is it because of the hatred for the ex, what your best friend might think of you if things do work out even after all the things you told your best friend about your ex or is it just that your best friend cant have what was once yours. why cant your best friend just say if you can make it work with my ex than more power to you. what kills me about bestfriends is they can do almost anything to anyone else, you forgive them and still remain best friends. but if you tell your best friend how you feel about his ex, why if this is your best friend who is supposed to be with you through good times and bad can't execept that your best friend has feelings for the same person at one time you loved, married and had children with. If your marriage didn't end because of the best friend then why is that you can't remain best friends why can your best friend do anything BUT this
2007-07-31 07:52:23 · 15 answers · asked by inlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WHAT IF I TOLD EVERYONE I"M THE EX NOT THE BEST FRIEND
2007-07-31 13:42:47 · update #1
i suppose that if you date or get together with your best friend's ex, you're stomping on forbidden territory.
if you take up with your best friend's ex, you may no longer have much in common with your best friend --
i'm sure that, somewhere in the world, the situation you describe has taken place successfully... and i'd suppose the best friend and his ex got along and accepted each other for their choices post-break up.
but, if the best friend's ex and the best friend aren't on very good terms, you'd have to choose between the best friend or his ex.
confusing but true.
2007-07-31 07:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It puts you all in a spot that can be pretty uncomfortable for one or more sides.
It'll be awkward for them or even for one of them.. unless the two just decided to break up because they're better off as friends (a rare occasion)...
It's something that both bestfriends have to be considerate about. The one who likes the ex should think of how it would make the other feel... as bestfriends aren't really supposed to be that selfish.. and the ex should also consider how his bestfriend feels..liking his ex. When both can come to a discussion with clear heads.. and find a compromise.. then that's the best way. When there is no need to compromise, then it's better (no need to compromise is different from one who doesn't want to comopromise or won't compromise :D) _
2007-07-31 08:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Rogee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really annoying but its mostly out of respect for your friends feelings. As you are the one person they expect to be there for them, they will feel let down and as if you don't find their feelings important. You also have to think how you'd feel yourself. Its sort of a loyalty thing i think and some people would find it weird for their ex to date their best friend because it would usually result in them having to spend time with them, when thats probably the last thing they want to do xx
2007-07-31 08:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by debbie_685 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because out of all the people out there, why would you go for someone your friend had feelings for. It makes it hard because it keeps that ex in your friends life and now he has to know that you his best friend who is supposed to support his feelings and be there for him , thast you are being with her. Its selfish and wrong period, thats why. Why hurt your best friend like that. its cause , just because people break up doesn't mean we don't still have any feeloings for them.
2007-07-31 07:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably for the same reason that ex's use their children to hurt each other.... They want revenge on the ex and don't want their family, children or best friends consorting with the "enemy;" The Ex......
Few ex's really grow up and act humanly with each other....
2007-07-31 07:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it has to do w/ respect. If u talked to ur bf & told them how u feel (if their ur friend) they would help u through it. But u have to look @ it this way, How would u feel, honestly? Its looking out for someone eles's feelings. So talk w/ them before anything cuz boyfriends/girlfriends come & go but friends stay friends forever.
2007-07-31 08:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sunnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz its like a rule don't fall for ur bestfriend's ex its just wrong n plus usually when someone gets out of a relationship they still have feelings for each other
2007-07-31 07:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This makes for a uncomfortable situation between you and your best friend. He wouldn't want too be around a girl that he had a failed relationship with. If you are a true friend you would not even consider this. Put yourself in his shoes........
2007-07-31 07:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by Mike S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the ex broke up w/your friend than your friend could be hurt by it cuz they still like the ex.....and if u and the ex last for a long time than your friend might be mad.....and ummm.....it might be wierd between the 2 of them!
2007-07-31 08:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy,how would u feel if you had a hottie and he went out with her right after you!
Imagine him putting his mouth in the same place you did !!
Got your answer!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-31 07:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋