i have a younger sister who just turned 18,she is overweight and has low self asteem...she has had many boyfriends before this one she has now........he is 56 years old,people know him in our town as a woman beater,my mother and i have gone round and round with her about this...we do not approved,we have confronted him,but it didnt help.she didnt even tell us she was dating this man,but we found out,she swears she has dropped him,but i just passed by her house and he was there.i have decided not to open my mouth to my mother.question....should I?please give me your opinions on this what you think i should do and your reasoning behind it.thanks, for your help
2007-07-31 13:16:53 · 6 answers · asked by sleepy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes well,he deicded to go around town bragging about his young catch,to a coworkers of my mothers.thats how we found out.so he knows really well how much we dont like him because my mother caught up with him ,corned him then threw a really big set of keys at his head,yes she made contact too,he certainly wouldnt get out the truck because i was standing on the other side with a bat.but,ya know we were mad,we really arent violent people....unless....ya know....ive had talks with her heart to heart,i beg,ive cried,nothing ive said or done has worked.i guess my only option is to sit back and let her get what is coming....which will come...how do i let her know that i love her but im not subjecting my parents,kids,husband,or myself to this anymore without her thinking i have given up?
2007-07-31 15:59:48 · update #1
cornered**
2007-07-31 16:01:33 · update #2
what the hell!!?? she's 18 and he's 56??? that's just wrong.and dangerous.
technically, there's nothing you can do as she's legal and the more you talk to her, the further away she'll get but if her self esteem is playing a part in this, she may very well find herself in some serious trouble.
i'd talk to your folks again. there's strength in numbers
2007-07-31 13:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart-to-heart talk with your sister. Explain her more the disadvantage and the bad about having a relationship with the man. She's still too young a still have great future ahead and may meet many more guys better than this oldie. When it seems she's enjoying and looking fine with this guy, let her go. But don't put away your eyes with her, and show the man you are always behind your sister. Let him feel that she is much loved and would not allow somebody cheat or make fool of her. Further, show him that you are always there ready to swat anyone who will hurt or do no good to a dear sister.
2007-07-31 13:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by dalton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is 18 and you have already told her what you thought. There really isn't anything more you can do other than be there for her when things go south, and they will and she will be very hurt. In the meantime, keep the lines of communication open and friendly so when things do go south she knows she can come to you.
2007-07-31 13:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by msims52 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It won't do any good.She will have to learn the hard way.You can tell her you will help her lose weight so she can find a decent man.If she hooks up with this guy he will treat her like a child.Guys like this like young girls because they are easy to control and the ones with low self esteem and desperate for love are the easiest to control and keep.
2007-07-31 14:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is very tough...and well i wouldnt go tell your mom just yet...but talk to her...not as a older sister or a a mom or someone who is above her....but talk to her as shes your equal or just like ur her friend...and tell her she can do alot better just try and boust up her self esteem and try to gain her trust so she actually believes u and if after a while like a week or so...then if nothing happens and u still she her with him then u can go and ask your mom for advice just dont wait til he hurts her..>!< and let your sister kno your just tring to watch out for her...! well i hope everything goes welll!
2007-07-31 13:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is of legal age to see who she wants.i know you are scared for her but she knows what she is getting into.tell your mom what you know and have her ask a lawyer if there is any legal grounds you have to stop him from seeing her,but i doubt there is.
2007-07-31 13:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋