I am moving thursday no matter what and I have 2 options. to go with my dad or go with my mom. my dad has a bad history and I am afraid tha the will go back to that. my mom has this boyfriend that I hate.
2007-07-31 09:43:45 · 13 answers · asked by daniel i 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go with your mom. You can always avoid your moms boyfriend.
2007-07-31 09:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Windy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you already know your dad's history, and history has a way of repeating itself.
You don't like your mom's boyfriend, but try to figure out why. Is he mean to your mom? Is he mean to you? Or, is it just that he's not your dad? Would you hate whoever your mom was with?
If possible, I'd try it with your mom, and try to be happy for her if she's happy. Have a talk with the boyfriend, tell him you don't want him to act like a dad since you already have one, but you'd like to try to be friends since you live in the same house. I'm sure he'd prefer that too.
And, as a mother, I have to tell you that your mom loves you more than you'll ever know. She doesn't want to lose you. So, talk with her about your concerns. Maybe tell her it's just weird having this guy around and you're having a hard time dealing with it. Hopefully she'll understand. If you have some legitimate reason why he's not good for her, talk to her about that. See what you can work out there first.
2007-07-31 17:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not say if you were a girl or boy. But, if your dad has a bad history, do not go with him. Just because you do not like your mom's boyfriend, does not mean that you can't learn to like him. Tell your mom how you feel. Usually, parents choose their child over another "partner". I know it is a hard choice to make. Try to be positive with your mom's boyfriend...get to know him better and overlook his faults....and you might find a great guy after all. Good luck to you.
2007-07-31 17:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by SCARLETT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard, but try being honest (and tactful!) with both mom and dad. Probably both choices make your stomach ache, but one must seem better than the other. Whichever one you choose, make sure you have the other to escape to if needed, and make sure mom and dad know that it's not a personal thing, it's a matter of you needing to feel more secure. If they can't understand that, you're in pretty bad shape....I doubt things are that bad. Good luck!
2007-07-31 16:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Souldogs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it not possible to alternate living between mom and dad (i.e. 3 months with mom then dad and so on)? On the other hand, I would rather choose to go live with mum, even though I may not get along well with her new bf at first. Dad seems unstable in his status to provide and support his child financially, and emotionally. Meanwhile, though mom's new boyfriend may be a pain in the @$$ at first, who knows what the future will bring: may be there will be a chance to get along well with this guy in the future. I'd go with mom.
2007-07-31 16:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by ♣ ♦ ♥ ♠ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really it is up to you, I was in a similar situation, and what i did was make a list of the positive and negatives of each. When it comes down to it think about this how bad is your history with your dad and how much do you dislike your mothers boyfriend. I hope you figure it out and all works out. Best of luck.
2007-07-31 16:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by poetry_wave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if your dad has a bad history then don't go with him, he's a bad influence and you shouldn't be around him. Your mom on the other hand she has a life of her own if you go with her you have to repsect her life and her decsions whether they are good or bad. She has a boyfriend so what? Big deal. She's a big girl and she can do what she wants, if you don't like the guy the you don't have to be around him. so go to your mom.
2007-07-31 17:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by ashmat12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some times its hard to put your past behind you. Before considering going to your father you should make very sure he has put all his demons to rest. Your mothers boy Friend is just that, a boy friend, talk to her and let her know how you fill and why. If the problem lies with the boyfriend mom needs to get shed of him and take care of her son. I have 5 children of my own and on one comes before my kids, no one!
2007-07-31 17:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by nola_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your own place..
just kidding but that might actually work..
just kidding but i would go with mom i rather put up with her boyfriend rather than going to a dad with a real bad history..
2007-07-31 16:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by Bro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chance on your dad, he also might NOT go back to his old ways. If your mother is choosing her b/f over you, then you don't need to be with her.
2007-07-31 16:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋