like i am 25 and have been with around 40 men (thats not including the women i have been with).... but i guess my question is, is how many is too many, im not married so its not like 1 of my current partners is going to be the only 1 forever, so i cant just stop now! out of all those men, i only was in a relatoinship with 2 of them ever!
2007-07-31 12:27:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All depends on whom you ask. For some people, more than one is "too many"; for others, more than 100. If you're comfortable with your "numbers", I don't see a problem.
2007-07-31 12:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
-By 25, I was going to say that 3-5 was a lot.
-You have definitely been with way more men than the average woman has
-only in a relationship with 2? Are you confusing sex with love?
-I don't think it's healthy for a woman to have this much casual sex, despite feminism and Sex and the City (good show btw, but Samantha would be so messed up)
-be careful of stds, duh
- maybe see a therapist. This may sound like I'm being judgmental, but really, there is a good chance that you're trying to fill in some hole with a buttload of sex.
-It could just be that you really like sex and have been doing it casually for so long that it seems like the norm. Or it could be the places you hang out in, or the people you hang out with.
-I'd actually be curious about your emotional past to tell you the truth. Single parent family? Alcohol? Negative sexual past? Depression? Low self-esteem?
-Does sleeping with people make you feel beautiful or desired?
-I think it might be good for you to hold off on sex for a year, and think about what you want.
-If you can't control yourself now, how will you be able to when you get in a real relationship? Ten bucks says you'll cheat if you don't learn to keep your pants on somewhere down the line.
-I've heard it said that one-night stands are kind of lame bc the connection isn't as strong and he doesn't know your body. If you have a relationship of some kind, the guy has time to learn what you like.
Good luck!
2007-08-01 12:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Eric Cartman 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow. You must be one very hot lady!
I don't think that's too many...if you started doing it when you were 18...that means around 6 different men in a year over the past 7 years.
Not surprising since you only were serious with 2 out of 40...all the rest of the time when you were not in a relationship, you'd probably have met these guys in parties and had casual sex or one-night stands...
Well...different strokes for diff folks...stop counting, but do practice safe sex.
Hey...I'd volunteer to be added to your stats! See yah!
2007-08-01 07:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Yet D 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i don't think there is an answer to that kind of question, because to some pl, 2 is too many, and to some other pl, 5, and 20, and 100... all i can tell u is, i hope u'v been protecting urself with all those men, and try to find somebody good and be in a real relationship.
2007-07-31 19:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by rali b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever stop to think that maybe that is why you haven't been in a relationship, except for only 2 of them.
You don't have a good reputation.
That's not very attractive for any man that is ready to settle down.
It is for all the men and women who only want 1 night stands though.
2007-07-31 19:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Guess that goes along the line of how many women your partner was with. Try explaining that to the one that hopefully you'll fall in love with someday.
2007-07-31 19:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you might think that you were with 25 physically yes but how many each one of those people has been with and how many they've been with sooooooooooooo the # 25 is't correct. but if you put yourself out like that it no very lady like. almost sound as if you are bragging. that's nothing to bragg about. you are young still hope you can make some changes.
2007-07-31 19:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by yellow 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That does seem an excessive number. I hope you've been careful and protected yourself with those guys (and girls).
How do you define "relationship"? Second date?
Be careful and don't break too many hearts! If your partners are on the same emotional level you are, fine, I guess!
2007-07-31 19:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by Bryce 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is something that you need to personally decide on for yourself. if you don't mind this lifestyle (and are having fun with it for now), then safely continue on. But if you feel empty and sad about how things are going, then I'd consider making a change. Slow down and get to know people longer before sex comes in.
2007-07-31 19:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by January 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
sounds like Lays Potato chip commercial...
you just can't have one...
"current partners?" plural? It almost sounds like the men know all about you.
2007-07-31 19:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by n9wff 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋