Because if it's what's on the inside that really matters, then all the average looking or overweight guys with nice personalities would have girls chasing them. When was the last time anyone saw that happen?
Instead they always go after the slim good looking guys (who may be a male version of a bimbo). And yet when women are asked what they look for in a guy they all say 'oh, looks aren't important to me at all, it's what's inside that matter's'.
Why do women say that when they don't really mean it?
2007-07-31 13:30:19 · 40 answers · asked by hrf1007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what do you expect them to say??? you think they would just admit how shallow they are.....saying looks don't matter makes them seem less like trampy b*tches
2007-07-31 13:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks still matter. The older you get, the less looks matter and the more personality matters. Look at all those average, overweight guys 20 years later - most are or have been married.
Average, overweight guys should not think that just their personality will get them a babe. If they have such great personalities, they will also be looking for average, overweight girls with a great personality.
Also, how do individuals define 'good personality'? It's pretty subjective.
2007-07-31 13:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So called good looks will provoke chasing and end up in disappointment
Smart girls may not "chase" a plainer guy, but the do give a chance. Notice I said "smart". Smart about what makes a good boyfriend, not so much what other people think makes them "look good" to their friends.
A real woman does not chase guys anyway. They would rather be pursued. And, a real, intelligent woman does have the sense to look past the surface. That means that a woman willing to do that is going to be more rare. Cheap fluff with no real sense is something you can find anywhere...is that what you want?
2007-07-31 13:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u forgot money! lol! kidding.
the hot, sexy guys are the head turners. but a girl cant truely be happy w/ a jerk- even if he is a god!
our dream guy always has a wonderful personality and is drop-dead gorgeous. well, you cant tell a guys personality from the inside so we automatically compare our dream 2 the looks. often we take that little cheat a bit 2 far and despose of every other guy on the face of this earth.
were lookin for someone we've met "once upon a dream" we know what we "want" him 2 look like but we dont "know" so we just go for the guy that fits our "want" description hoping that hes "the one"
hope that answers ur question...(y do u ask?)
2007-07-31 13:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What we (women) mean by that is, it is the personality that keeps us.
But I do have to agree with you, that it is the looks in the beginning because I feel you have to have that mutual attraction going on.
So it starts out with the initial attraction.
But that's what gets it started, but what will keep a woman is the personality.
But also remember we all have different tastes.
Some women are attracted to the muscle guys but other women (like me) does not find that attractive at all. Usually because of how the muscle bound guys carry themselves. Very cocky......like they are Gods gift to women....that to me is a total turnoff no matter how good their body looks.
Think about it for a minute, who do YOU want to go out with?
Usually a woman that you are attracted to.
Take me and a friend of mine, when we used to go out, we were both attracted to totally different kind of men.
I do say attraction is where it all starts, but personality is where the happiness is ;)
2007-07-31 13:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Idk
but base on my opinion about woman, there are several thing a man might need to impress a woman, like the look, the wealthy, the personality, but some only need one or 2 or all of these thing i had listed, but most of the girl i knew, that they notice on the look is the most, and the personality, is the important, but i'm a teenage guy who don't had any of those so forget about me. Mostly my friends are notice on the look, but you know they are teenage girl so they like hot guys, and stuff.
2007-07-31 13:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by Nam D. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE! Most of the time, women DO look for personality. How many couples have you seen that have avg to poochy to dorky looking men with absolutely KNOCKOUT women? Lots, very often in fact. The reverse is never true. I have never seen a really gorgeous man with a ho-hum, overweight, strange-looking, or ugly girl on his arm.
I am talking about serious committed couples, here, not booty calls and casual dating here.
Check your engagement/wedding sections or just go people watching at the mall if you want the proof.
2007-07-31 13:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by musicimprovedme 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real women will not just go for the looks. I have been told that I am very attractive, but the man I married is not really a looker. He is however the kindest most thoughtful person I have ever known. If I would have went by his looks and did not get to know him I would have not given him a second thought.......
2007-07-31 13:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Radtech1996 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with the same guy 8 years. We rode that same bus to work and I'd been eyeing him for a while. I just liked the way he looked and acted. At 270 lbs, he is twice my weight, but I saw kindness in his eyes. I asked HIM out, he was so shy. I think with most women, there has to be a physical attraction of some kind, just as there is with a man. But in the end, it is how that person acts, how they treat you, how they treat others, what kind of character they have. And thanks to my bravery, I got a winner. When women say that, they do mean it. But no one wants to go with someone who is not attractive to them in some way otherwise. Not all women are dumb airheads attracted to super-goodlooking guys.
2007-07-31 13:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by Kate J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you gotta have some attraction the the person....be at the end of the day and 20 yrs into things they are not gonna look the same and if they are really and truly good to you that's what counts,,,,,not Mr. pretty-boy or johnny hard-body....... those things cant hold salt next to a good father, husband ,,lover those things don't come close...if i had to chose between a good man or a nice well shaped man I'd most certainly go with a good man
2007-07-31 13:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not all girls that say that. Some might just go for looks, some might just go for personality. But then some might want a guy with looks (as in not overweight), but not just looks, a good personality too.
2007-07-31 13:35:14 · answer #11 · answered by in l♥vee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋