You can't just keep blaming the parents. Laws nowadays make it almost impossible to discipline children. Everyone is ready and willing to call Child Services if a parent even thinks of yelling or spanking their child. Kids know this and will push the limits. Why not? The parents will be taking the rap anyways. I miss the good old days when it was ok to punish a kid(but not to excess mind you)for misbehaving.
2007-07-31 08:21:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The lack of respect for the people around them and most especially the lack of respect for their elders. It's really sad that teenagers today are growing into bratty adults. They want to feel superior to everybody else but don't want to take the time and learn from those with experience. The awful thing is that these kids are the ones who expect to be running our world and taking care of us when we're old. Oh my gosh...we're in BIG TROUBLE!
2007-07-31 08:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm not afraid of what other parents think of my parenting skills. I yell, I punish, I take things away and I believe in certain parenting styles that others don't. I do also though listen to my children, talk things out and work together with them to solve problems. Bottom line- my kids are well behaved and I get complements many times during the day in public because of their good behavior. They weren't born this way and not every kid acts like a brat now a days.
Best wishes =]
2007-07-31 08:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all they're called teens, not tens, and these "kids" are probably messed up because of all the crap the media shows, like MTV, omg they are horrible, they promote so many sexist ideologies of women having to look a certain way and all the different types of music that degrade women, like rap or reggeaton...no all of them, but most of them. the same goes for guys, they're expected to push the limits and be crazy because they're "teens" so its ok. but its not ok, but hitting children isnt the answer, and to say spanking is ok, is out of the question because many ppl can try to justify other very harmful actions as spanking, what there should be now is more family communication because believe or not, not everyone has time to sit and talk with they're children about what good and whats bad...
there are several factors that led to misbehavior
but keep in mind not all teens and kids are like that.
2007-07-31 16:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by Elle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids and teens are the way that they are because parents won't step up and discipline their children and be parents. Kids need their parents to be parents, not friends. As far as I'm concerned, if my children don't listen when I tell them "no", they're going to receive a spanking. They respect adults. I hate pop phsycology and the left wing anti-spanking movement. All reasoning with children does is teaches them that they can reason their way out of a bad situation that they got themselves into in the first place. Discipline on the other hand, teaches that there are consequences for their actions. It teaches respect for authority, and self respect for that matter. I guess I just care too much about the people that my children are going to grow up to be to not discipline them. Bottom line, parents need to care enough about their kids to step up, be parents, stop being friends, and care enough to discipline them.
2007-07-31 09:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Mrs. GM2*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The apple does not fall too far from the tree..... Parents need to realize that they were kids too.... Every teenager needs to spread there wings... It just depends on what you taught them as a parent.
Most parents are too busy these days and don't pay attention to their kids and they tend to act out so that you have to spend time with them.....
It just like educating them on drugs and alcohol. Your words will be there when you are not....so the best thing to do it make time for them so that it will not get out of control....
I have two kids and both 5 years old. So I know the challenges that parents face, not that my kids are out of control, but at the same time these are the years that your kids are impressionable, you as a parent have to make the best effort for them to be a a successful adult...
I personally spank my kids because it gets their attention, but at the same time I don't beat them....! I make sure they are aware why they got spanked, so next time that the decide to do something that is not right, and I am not on top of them, my words will be there. And if they continue, I continue! Be consistent and the light bulb will go on...
2007-07-31 09:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by orangie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iam sorry, but just because the laws change doesnt mean the best interest for my child changes.
If my child gets to the point where he needs to be spanked, Iam willing to risk retribution from the law for the sake of making sure my child grows up to be a functional member of society and not like one of those monsters running around today.
Beyond that, parenting teenagers starts with parenting infants, and every subsequent age of a child.
There are more ways to discipline than by spanking. And if more parents actually made the effort, and took parenting seriously instead of copping out on it, we'd have a better next generation.
2007-07-31 08:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Its not even all about spanking or yelling. Some of the bigger problems I see today is a lot of parents would rather be thier childs friend than thier parent and the kids run all over them. Then they think they can do whatever they want.
2007-07-31 09:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree!
I discipline my child in "new age" ways with time out maps and the whole deal. I have found it to be very effective. Children need rules, structure and stability.
You would NEVER see my daughter having a tantrum in a store! She would refer to you in a polite manner and knows the rules of the household.
It is the parents! -Granted some has to with the friends a child develops as they grow and get into school, but a parent also can take charge about that situation. Overall, it is the parents! Not the laws. There are punishments that fit the act of disobeying. Parents need to adapt so I don't have to listen to their brats complain about candy for 30mins while I'm in line at the store.
2007-07-31 08:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by systematicalf 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Kids get a bum rap these days. I think there is a similar percentage of brats and angels as ever, it's just that there are more of them in numbers. Just as in the news business"if it bleeds it leads" so too with reports on the activities of our youth. The good ones get no press.
2007-07-31 09:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 6 grown daughters and 10 grand children.i have never spanked a one of my kids or g/k. they are all very well behaved children with well behaved children. the biggest problem kids have to day is most are being raised by just kids them self.it seems that to day if your 16 and don't have a baby or two then you are not the cool kid.i too miss the good old days when first come love, then comes marriage ,then comes the baby carriage. the good old days when welfare was for the truly needy not for every girl and some women who have figured out the more babies you have the more welfare you can get.theres no need for the parent to work.the rest of us will support them. if you really want to get back to the good old days then we need to limit all welfare for 1 year and cant reapply for 7 years no matter how many babies you have.
2007-07-31 08:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋