this is the story:
my grandparents came here to visit us. my uncle lives here. my mother is his own sister. so my grandparents are leaving in a few more days, and my uncle has planned a farewell treat in a restaurant. he invited our family as well, but my dad don't want to attend it. he is always saying excuses, and saying he is busy. what to do. i want to attend it, and so does my mom. they are of course her own parents. what to do??
2007-07-31 08:34:00 · 17 answers · asked by Seungyong W 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go without your dad.
2007-07-31 08:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your mum should go. It's your dad's loss if he can't be courteous enough to go to the meal, and why should you and your mum miss out? I know that its a tough decision, but if your dad kicks off, you should just explain that having a relationship with your uncle and your grandparents is important to you, and that your dad shouldn't stand in the way of that. Can you imagine how much it would upset your grandparents if you didn't go? Especially if you don't see them very often. Your dad is a grown man, and he is big enough to make his own decisions, but he shouldn't impose them on the rest of your family. Good Luck!
2007-08-04 09:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by iwatchedthestarsfallsilently 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what feels right for you. If you are fond of your grandparents, by all means go to the dinner; don't let how others feel put you off. Follow your heart. Your dad may have his own reasons for not wanting to go, but it's only a family dinner, not a lifetime committment. talk to your mum and tell her you would like to go; you don't need your dad's permission to go out with your own family.
2007-07-31 15:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by marie m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi...
everyone makes their own choices for their own, good reasons. perhaps your father doesn't enjoy the uncle's company or the grandparents? or maybe he has something he'd rather do instead.
if YOU and your mom want to go, then do it... families don't always do everything together, and maybe your father wants a little space from those relatives?
meanwhile, dont let it bother you.. it's your father's issue, and something he has to deal with... by not attending dinner, maybe he's doing what is best for himself this time?
take care.
2007-07-31 16:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with out him. He should not stop you two from saying good by just because he has issues. This is a real awakening to some men that think that they should control every aspect of there family's lives.
2007-07-31 16:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by nola_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and let your dad make his excuses. Don't let his unsociable behavior spoil your night. I'm sure your mum will love you to be there. Go! Now!
2007-07-31 15:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by benjoe021 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to go, you can't force him, there wouldn't be a nice atmosphere if he went under protest. You go with your mum, and have a great time.
2007-07-31 15:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by jet-set 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go, or don't go. it is that simple. if your dad doesn't want to go them leave him alone because he doesn't want to go. if your mum goes then she goes. what are you making a big thing out of it for? get a life!
2007-08-01 16:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by cherrypinkplum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the man have some peace, and go without him. They're your blood relatives after all, not his.
2007-07-31 15:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by wonkyfella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and mom go. Never mind dad. He has his reasons.
2007-07-31 17:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋