is it ok for a 17 yr old to have a baby?

Question

my 17 yr old cousin from texas wants 2 have a baby. is she too young?

Answer 1

i guess in her eyes she isn't but, i think so babies cost a load of money witch she probably don't have just hope HER parents support her

Answer 2

Age 17 is too young to have a baby. Your cousin needs to realize that babies aren't all about cuteness, they come with much more than that... Sleepless nights...

Is she ready to sacrifice her life for a tiny being? Is she having a good time with her friends and boyfriend, going out all the time? Having a baby will mean no more nights out, perhaps an occasional one once in a blue moon.

Has she thought about what it takes if she has a baby who has medical issues, who might be needing surgeries? My daughter was born with a cleft lip/palate. She's 5 years old now, and has undergone 7 surgeries so far. At age 17 I can't imagine one would be mature and strong enough to handle something like that. I'm 39 years old. It's hard for ME to sit in the waiting room with my husband, waiting to hear from the surgeon about how the surgery has gone.

I am hoping that your cousin realizes that she has a lot of time ahead of her... she should finish school, establish herself in some sort of job, find the right guy...

Answer 3

HAVING the baby is the easy part and sure, she could do it... but raising them is a whole other story.... there is just sooooo much that even at 27 I'm STILL unprepared for and I already have 3!!! I wish she would think again about having a baby this young.... she needs to experience life before she can handle a 5 yr old's questions or an 8 yr old's bullying... anyone can have a baby... is is she ready to be a parent that should be questioned.

Answer 4

Yes raising a baby is not that easy I was a single and preganant at 33 and found it very hard to raise a child on my own even with the help of a wonderful family and I have a full time job. I still find it challenging in todays age my son I love to death and is almost 5 years old but yes I would have to say 17 is waaay to young please wait and enjoy life at least for another 5 to 10 years there are so many milestones to come for you alone at age 17.

Answer 5

I would say "YES"!!! The reason....most 17 yr olds can't support themselves ( still living at home with parents), still in school, and do not know who they are at this age. Everyone should go and experience life...found out what they like and dislike. A baby can slow or stop this adventure. Your cousin needs a reality check....ASAP!!! Good luck!

Answer 6

Well, obviously she can have a baby, should she? I think it well understood in our culture you are putting yourself and your family at risk for a lifetime of poverty and struggle if you have a child before you are financially and emotionally prepared to take care of the child.

A young woman often wants to have a baby to have someone who will lover her, filling an emptiness inside her. Yet, until you have children, you don't realize how continuously you have to give yourself to your child. Life is no longer about your time, sleep, eating, leisure, material possessions....everything goes to the baby instead. When you are young, and that everything is so small, giving to a baby can really drain you.

Answer 7

does she have her own place one with at least two bedrooms...she will want her privacy at one point so seperate rooms will be needed.
does she have a job that will pay for the rent and utiliites on her place.
not to mention....food, diapers, rash cream, lots of clothing (they grow fast) a crib, a high chair, a car seat (different stages) a stroller, a changing table or other similar furnature, good heath insurence that will pay for doctors visits and prescription medication, a college eduction fund (yup not to early when they are babies to think of that) and child care while she works. and the father? where is he going to be in the baby's life if at all? has she at least graduated from high school? has she thought about college? what does she want to be when she grows up? and how does a baby fit into those dreams? Or does she just plan on having the child and receiving state aid?
I am a divorced mother of two children and let me tell you its hard on your own. Sometimes making the decision to eat or have heat or electric happens. Having a good support system (IE family) helps but in the end they go home and she will be faced with caring for this child on her own...and it wouldnt be right for her just to assume that her parents will help raise the child. the child will be HER responsiblity. She really needs to think about this .... babies arent play things. They are a joy of course but I really dont think she is ready for that kind of responsiblity unless she is ready for LIFE.

Answer 8

Yes, it's too young. She needs to finish high school and college before she should think about having a baby. It's a big responsibility to take care of someone and it's not cheap. My medical bills was over $30,000. I'm glad that I had medical benefits. This does not count buying baby items like crib, clothes, diapers, ...or college tuition.

Answer 9

Well, to me it all depends on the maturity of the person. But I am 20 and just became a mom 2 months ago, I love my son more than anything in the world and wouldn't trade him for all the stars in the sky, BUT I would not recommend it to a 17 year old.... it does completely change your life.

Answer 10

At 17 ... Yeah you really are too young. Not even finished high school yet and can't really fend for yourself not alone a child. So a child is not as option especially if you want that free time because when you have children that is your time until....

Answer 11

Yes, she is to young. She hasn't lived her life yet. There is this girl on here asking about getting pregnant and she is seventeen years old too...are you her cousin? She is crazy...if it happens by accident then I guess there is nothing you can do about it but she should not try and have a baby.