If a Christian woman is married to an unbeliever who abuses her physically and verbally and wants to end the marriage is it ok for her to divorce?
2007-07-31 07:54:25 · 21 answers · asked by Hisway 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
She needs to remove herself from the marriage. Jesus is the head of your household since your husband is not taking it upon himself to be the head of the wife like God commanded it to be! Let Jesus be the lover of your soul! Besides, he is all we need anyway!
Jesus I pray that you give this woman strength for her journey, joy for her sorrow, healing for her wounds, and I pray she hides herself under your wing! Protect her mind, heart, and body from abuse and raise a standard against the enemy attacking her! COme in like a flood Holy Spirit and reveal knew light and glory to her. In JESUS MIGHTY NAME! Amen!
2007-08-07 19:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by answer this 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she converted AFTER she married him she must stay with him unless he commits adultery. If she married him when she was a Christian and he was not a Christian then the marriage was a self inflicted wound as Christians are told not to be unequally yoked. The marriage presumably required her to take vows before a civil magistrate or a priest (God). But she can't just up and leave him and say God says it is okay. BUT physical abuse? THAT ought to be enough to get a separation or put a legal restraining order on him or call the cops and have him arrested. That is not divorcing him but she should not put up with being beaten up by the man.
2007-07-31 08:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matthew 19:3-9 explain exactly what Christ thinks of divorce. No I don't think you should stay with a man who abuses you, but you do not have to divorce him. You can separate and try counciling. If counciling doesn't work, just separate to never marry again. If you are a Christian you are bound to that man for life, so even if our law says you can divorce, in the eyes of Christ you are still married and if you re-marry you commit adultery. 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 speaks of divorce if one is a believer and the other is not.
2007-08-07 12:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by KM in PA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The husband is commanded to love his wife as Jesus loved the church. That does not mean be a punching bag. Yes women should be submissive, but in the face of cruelty.
He is the head and he is in disobedience of God's Law.
So at the very least get the heck out of there before he has a chance to do more harm.
If you want to save this relationship you need counseling from your pastor or minister. As well as professional in his case anyway. I've seen these things go bad. When violence is involved you can't reason with anyone. Get out quick worry about the lawyer and preacher later.
God Bless!
2007-08-06 03:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the Bible, ti says that the lord will send Elijah the probhet and he shall turn the hearts of the fathers turn to the children and the hearts of the children turn to the fathers. THat might sound like total nonsense, but it's not. You have a good point. many people want to be with their spouses for all eternity. And they will. The only religion that beleives this is the church of jesus christ of latter day saints. (aka mormons) in the Doctrine and Covenants it says that everything that is bound on earth will be bound in heaven. that means that when someone is sealed in the temple, the family will be sealed for time and all eternity. The angel of Elijah the prophet came to the the prophet joseph smith int he temple and now there can be eternal weddings. This is why i think that our church is the only true church because when i get married and I really love him, i will want to be with him for all eternity. I hope i helped. LDS isn't that far-fetched as some beleive. in this regard, i think it makes perfect sense. don't worry about it. the Lord will work things out in heaven. good question, by the way. i usually don't even bother to getout my scriptures.
2016-03-16 04:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he abuses her physically the process is for her to get him removed from the home with an order of protection ordering him to seek counseling for his violent behavior.
Once he is removed from the home, if he fails to go to counseling and make an effort to make the marriage work then she is free to divorce him based on 1 Cor 7:15
15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.
Pastor Art
2007-07-31 08:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The scriptures at Matthew 19: 9 clearly states that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another, commits adultery. Marriage, in God's eyes is a legal and binding contract that was to last as long as the couple lives......God made no easy provision to dissolve the union.....
Roman 7:2 backs this up very well. It reads, "For instance, a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is alive; but if he dies, she is discharged from the law of her husband."
Ephesians 5:25 admonishes husbands to keep loving their wives as the Christ loved them..... unto death.
Colossians 3:19 tells husbands to "keep on loving their wives and not be bitterly anger with them"
To have bitter anger could cause one to resort to abuse, either verbally or physically. That does not set well with God.
You asked if abuse was a reason to dissolve a marriage....these last scriptures will help answer your question.
1 Cornthians 7:14-15 - speaks of an unbelieving mate who choses to leave the Christian mate; a brother or sister is not in servitude under those circumstances, but God has called them to peace.
1Timothy5:8 also says that if a man does not support the members of his own household, he is worse than a person without faith.
Jehovah God expects those who worhip Him to live to a higher standard than the world around them, He commands us to be righteous in all things, not to think more of ourselves than others, but to be an example in showing the world how much me love our God and His laws. 1 John 5:3---"For this is what the love of God means, that we observe His commandments; and yet His commandments are not burdensome.
2007-08-08 05:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by sugarbee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An abused woman has a right to divorce the abusive husband whether she is a believer or not and there are just as many believers who abuse their wives. Every thing we live by is man made, including all religions.
2007-08-08 06:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by johnandeileen2000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look in 1 Corinthians 7:12-15. Paul gives his opinion to the Christians there. He says that if a Christian is married to a non-Christian, and the non-Christian is "pleased to dwell" with them, that they should stay in the marriage. However if the non-Christian wants out, let them go. As Christians, we are called to besuppose to live safe and peaceful lives. I would say that a person who is physically and verbally abusive is not "pleased to dwell" with them.
2007-07-31 08:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody should stay in an abusive situation.
Divorce happens.
It may have not been a Sacramental union in the first place.
Peace!
2007-07-31 07:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only grounds for divorce WITH A VIEW TO REMARRIAGE is fornication (adultery). She does not have to stay with somebody beating her brains out. She may separate. She may divorce. BUT, the only grounds that will allow her to remarry is adultery.
Matthew 19:9
Hannah J Paul
2007-07-31 08:00:26 · answer #11 · answered by Hannah J Paul 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋