I have prolly asked like 100 questions about this but I dont care. I cheated on my BF then he found out and broke up with me. Then I realized how many guys cook dinner for you all the time? How many guys bring you breakfeast in bed? How many guys will go to a gay bar with you because one of your friends is gay? As I have found out not to many. I realized I have made a mistake. But he will not forgive me. Then he told me how dare I try to use the bible to justify myself. Then to top it off doesnt the bible preach on not interracial dating? Yet he goes and is dating a black girl now. I tried to get the black girl to break up with him and even paid a guy to try and get the girl to cheat on him. Then she came up to me and told ME! To stay away from him! How dare she! I had him first. I said I was sorry when my mom cheated on my dad he took her back he even took her back the third time because she said what do you think it will do to our daughter.
2007-07-31 09:38:16 · 32 answers · asked by Ashely85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So why wont he? He should forgive and forget, act like nothing has happened and I will not cheat on him ever again well at least not when I’m sober. Then the other day I saw them at the mall and they looked so happy together and then she saw me and she started making out with him right there. That shows some class! It’s really starting to tick me off. I have always got what I have wanted in life and this is not going to be the first thing I don’t get. I need a foolproof plan to get them to break up so I can get back together with him any ideas? O yea and for all you haters out there don’t be jealous because I’m good looking and can get any man I want. And yes I will get this one back!
2007-07-31 09:38:28 · update #1
Bottom line, win him back is the plan.
So here is the plan. Earn his respect and trust back.
One at a time. Do not jump step.
2007-07-31 09:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
First, let's keep the Bible aspect out of this situation. You can't pick and choose which precepts to follow and discard the others. It doesn't work like that sweetie.
Now to the matter at hand. You made a mistake. Your ex won't forgive and forget. You cannot make him forgive and forget either. And trying to forcing the issue only gives him another reason why he shouldn't take you back. So what do you do? YOU MOVE ON!
Find a hobby or read a book but move on. The only thing you are doing is showing your ex and his girlfriend that he made a good decision. Hopefully you can use this time to work on your attitude and personality. If you are as beautiful as you say you are on the outside, then wouldn't it make more sense for the inside to match? That's what will bring him back if it's truly meant to be. He needs to see that you more than your words because you've broken his trust once. Good luck!
2007-07-31 10:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by beafoxx1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between forgiveness and stupidity. You cheated. You messed up. How can you expect him to come crawling back when you said yourself that you won't ever cheat on him again "when you're sober". What about when you're not? Hello? If you really cared about him in the first place, you wouldn't have cheated. Plain and simple. The Bible says that you reap what you sow. By the way, I haven't found anything in MY Bible that preaches against interratial dating. Jesus taught us to love ALL people regardless of the color of their skin. GET OVER YOURSELF, and GET OVER HIM. You should have learned from your mom's mistake. How do you think it made your Dad feel to be cheated on? I personally think he SHOULDN'T have taken your mom back. She deserved exactly what you are getting now. You blew it, sweetie. You missed your chance. Deal with it.
2007-07-31 09:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by elizatash 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Interesting...So your mom cheats on your dad at least 3 times (I am guessing more, but she was caught that many times) and he forgave her. So your BF should forgive you for cheating, and as long as you are sober you will never cheat again, but if you get drunk then all bets are off. That might have something to do with it.
I think you should move on, if he is happy why ruin it for him or her. Hopefully you have learned from your mistake and it won't happen with the next great guy you meet.
2007-07-31 09:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by cyber2nd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up, girlie. Did you honestly expect him not to break up with you after that? Its good that you realized what a mistake you made, but you can't expect him to forget it. He may have forgiven you, but if he gets back with you, it'll always be in the back of his mind, and he will always think that you will do it again. Things like that are never truly forgotten. You broke his trust in you, and without trust in a relationship, you have nothing. And I, for one, would like to know where in the Bible it says anything about interracial dating. He is not with you anymore, he is with that other girl, so you have no claim on him whatsoever. It was her right to tell you to stay away. You might have met him first, but you screwed up. Your loss. Get used to disappointment, life's full of it.
2007-07-31 09:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Veronica G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got issues. I hope he never talks to you again. And the bible says nothing about interacial dating. And sweetie theres is nothing less attractive than a shallow women. I would rather be with a ugley ,trust worthy good women than to be with you. Your the kind of girl that I take home from the bar and call a cab for you when im done useing you. Sorry sweetie im not a hater nor am I jelious of you. Im very happy that I dont know that miny women like you. You ruin it for the good ones. Do your ex a favor let him go and buy yourself a vibrator and stop screwing up good mens lifes
2007-07-31 09:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by J22401 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you're kidding me, right? Your boyfriend is right- how dare you use the bible to further your argument. The bible also forbids premarital sex....but how convienent for you to forget that. Then your actions towards his new girlfriend are dispicable. You obviously learned right and wrong from your mom.
I'm rarely this nasty in my answers, but rarely do I find a questioner that is so backwards, twisted, selfish, and simple.
haha I love how the last part of her question reads "...haters don't be jealous just because I'm good looking and can have any guy I want" but then her question is how to get the guy who doesn't want her. Stupidity is funny, except that there's just so darn much of it!
2007-07-31 09:43:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
There's a hard lesson to be learned here: you were with a nice guy and you chose to break his trust and sleep with someone else. It's HIS choice not to forgive you. Live and learn. Move on. And perhaps NEXT time that you end up with such a great guy you'll think twice about throwing it all away for some fleeting infatuation.
2007-07-31 09:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by HMFan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woah woah woah, this is a severly flawed question... 1st, let's clear this up, the bible does not speak on interracial dating, gees. If you're sore about him dating a black girl, you're just racist, the bible isn't backing you up on this one. 2nd, yes, it does say to forgive, but you've got to give him the time he needs to forgive. AND, you need to realise that even if he does forgive, it doesn't mean he's going to forget. You messed up, not him, he doesn't owe you another chance. Wow, you really sunk low on this one sweetie. You say you had him first, "had" is the operative word here, you cheated on him. She "has" him. I love the way you keep pointing out that she's black too. I'm black. I should introduce you to my fiance. He's white. White, Texas-bred, proud redneck. And marrying a black girl from the ghetto. Wow... Guess we're going to hell!
2007-07-31 09:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Courtney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. Slow down. Just because a guy (or woman) does nice things doesn't mean you two belong together forever, that stuff is over-rated. You cheated on him because he wasn't enough, he wasn't what you wanted, right? Taking him back won't change it, and besides, he'll never trust you again, and you don't want to be hasseled with contantly trying to prove yourself.
Move on. Go date other guys. Find a guy that's got what you need & who will give it to you, and don't forget to reciprocate!
2007-07-31 09:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by help 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You screwed up, it's too bad that you decided AFTER you did that...it's his choice to move on.
As for the bible, many people choose to live their own lives and not be guided by books of mythology.
Move on with your life, and learn the lesson. Remember what cheating got you...what goes around, comes around. There are repercussions for all of our actions. Take resonsibility for what you did, understand that he chooses not to forgive, and get on with your life.
2007-07-31 09:43:22 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋