I've been friends with this girl since I was very young. Recently the things she has been doing have given me the impression that she may be bisexual. I decided to sit her down and have a face to face talk with her about it. We are both mature adults and I figured we'd be able to talk about it as mature adults.
I asked her if we could talk and her first response was "What you think I'm a lesbian or something? I replied "No but if you were please understand I would have no problem with it and would not treat you any differently if you were bisexual or lesbian."
She then went on to scream at me "WHO TOLD YOU I WAS BISEXUAL!?" I said Nobody but our friends & I were a bit concerned with the way she was acting and all of us were wondering if she was OK.
She then went on to say and I quote
"Go F*ck yourself and tell your A**hole friends to F*ck themselves too along with you!"
then kicked me out of her house and slammed the door!
Did I do something wrong?
It wasn't intentional!
2007-07-31 07:56:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She feels like her privacy was invaded. She may be a lesbian or bisexual, but that is none of your business. If she wanted to tell you, she would have. I would go appoligise to her and tell her that you were wrong to invade her privacy and assume that she was and that you had no right to but into her personal life.
2007-07-31 08:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sort of yeah. For one, obviously you were takling about it with other people before her, so it may have cme across as if you sort of ganged up or talked about her behinde her back. second, why did you even ask, if you don't care what her preference is, then why bother asking and sitting her down as if it is some huge confession. Do you think its appropriate for someone to ask you what your favorite position is, or anything about you preference. What she likes is her business and her choice if she feels the need to share it with you. If you really aren't bothered by her possibility of being bi, or what ever, then you would not have even needed to ask. You wee out of line, making assumptions and invading her private personal choices. You don't know if she may be struggeling with that answer herself, or maybe she has just been called that or teased and is just a bit of a tom boy. What ever the case, you were wrong. and even if she is, doesn't mean she is checking you or any of your friends out. You hurt her feelings on many levels and invaded her privacy on may levels and even discussed this with others. I'd question you as a good friend also. Don't know if I'd want those kind of friends. My friends should love me no matter who I think is hot, get it.
2007-07-31 15:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't do anything wrong at all.. maybe she is just scared to face the facts scared of what you and your friends wiill think of her.. Just be there for her and let her know that yall can still be friends and work through this .. she is going through alot i'm sure so don't kick her while she is down help to build her up.. text her and let her know tha tyou are there for her if she needs to talk.. She is your friend you know how to get inside her heart.. I wish you the best.. Good Luck....
2007-07-31 15:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well everyone...sorry most girls who are called a bisexual or a lesbian is going to be pissed off... well not me( i personally think that lesbians have more fun. ) soo you just have to sit her down and say that you didnt want to intentionally say that she was lesbian but just that if she was ok and if she is going to freak out and go totally out of control on you again like the first time then just let her be... you cant forcefully change someone, they have to know the problems in themselves and change themselves... and if your a true friend then you wouldnt have that little thing get in the way of your friendship... lesbians are cool.
2007-07-31 15:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww hun, you were just trying to help see what was wrong. you were a conserned friend. I know that it wasn't intentional. Just give her some time, she may be trying to find herself. Or maybe there is a bigger problem that you guys dont' know about yet. I hope things get better with you guys!
2007-07-31 15:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by **Amanda** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is one of 2 possibilities:
A) She is and not yet ready to "come out" or B) she is NOT, and has been accused before and it's annoying to her.
You really didn't do anything wrong, open communication is always the best bet. Give her some time and space to cool off.
Good Luck!
2007-07-31 15:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by atomic_rod 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you did nothing wrong. Friends should be able to discuss such things and her jumping on the defensive says a lot...
...perhaps in time she'll realize she overreacted but if not, it's her decision and she voluntarily tossed away her friends.
2007-07-31 14:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably scared the crap out of her and she probably felt like she was in danger of being outed.
Take it in stride, and accept the fact that she'll have some edgy behavior with this subject. Be forgiving and remember this is a stressful topic.
2007-07-31 15:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she was embarrassed that you knew about her secret and she is not out of the closet yet..Let her deal with now she will call you soon she will realize that you were adult enough to talk , Pretty soon she will need that shoulder to cry on and she will need you ....Have Patience
2007-07-31 15:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by lagurl714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there questions that just don't need to be asked. although she should have undersand that she has been acting a bit odd and just wanted to know. not so mature on her side for her reaction.
2007-07-31 15:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by Angelica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋