so i live with my dad and we dont exactly get along. he doesnt really take care of me either. so i have been wanting to move in with my mom but if i did i would have to go to a new high school. [im going to be a freshman] but my whole life is here with my dad and i know everyone. my basketball team has been together forever and they are all going to that school. and i know everyone here! so i dont know what to do. should i stay with my dad and just suck it up so i can be with my friends or should i move in with my mom and be happy but go to a new school and start all over. :/
2007-07-31 12:11:40 · 10 answers · asked by be_bombshell. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just start all over and move in with your mom.
you can meet new people and stuff, I mean it might be hard to move away from your best friends and all, but you can still stay in touch. happiness is key :]
2007-07-31 12:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by cherry_bananas_cookies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really tell what you mean by "don't get along." Does this mean you argue? Or does he hit you? Does he abuse you in any way?
And what do you mean he doesn't take care of me? He doesn't cook dinner? He doesn't shop? Or he stays out all night drinking with his friends? Does he drink or do drugs?
Honey I can't really tell what's going on because your explanation is very vague.
I will tell you this...
When my daughter was a freshman, I made her change schools so she could go to a magnet school for health sciences (she wanted to be a dr). She apparently didn't want to, because she lost a lot of friends that way. She made lots and lots of new friends. She did not lack friends except maybe at the very beginning of school. She was in this club and that and graduated #3 in her class. She still blames me for making her change schools, but she was resilient enough to bounce back. By the way, she changed her mind, she's not going to be a dr. after all--she's going into speech therapy.
Make a list of pros and cons and weigh everything out. Then check with your heart. What do you really want to do? Tough decision, kiddo.
TX Mom
Debbie
2007-07-31 12:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it all depends on what u wanna sacrifice your friends for your life at home or a better life w/ no friends. but you gotta look on the bright side of this b/c there is one see that once u move you could find alot nicer and newer fun kids to hang out w/ or depending on where your mom lives u may or may not have a better town to shop or hang out around. but its never good to be unhappy, I'm not really a favorite to my mom and if i had to live w/ her then i wouldn't care what was waiting for me at the other school i would pack my bags and leave b/c u don't wanna waste your life being unhappy so try finding a new life out there. and if your really determined to not leave just know that u only got 4 years to suck it up but sometimes sucking it up could lead to stress or a breakdown so try finding out what u wanna give up more
2007-07-31 12:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by emeraldgreen_26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well starting over is always good, because you don't know what's in teh future for you. But it would be better than been unhappy everyday. ALl your friends will still be friends and they will call or text message you all the time. But ask your heart what better for it, been unhappy and mayby later lonely too. Or start a new life and go from there.
2007-07-31 12:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you can move with your mom but if you are gonna miss your basketball team and your high school you can get their e_mail and chat every day and you can visit them too so you are not gonna lose them and if you go to a new school you can know new people and be friends do not ever says i am gonna start all over you are gonna be happy every where.
2007-07-31 12:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by cooly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start over. Do it before school starts. You can always make new friends. Keep in touch with the old ones.
2007-07-31 12:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well even if you stay your frinds cant be with you on the rest of your life most of em will be sbrated when going to collige emploiment etc.
so i think its a good chance for you to move becaue you ill learn alot in you new life & with all good memorys & keep in tutch with your old broo
:)
2007-07-31 21:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by wanietdriver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a chance to be happy take it you'll make new friends and a new basketball team go for it dont be miserable and neglected.
2007-07-31 12:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by marianne l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move your not happy now and you will still keep in touch
2007-07-31 12:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by Cassie t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-31 12:22:40 · answer #10 · answered by V.k.rana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋