I was just married for a couple of months when my wife wanted to join the Army. We talked about it and she decided that she really wanted to do it. I was not going to stop her from what she wanted to do. Then around then around Feb. after she got to AIT the phone calls and letters started to stop. Then on our anniversary she told me that she wanted a divorce. I asked her why and she said it is what she needed and that she has changed so much. I told her you can't change the person in your heart. She was not cheating on me I know that for a fact so please don't say anything like that on here.
She is getting a divorce now. Put she keeps calling and texting me telling me how much she misses me and that she was sorry. I asked her today if she still wanted the divorce and she said yes. what is she doing to me? I am so confused. She gets deployed September 13 and will be over seas for 4 months cuse her unit is already there. What should I think?
2007-07-31 08:35:50 · 7 answers · asked by thumper_airman 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
put it this way, the rate for divorce at my base at one point hit over 80%. Best of luck!
2007-07-31 22:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by hi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is pretty interesting..Honestly you should be kinda happy because at least she is being honest with you. Maybe she really has changed since she has gone into the military. How old are you guys?? are you fairly young?? Maybe she is still finding herself. I know it'll probably be difficult for you so if you need to you might want to distance yourself from her after the divorce and keep busy. You guys can still be friends I guess if you can handle it cause who knows what might happen later. If you really want to stay with her though tell her that you want to be with her and what can you do to make it work. I mean you do have a say in this it is your marriage too. If she is really adamant about the divorce though I guess you really have to sit back and think how happy you will be in the long run staying with someone that doesn't really wanna be with you. Good luck!
2007-07-31 08:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dimples2168 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately the military is something that not everyone can handle. yes, everyone wants to do something to serve their country and help their fellow man, but when it comes down to it, not everyone can handle it. it changes a person completely and many couples in the military lifestyle do get divorced because of the high amount of stress. but, there are still many people in the civillian world that divorce, it has to do with the couple and their desires and feelings for each other. it is hard being in the military and married, but it can be done. keep your head up, maybe things will change, and if not, you will at least be able to find someone who loves you no matter what.
2007-07-31 16:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by gina.alvarez1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must understand that the army changes people inside out. Its a whole new culture with its own people. When your wife joined, she probably fell in love with this culture and decided she wanted to go about it alone. Alot of soldiers in basic training no longer feel part of the civilian world and want little to do with it. She wil see the not so glamorous side of the military but it may be too late for her to leave it. And
BTW, military has a high divorce rate, you're not alone.
2007-07-31 12:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by ang1492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was one of 19 enlisted men given a commission. Of the 19, I'm the only one left with the woman I married when I was enlisted. The rest, as they told me, got rid of their "enlisted mistakes".
Yours, however, involves a divorce prompted by someone joining the service, not a change in military status.
2007-07-31 08:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by desertviking_00 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Far fewer than were widowed........
This is an issue within your wife...not the armed forces. Her deployment is incidental because it sounds like she would still want a divorce if she were honorably discharged. Even if it was the military that "changed" her, that too is incidental. It was only a catalyst in an already existing process....good luck to you
2007-07-31 08:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by Cheese 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ifeel for ya..i re-enlisted after being out for some time ..had a great wife(i thought) anyways i ended up with a divorce ..its not the end of the world,sure it hurts ,messes with your head bad but all in all stay strong and remember this ....people chang i spent 12 yrs with my wife and one day she just says she wasnt in love with me anymore (said she loved me but wasnt in love )i was hurt but its been 2 yrs now i met the perfect woman who is caring and now i planning to be with her in her country(scotland)all im trying to say is keep your head up and stay strong something great will come from this....wish you alll the best...
2007-07-31 15:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋