we are getting married in march and we don't want to spend a whole lot of money. i found a bbq place that does meals for 4.99 a person and they are suppose to be super good. so we are going cheap with the meals. i don't plan on spending more than a 150 on a dress and want to have it at the VFW or a hotel so that it is not so expensive. the flowers i was to be pink and have the bridesmaids have pink flowers in their hair too but i don't really want to spend that much money. i feel like such a cheapa** but seriously is it bad that i want to save my money for more important stuff.
2007-07-31 09:00:38 · 31 answers · asked by Supermommy!!! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
funny thing is actually my Fiance does want to elope in january and then just have a reception later in march. i just don't know i always pictured my family there but i don't want anything big.
2007-07-31 09:19:42 · update #1
It is not bad at all. I am the same way. This only lasts one night/day, and the money is gone. However, I would splurge on pictures and the cake. It is a day of memories and the two of you becoming one, it is not about how much money you spend. As long as you and your soon to be hubby are happy with it, that is all that counts. You got a star for being so level headed and knowing what is more important! Way to go! CONGRATS!!!!!
2007-07-31 09:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think a bbq place might not really be a wedding type of place (just the thought of bbq sauce and a white wedding dress scares me)
Here are some things that it's okay to "cheap out" on:
Flowers - use artificial flowers and make the bouquets and center pieces yourself instead of hiring a florist (will probably save you around $300)
Pictures - have a friend (with a descent camera) take the pictures for you instead of hiring a photographer. (About $1,500 savings)
Favors, centerpieces & invitations - make these yourself. There is such a huge mark-up on wedding stuff it's unbelievable. You could do something simple like a votive candle in a jar wrapped in tool and tied with a small piece of ribbon. YOu can use leftover flowers from your bouqets to make the centerpieces. If you go to AC Moore or Michaels crafts, they sell wedding invitations for about $30 per 25 that you take home and personalize on your home computer (and they don't look home-made). (About $1,000 savings).
You shouldn't go cheap on any of the attire, the wedding rings, or the reception site. Going to a fire hall or a VFW post may be the best place to go for the reception and most of these places usually have caterers that they deal with. You may be spending more money per head on the food, but if you count your pennies elsewhere it might be worth it. One way to save money on the reception/food...try to find a caterer that only charges 10% gratuity instead of the usual 20%. This could save you a few hundred dollars in the end.
Congrats and Good Luck!!
2007-07-31 16:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by magnadudl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no it's not bad at all. It's smart and possible. some people think you have to spend lots of money to have a great wedding. you can have a great wedding no matter what your budget is. Decide on what's important to you to have for your wedding and go from there. Sometimes simple is better. The main thing that matters most is that YOU are happy and that you found someone to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-07-31 18:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by ♥poppy honey♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let anyone tell you that you are a cheapass. I think it sounds just fine!
We did not want to spend alot of money but we did want everyone there for the wedding. So we did BBQ as well. It was 6 bucks a person, but we love the BBQ place and eat there all the time. We also had an outdoor reception at his partents back yard. It was beautiful! Everyone was very happy with the laid back wedding and reception. Everyone could be their selves and no one felt out of place. I think your idea is great and do not talk yourself down. It really does not matter what other people think or want. It really is your big day!
2007-07-31 16:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by Va princess 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There's nothing at all wrong with being frugal. As long as you're having a wedding that makes you happy and fits within your budget, it's perfectly fine.
Besides, a lot of people would be pleasantly surprised to find a big plate of BBQ set before them at a wedding reception instead of rubber chicken.
Keep it relaxed, be confident in your choices, and treat your guests graciously. Everyone will remember how nice the day was far more than how much you spent on a gown you'll wear only once.
2007-07-31 16:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You think you're cheap? I only invited two people (other than immediate family) to my wedding!;) lol. The maid of honor and the photographer! I bought a fairly cheap dress, he wore slacks and a dress shirt. We went to the beach, our pastor did the ceremony, then we all went out for dinner and my parents paid for the meals! We didn't elope, but we didn't have a huge extravagant affair either, and it was still wonderful and memorable:) Spend just enough money to make the event memorable and pleasant! Don't fret about little things that you'll forget - those don't deserve a ton of money spent on them! And have fun! ;)
2007-07-31 16:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by HollywoodHousewife♥ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with keeping a budget. I spent about 2,0o0 total for my wedding. My best friend and I designed my dress and she made it for me. We found a beautiful dress at a thrift store with a long train and cleaned it with a Dryel kit. then hacked it up for the lace. I had a Renaissance themed wedding so I just asked people who were coming to the ceremony to wear period clothing. I made my favors myself. I bought bubbles in bulk on line, then ordered custom ribbon. Then I went to a fabric store and bought the tulle and cutout the circles. I got married at golden gate park in the rose garden which was only $250.00 to rent. I asked my sister as a present if she could cook food for the reception. I asked my photography teacher from high school as a present if he could take the pictures and I would pay him for the development. It's your day who cares how much you spend as long as you enjoy yourself! www.theknot.com has a lot of good resources. Also going to annoying bridal shows you can get a lot of discounts from vendors. I think my bouquet (100.00) costed more than my dress. I wanted a very specific type of rose though. I got a coupon from a show where a got a bridesmaid bouquet for free with my purchase. You may just have to make your bouquet yourself. Congrats!
2007-07-31 16:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the small weddings or court house weddings always mean more and last the longest (forever). So don't worry about how much you're going to pay. Do what's comfortable and I hope that you can include your closest love ones. Good luck.
I only spent maybe $1500 for my wedding. That was really inexpensive considering what most people pay (like a holes)
2007-07-31 16:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, if you can't afford a wedding, you can't. Just have a private ceremony for immediate family. Then host an affordable reception. The money that you spend on a wedding dress could totally cover bbq. Just be happy
2007-07-31 16:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by ajnme 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not bad at all. I just got done spending $3,000 on my wedding last weekend and now that it's over I wish I had all that money back. Nobody cared about the decorations or the runner or the flowers. It's little things like that that make you regret spending so much on a wedding.
2007-07-31 16:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by mommyoftwo 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋