Heels or no heels?

Question

I love the way high heels look but I can barely walk in them, I even trip in one inch heels. I was trying on shoes one weekend at the shoe store and literally tripped up in a pair of heels. I really want to wear them at my wedding, though. Other then the fact that it looks better then wearing flats, I don't want to look so short in my wedding pictures standing next to my fiance who is a foot and a half taller then me. So should I do heels or not?

Answer 1

If you decide on heels, then you need to do two things. First, wear heels a LOT at home & elsewhere until you can walk in them without tripping so much. Second, make sure your wedding dress can be bustled up in such a way that you can switch to flats during the reception if your feet hurt, without dragging the dress on the floor.

Don't worry, you can lean to walk in heels. Say, a ballroom dancing class might help, and you and your fiance could learn something fabulous for your first dance!

Answer 2

Heels give you a much prettier gait. Try not-so-high heels, and shoes that don't have a spike heel (a chunkier heel, a heel that's more centered at the back of the foot rather than at the very end of the shoe (called a "kitten" heel--often a shorter height), or a platform shoe). Even a little bit of a heel will make a big difference. Get the shoes early (be sure that they are VERY comfortable--not squeezing your toes or pinching your feet) and practice walking in them as much as you can around the house before the wedding. You'll probably get used to them fairly quickly. Also, bring flat shoes to the reception so that after the first dances you can be more comfy. Note that heels push your posture differently (therefore the more elegant gait), and they also stretch your muscles differently. So be prepared for small cramps in the backs of your calves or in your feet as you get used to the shoes. It will go away as your muscles get used to it, but you don't want to be experiencing that on your wedding day! Best wishes!

Answer 3

You HAVE to be comfortable on your wedding day and you definitely don't want to trip (even if you practice beforehand). If your dress is floor lentgh, wear flats. Beautiful white flats or even ballet slippers. Get a great pair of heels (simple white pumps will do) for the garter removal/toss. Then go back to your flats for the dancing.

Why bother looking taller for your wedding photos when that's not reality? Have fun with it. Take all the traditional shots then add a few with him sitting or have him pick you up and hold you so you can look down on him. The only thing to worry about in the wedding pictures is that you are smiling.

Answer 4

You're going to be wearing those shoes for hours so make sure they are comfortable. But that doesn't have to mean you wear flats. Wear heels that are not as tall, like 1" or 2" heels. There are definitely nice shoes with heels like that. While you might how high heels look on you, it will be much worse if you trip and fall on your face when you're walking down the aisle!

Answer 5

If you can't handle even one-inch heels, I wouldn't attempt them. After all, if you're worried about how you'll look standing next to your very tall guy, just imagine how embarrassing it would be to actually fall off your heels!

And don't worry about how the photos will look. My guy is more than a foot taller than I am, and I wore flats at my wedding because I don't navigate heels well, either, and in the photos we look just fine. If anything, I think I look sort of dainty in those pictures - which is not a word I usually would choose to describe myself - and I like the look. Plus an experienced photographer has seen this situation before and knows how to pose couples to minimize extreme height differences.

If you do decide to go for heels, though, be sure to pick fairly low, chunky heels and practice as much as humanly possible in them ahead of time!

Answer 6

I think you should try to find a wedding shoe with about a 1/1/2 inch heel but the heel should be thick so you will not feel that you will fall. Try qualitybridalshoes.com. Then on the left go to wedding platform shoes and look at "Julie" at $52.99. The heel I was talking about, where you will not feel like you will fall, and it is in white satin with an open toe for comfort. Check that site out.

Answer 7

I had my dress hemmed so short I could have walked bare foot. The day before my wedding, I bought 2 inch heels, and don´t regret it.

Get some high quality heels-not something from Payless, and wear them. You´ll be glad you did because you will feel better with a few inches added to your frame-I know...I´m 5´2" and my husband of almost three months is 6´4".

Answer 8

Here are a few things that may help,

get a shoe with a ankle strap that will help support your ankle.

A heel hieght of no more then 2 1/2" if your not use to it.

Get a shoe with a rounded or open toe, not pointed, they can be difficult to walk in sometimes.

A thicker chunk heel will give you much more balance then a thin stilleto.

Practice practice practice. Wear them around the house, get a second pair of heels that are similar in a color you cna wear out and just start wearing them as often as you can to train yourself. Its just a balance thing...good luck!

Answer 9

Just about the only time in my life I wore heels was for my wedding. Wear (not too high) heels for the ceremony and the photos, then switch to a more comfortable pair of shoes for the reception (if you're having one).

Answer 10

If you're not accustomed to heels, then your wedding day probably isn't the time to try something new :-) Go for shoes with a 1-inch heel (max) and practice walking in them before the wedding. If your dress is floor-length, no one will see your shoes anyway. My friend wore white soccer shoes under her dress!!
I am petite - ok I"m short! - (5'2"), but I'm not wearing heels for my wedding. They hurt my feet, and I don't want to trip over myself. It's going to be a full day for you - you may as well have happy feet :-)