I just want her to talk to me and tell me what is up. I do love very much. I am really hurting inside. Why can't she just talk to me and tell me what is going on? I care about her and the children on many levels. The kids are like my own and I miss them greatly. I miss just holding her and making sure she is happy and safe. We used to confide in each other. It is not there right now. All I can say she means a great deal to me and I do not want to see her hurt. I know I can not fix everything for her. I do not want this distance to cause us to lose each other. Some night right now I wake up crying or looking for her to talk to. I sense when she is happy and sad. She does the same with me I believe. I just wish i could spend some time with her.
2007-07-31 12:30:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you shouldn't be telling this to us... you should be telling her. whoever she is.
2007-07-31 12:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by xxazaleanne 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me see if I'm interpreting this correctly.
(First, you're calling your gf Mommabear which is to icky to even address.) She let you move in because she was fond of you and hoping that, if the relationship got intimate, you both might fall in love. She let her kids get close to you, gave you a good place to sleep and treated you well, and you still won't give your love to her.
What about marriage? She kind of hoped you'd ask. When she finally asked about it, she found out that you can't even say that you love her and though "she means everything to me" you may be seeing a ladylove on the side.
So what you sense her happiness. Her dog senses her happiness. She just wants you to step up like a man and make a commitment or get out. Apparently, it's get out. Couldn't have happened to a nicer guy.
P.S. You've spent PLENTY of time with her. Game's over.
TX Mom
Debbie
2007-07-31 19:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to her?
What is the response you get?
If you are not able to talk to her, what about writing your feelings down....either in a letter or card.
Just somewhere to get them out, first of all, and 2ndly for her to read in her own good time.
Without more information on how she's actually acting towards you right now, it's hard to try to understand how she is feeling.
Like I said, she may be all confused herself and she's trying to take time to get things figured out in her head.
It sounds like she has alot to straighten out and her kids lives depend on what she does also. That in it self is a big burden to carry. When we are Mother's, we don't get to do what "we" want to without figuring out how it's going to affect our children.
That's alot on her mind right now , I'm sure.
She knows you are there for her, just give her some time to get things figured out.
But in the meantime, write your feelings down.
And if you want to , mail it to her.
Just to let her know you are there for her, but also respecting her space.
She will think highly of you for that.
I know it's hard because you want to follow your heart right now and you are not able to.
But if it's meant to be, it will work out.
I'm sorry you are going through this, I know how hard it must be on you. But I bet it's twice as hard on her.
Take care
2007-07-31 20:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you write her a letter?
Putting feelings on paper, is easier to do than speak face to face.
2007-07-31 19:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋