way
2007-08-08 16:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by beddybeddy83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋