Do guys care about girl's past anymore?

Question

Hi guys! I am a recent college graduate female who is in her early 20's. I have friends and knew some people who had nasty past (had many sexual partners and such) and now they are all getting married!! I saw who they are marrying to and they are pretty looking decent guys!

I have learned to respect my body from my brother, my cousins, and my friends who are around my age.. and that the consequences would be better than those girls with dirty past. Now, they are ended up with a lifetime partner while I am a single girl who is looking for one.

I just thought what guys think of these days now. Do you guys care about girl's past anymore?

Answer 1

NO.

Thats a MYTH and a LIE that other women tell you.

MEN REALLY LIKE THE IDEA OF A WOMAN WHO HAS HAD HER FAIR SHARE OF EXPERIENCES . . GOOD AND BAD.

Think about it . . .

I would rather keep a girl around who had 200 lovers who now believes that I AM HER FAVORITE OF ALL THE MEN SHE'S KNOWN . . . than a girl who had NONE.

A guy would RATHER have a women who is with him BECAUSE SHE REALLY WANTS TO BE . . . THAN A WOMAN WHO JUST DOESN'T KNOW ANY BETTER.

Women who have NOT experienced more than her fair share of MISTAKES, take far too much for granted . . . and are virtually IMPOSSIBLE to please.

The "nasty" past you speak of is not NASTY at all. Whoever put that into your head was brainwashing you.

These other women went into the the world and CARED about SATISFYING THEIR MAN. Women who don't CARE and WITHHOLD SEX are not really a man's first choice. Why WOULD she be???? What man will commit to a woman who INGORES HIS satisfaction by WITHHOLDING sex (and her affection) . . . but still expects to get EVERYTHING SHE WANTS out of a relationship from HIM.

If you don't want to REMAIN single and looking, you may want to re-consider taking a man's satisfaction into consideration rather than just your own.

No rush. You have PLENTY of time to think it over.

Cheers.

:)

Answer 2

Lesson One: If you are male, never seek advice from another male about woman problems, Lesson Two: If you are female, never seek advice from another female about male problems. Why? Because they will tell you what you want to hear. Go to a close member of the opposite sex and they will set you straight. To answer, your question, of course! I am 62, still good looking, 6'1", 215 pounds and was always average looking. Yet, I have always had women every other man wanted. Blonds, Brunettes, White, Latin, Asian, Black because I was nice. I always believe this. A person can be nice, but have no confidence in themselves and goes over and above the limit of being nice and becomes someone even a good girl won't want. A bore, a pushover, a wimp. No backbone. Or you can be nice and sure of yourself. Confidence in yourself is the secret. Without it, you'll whine your whole life through, wondering why me? I've also known strikingly beautiful women who asked why no one would approach them to ask them out or talk to them. The only ones that would were the jerks. The regular guys never thought they'd get the time of day from these girls. I always had friends that said, say hello to everyone, don't ever count yourself out. And no, I never went just for the looks, it just always worked out that way because I was nice and self assured. Think of it in sports terms. Babe Ruth had the home run record but also the most strikeouts. You just go up to bat again.

Answer 3

Hey summer, you sound a little jealous. Maybe because of their past they met a lot more people than you did and it led to where they are now. Maybe they did what they did in the past because of loneliness or attention and it was their way of searching or dealing with that loneliness.
You on the other hand have more confidence and have depended on yourself more and family for guidance.
I got a feeling you're thinking the worlds passing you by so you're looking for a man. Stop looking. Do what you like to do. It's time to follow your dreams and accomplish goals you set yourself. And when you least expect it Love will find you in the process. You are still very young and have lots of time. Don't worry, you're alright.

Answer 4

God a graduate student virgin? I'm calling Guinness

Are you obsessed with marriage? Are you now rethinking that "I'm going to wait until I'm married" school of thought because you realize you (like many people) may NEVER get married.

It sounds like your brother, my cousins, and friends most of whom I'm sure are male brainwashed you good. But alas the girls with the 'nasty" pasts are all getting married to good looking and decent guys. Do you feel bamboozled yet?

Secure, good looking guys generally don't care how many men a woman has had as long as she is disease/child free.
What they do care about is if these "nasty' girls performed said sexual act with one guy and refuse to do it with them.

Answer 5

Not so much. As long as she isnt a prude that has no experience in the sexual arena then its all good. I don't want to be the guy who breaks a girl in. I'm not ruling out anything extraordinary like hundreds of sex partners, hard drug use or felonious conduct.

Answer 6

Of course they do, but why should a guy not fall in love with a girl just because she has slept with other people beforehand?

My fiance has had a very chequered past, he's done some really nasty things with some very screwed up people, but it's all IN THE PAST, and he's not proud of it.

Answer 7

for me not really --- its the person now that counts --- they have been shaped by their past --- so if you love the person now you also love how they came to be the person you love --- there is much i dont know yet about my lady but that does not stop me loving her nor wanting to be with her ---- maybe you should stop worrying about having a "nasty past" and enjoy the company of your boyfriends ---- best wishes

Answer 8

If it's related to things that could have a negative effect on our relationship, such as fidelity and/or drugs.

Answer 9

no Id judge a girl only by what she is like now, I think I am quite a good judge of character so I wouldn't need to draw inferences from her past, plus everyone is entitled to a past to a certain extent.

Answer 10

Care, yeah, but we don't obsess over it.

I think a lot of guys will love and respect the fact that you're inexperienced... fewer comparisons, for one thing! And we don't worry about STD's as much -- though YOU should!