Well me and my b/f let my sister and her husband move in with us only b/c their van broke down and her husband's job was walking distance well he worked there for 2 days and then walked out on them they was stuck with us for like 1 1/2 months well now they moved and now they left us with some bills and barely any food i asked her was they going to give us any money and she said they needed their money well they dont pay that much rent and her husband is working again so i dont see why they cant help us out we made that mistake last year with my brother he did the same thing to us so you think we would have learned bye now but im to soft hearted i would help anyone that needs help. so help me if you can with this problem. Thank you
2007-07-31 08:06:25 · 5 answers · asked by Teresa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi.. it was very kind of you to help people out!! Twice even!
I think the problem lies in your not setting down house rules and letting others know that while you're happy to help, you expect certain things.
Such as -- rent on X day of each month if you need them to help pay for utilities, ect., and to buy their own food or their portion of grocieries if you all eat together, housework -- clean up after themselves, their visitors.... and if they are unable to follow the guidlines, they can't stay.
whatever guidelines you set, should be what is best for you and your temporary guests...
Generally, before we let someone move in bag and baggage we really need to set ground rules.
This is why people take advantage -- we let them.
2007-07-31 08:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It cost you something to do anything for anybody! This is what has made everyone so cold and hard to find help. We have had this happen. We let family members move in to get on their feet and they bought some food while they were staying here but when they left they made sure to take it with them after not helping with any bills. It was worth them taking the food to get them out of here and we now know what kind of people they really are. We simply won't break our back to help them ever again. People burn their own bridges!
2007-07-31 08:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my sister and her husband that you can understand their financial diffculties, however, it's making it difficult for you to live, as now you have additional bills that you weren't expecting and you'd like them to pay them or a portion of them.
Just be honest.
2007-07-31 08:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by TwinkleToes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that you feel disappointed and that you did her a favour and she should not take advantage of you...
tell her that if she doesnt pay her share of things that you will no longer trust her and that you will not see her in the same way as you used to. if she loves you and cares about your feelings...she will hopefully fix everything.
if there was an agreement that she would pay her share of things...you could take her to a small claims court..i think..
hope it works out :)
2007-07-31 08:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Taz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let your sister move back in and tell her she ows you food and bill monney it will work trust me.
2007-07-31 08:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tanya D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋