whenever im on the computer he has to say what r u doing? and when i say im on the computer he comes and looks for him self. and he constantly checks my own email and says "who is this person?". he wont let me go out to the movies with my friends unless a parent is going and he treats me like a baby! he told me i wasnt aloud to have a bf so i have to hide my boy friend from my dad. he also wont let me on myspace so im sneaking that too. i just dont know why he acts like that all of the time to me. (im 13)
2007-07-31 10:34:42 · 13 answers · asked by PresleyRenee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i really love my dad and i hate sneaking around him, but i just wish he would treat me like my age instead of his little baby girl.
2007-07-31 10:50:14 · update #1
The problem Presley is that your dad cares more than most dads care. He is a parent and YOU are a 13 year old girl--susceptible to computer perverts, predators, and stupid behavior on the parts of some of the people on a computer. He cares more than most but it is the recommended amount of caring from all the professionals trying to keep kids safe. You probably don't understand and see other kids with way too much freedom for 13 and 14 years old. They are them and their parents can do whatever they want--you are you and your dad is doing what he feels is proper--and someday when you are all grown up and have kids of your own--you will do the same stuff. It is too late after some pervert promises to meet you secretly and you go and wind up killed or raped or pregnant or with AIDS. You already proved you are a 13 year old immature young lady--you said you are sneaking a guy and on a site you are not suposed to be on. Well if you get caught you will be in trouble--and treated like a 10 year old because 10 year olds make stupid decisions like the ones you made. Personally the computer would be in pieces if I found you with a sneaky little boy or on My Space--I definitely would make my case known--and then you would learn who is in charge around my house. You are showing disrespect for you AND dad--you are showing no dignity or integrity---how long do you think it will be before somebody your dad knows see you and this kid out and about?? You will be surprised at who sees what or tells what to who. You better readjust the scam angel--it is lame. Tell your little lover boy that he has to wait a while. Start TODAY--right now !!! Appreciate a caring dad and try to be nice--you only have 4 years to wait until you can move out and run wild and go on all the dumb sites that are out there. You are not a baby...you are not being treated like a baby--you are being treated appropriately for a 13 year old girl. Just because other 13 year olds are out and dating and doing every guy that walks by does not mean it is a good idea and that you should be doing it. While they will be living in a trailer park or getting beaten by a hood or gangster--you will go on to a life full of education and a future. Well--good luck.
2007-07-31 11:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a real prob! Well The email thing is a litlle snoopy and rood my mom doesnt go on my email and she dont even know the password! I have a myspace and my mom knows about it and lets me! I can have a boyfriend and I am only 12! Wow! But also there are some creepy people out in the world! You just kind of have to understand that your dad is not trying to be mean or anything he just does not want to end up and someones backyard 6 ft under! Just remember he has a good reason most peoples parents could care less what you do! Your dad sounds like a really good person that doesnt want to see you get hurt! he will come around in a bit!
2007-07-31 10:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see...
You lie and hide a boyfriend...or at least you think you are hiding him...
You lie and sneak a MySpace page...or so you think...
And you are only 13.
Hmmmm, I wonder why your Dad feels he needs to keep an eye on you?
You do know that a lot of parents have "stealth" programs on their home computers so that they can track everything their child does online, don't you?
My ex has the SpectorPro installed on their computer - and can see every single letter typed, the time, date, and all the emails and websites visited and every chat log too...and the program runs in complete "stealth" in the background - and does not appear anywhere - unless you know the proper sequence of keys to hit.
I bet you hope your Dad isn't one of those parents, don't you?
2007-07-31 10:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why he doesn't trust you!
He is only protecting you from harm.
He questions your activity on the computer because he's worried about child predators. Didn't you hear the recent news about myspace? They found 20,000 something sex offenders on myspace. You are underage and he's only being a good parent
As for going out he doesn't want to see you waste your life away, do you know how many teens under the age of 17 are pregnant? Granted you may need some slack but a watch dog isn't always the worse thing that can happen to you.
Speak to him about what's going on in your life and maybe he might trust you more.
2007-07-31 10:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 13 you've perfected hiding your boyfriend and sneaking on MySpace (and who knows what else you are doing that isn't written on here) and wonder why there is no trust. Also, what kind of guy would sneak around with a girl and violate her father's trust of her.... helping someone you care about sneak around is a strange way of showing respect and care-- in fact, it suggests that he's actually more interested in himself and what he can get out of it!
Like your dad, I wouldn't allow my 13 year old to date, and yep, I'd be checking the computer also if she had a history of lying and hiding..
Finally, you can interpret this as an act of caring on his part, especially considering the predators on the internet (MySpace, face-book, chat rooms, etc.).
My suggestion.... discuss openly, honestly and with an open mind and see where this goes. But, you must not hide or deceive him and he must learn to trust you.
Good luck!
2007-07-31 10:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's his job to protect you. He knows how many perverts there are out in the world. At 13, you are still his responsibility.
Be glad you 1-have a father around and 2-he cares about you
2007-07-31 11:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad was your age once and being a male he is well aware of hat males are capable of!! i have a 13 year old girl as well so i know what you are going through but trust has to be earned and if your sneaking around his parental gut instinct will tell him this.show you are responisible and he may ease up..just be grateful he is protecting you!!
2007-07-31 11:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a jerk in high school. Me and my friends would say and do anything to get girls into bed and have sex, pump and dump. We'd have contests and stuff.
The world is full bad boys who don't care about you, just want to use you. Girls are so gullible to believe anything. It's good he's doing his job protecting his family. Too bad you seem like the kind of girl to undermine that. Like the kind of girl it was easy for me to talk into anything I wanted.
What I use to be is the kind of guy dad is protecting you from. If I were you, I'd listen to him.
2007-07-31 11:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jdude 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At 13, you are just that. Be so thankful that you have a dad. Most children don't.
2007-07-31 11:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
lmao my dad is the same way thats just how they are im 14 andm ine still treat me like a baby
2007-07-31 10:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by Alysia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋