I started an investment banking job a month ago and now have to work late every night--at least until 9pm and often much later, and have had to go to the office every weekend. My girlfriend seems really fed up with my new routine, and fed up with my talk about work. It's hardly ideal, but what am I supposed to do? She's not exactly career-minded herself. If we're going to have a future, someone needs to make some money. How can this relationship work?
2007-07-31 08:08:14 · 23 answers · asked by BK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it seems like she's going to cause you much misery unless you can get through to her. Explain that THIS is what you are supposed to be doing right now, building a career and securing a future. Tell her it won't always be like this, but it'll get worse before it gets better and if she can't handle it, better to find out now. Personally, I never understood this about women. I mean, you're WORKING for God's sake!What happened to supporting your significant other? I'm assuming you see her when you're not working, so what's the problem? Tell her to grow up, get a hobby , work more hours...something! Tell her not to depend on you to entertain her. Good luck!
2007-07-31 08:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the girlfriend is wrong. She knew what she was getting into when she began dating him and knew he was committed to being in the Navy. Obviously this is a huge priority to him, and since he was a Seal before her boyfriend, it's no surprise that he picked his career over his girlfriend, who is obviously more focused on having a love life with him rather than have him do what makes him happy.
2016-04-01 03:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a relationship to work, you need to have similar priorities. where you want to be needs to be the same place she wants to be. you need to support each other's dreams but that is hard to do when they directly conflict with your own dreams.
at the moment it appears your top priority is career (/money?)
and hers is social life/relationships
either you have to find a way to align your priorities or it's not going to work
i've heard one of the major (if not the #1) reasons for divorce is finiancial disagreements. you need to make sure that you understand each other on the money issue. if you can't see eye to eye on that, then there really isn't a future there to worry about. unless having a divorce/ future breakup is part of your plan.
you need to look at the big picture and ask yourself seriously which you want more, her or this job?
be honest with yourself, and go with what you pick.
2007-07-31 08:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by kittycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend has to understand that you are indeed making a sacrifice in order to have a steady and stable income for your future, and possibly both your futures if you two should become more serious ( husband and wife).
Just make sure to let her know that you do love her, and take a few seconds to send her a text telling you that you love her will probably make her day.
I commend you for working hard and wish you the best of luck.
2007-07-31 08:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two need to have a discussion about this.
This is YOUR career, and you and your girlfriend need to decide if the relationship can work around the career.
I would NOT put your job on hold. It sounds like this is something you enjoy and could really take advantage of.
Talk to your girlfriend.
2007-07-31 08:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well....she needs to be patient and supportive while you get your career going and you need to make sure and give her some attention even though you are busy! A quick call from work, a little note left for her can do wonders!
2007-07-31 08:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps re-evaluate your life right now. ask yourself if you have room in your life for the girlfriend?
you have decisions to make...
if she is disgusted because of your new job, maybe she needs to move on herself?
i hope things work out for the both of you, and that you each have good lives.. take care
2007-07-31 08:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the relationship can work. You are obviously goal-oriented and she's not. If she can't be supportive of your career decisions that you'll just have to say good-bye.
2007-07-31 08:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by magnadudl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spending time together is important. but she has to realize that your job is your manly hood. if she isnt going to do anything with her life than you must so that you can have a secure future. shes being a little bit of a baby. but....can you spare a few hours for her? is she worth it?
2007-07-31 08:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by c dyan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
career is first...make her to understand the important of money to lead a happy and peaceful time..
if she really cares 4 u
then she wld adjust with you
2007-07-31 08:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by abc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋