I have know that my girlfriend has been doing online sexual role playing with a guy in California (we live in Georgia) she says that she has no emotional attachment to this guy, and the only reason they role play is because I'm not that good at it/ don't have time on a computer. so even though i didn't like it i decided that i could stand it because she liked it so much. well i come to find out (because she sent an return email between us to him on acasadent) that he didn't know she had a boyfriend or who i was. after i talked to her about it she said it was because she though us being together was none of his bisness and he would stop RPing with her if he knew. is is ok that I'm upset with her for not telling him that we are together ,or am i wrong for acting this way.
she has know way to see this guy being that she is 15.
2007-07-31 12:18:03 · 21 answers · asked by john m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please if you read this give an answer. I need some more opinions.
2007-07-31 13:53:52 · update #1
dump her. shes not worth it if she's being like that. she doesnt care about your feelings at all by the sound of it... no one in their right mind with a bf would do that! sorry dude but she sound like a wh*re to me..
2007-07-31 12:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by xxazaleanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John, we are living in a time where few of us really understand relationship. Some males/females do not want any one they're with to have any expectations in their relationship. Some males/females enter relationships without honesty and honor. Some enter relationships where the emotions are stronger for one partner than the other. Some are just too young. When someone is having a relationship in cyberspace, and it is a relationship, and does not inform his/her partner or tell the other person about his/her partner, there are reasons and "it's none of his/her business" is not a good one.
Your girlfriend is young, realizes she has a need that you are not fulfilling but doesn't want to break off contact with you because you are in the flesh, predictable, and you won't leave her. What does that say about you? Do you not love yourself enough to want someone who will trust and honor your relationship even if their needs are not being met? Would you be satisfied if the shoe was on the other foot?
Is feeling betrayed by someone you've trusted wrong? Really, is it? If this was your brother or sister in the same situation, how would you advise him/her?
I've learned this much-if I settle-then I cannot whine about those things that are not working, because settling means not acknowledging that you are worthy of the whole person, not just a part.
I'm sorry I couldn't answer this better, but you REALLY need to look inside yourself and decide how much you love yourself and if you feel you deserve complete honesty and communication in ALL your relationships.
Good luck.
2007-07-31 19:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lily H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is only 15 and in sexual role play??? That's sick. What is worse, is the thought of a man being interested in it. Yes, you do have a right to be upset, but I would be more upset that she is doing this. It is wrong. There is nothing okay about it. She has no concept of what could happen to her after being so "out there" with her sexuality. Infact, she doesn't have the understanding of "role play" at her age except what she sees on TV. At 15 you are supposed to be "going out" with someone, holding hands, kissing, and hanging out while writting notes back and forth. Not worried about sex. I think you need to let her parents know. There could be a predator out there waiting for her and she isn't old enough to underestand what she is really doing. Yes, she'll be mad, but you could save her from herself and a monster that comes knocking at her door. Good Luck.
2007-07-31 19:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope this man realizes that she IS ONLY 15! You are not out of line to be upset, And if the man would stop roleplaying with her knowing she had a boyfriend, then that tells you something right there- she is wrong for doing what she is doing. You have every right to feel the way you do. If she enjoys roleplaying so much then she should teach you how to be "better" at it! She should be upfront with the man about her age and her relationship status! I wonder if her parents know their 15 year old daughter is online being nasty with grown men.
2007-07-31 19:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by PDX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset about this. It's not good for a 15yr old to be having an on line relationship of this kind. Tell her to drop the guy. She is not being honest either with the guy or you.. Tell her she can't lead a double standard, Learn at a young age to stand for what is right.
2007-07-31 19:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by poodle336 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd just tell her that I really don't like those 'games' and I would really walk away to show her that I have self esteem and that I do not stand lack of respect. She will then understand that it is not ok to do those things to a love one.
2007-07-31 19:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by Azucar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg...wow....i think that you have every right to get pissed off...first off she's 15 having sexual relationship online...f****n gross...sorry but she sounds like a s l u t. and i just think its wrong if someone is doing that and is in a relationship.... its like cheating but with ur permission. dump her... seriously, shes no good
2007-07-31 19:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by shhweet candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man if i knew my bf was doing any such thing like that it would have been over when he told me!!!!!! Get out of that relationship now u dont need someone to treat u that way!
2007-08-08 19:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by Bow Wows #1 fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's pretty wrong ..
i'd never do that to my guy,
and if a boy did that to me, i don't think it would be my problem if the girl would stop doing it with him if she knew he had me.
if you can even understand my english.
you should find a girl that respects you fully.
2007-07-31 19:22:12 · answer #9 · answered by jbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 100% female,She has a problem , kick her to the curb.
2007-07-31 19:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋