Following on from previous questions, my problem is still ongoing. I have been seein my fella on and off for five months. We got on brilliantly to start with, he couldn't get enough of me. We met thru friends. I had troubles with my ex harassing me, which i stupidly lied about to save trouble, this resulted in him dumping me. we got back together and I found evidence that he'd been seeing his ex! He swore he hadn't, I didn't believe him and this led to a violent row. We didn't speak for three weeks after this, until I popped over to his to pick my stuff up. I still love him very much, and although I only meant to stay five minutes, I ended up staying 11 hours before leaving of my own choice ( he wanted me to stay the night). He says he loves me and I love him and he swears blind he didn't sleep with his ex although i have strong reason to believe he did. Please don't bother writing abuse, what would you suggest I do?
2007-07-31 07:50:13 · 14 answers · asked by cara 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So go do them bullet, no one forcing you to answer questions.
2007-07-31 07:57:36 · update #1
move on...
you obviously don't trust him. is the blunt truth.
never build a house on bad/unsafe foundations ;-)
2007-07-31 07:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by junglejungle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, beyond everything else, the two of you saying a lot of mean things to one another out of anger needs to change. That will kill the best of relationships. Was he seeing his ex while you were together or when you broke up the first time? Things are never truly black and white; there is always something more to any issue. The key is to sort through everything and figure out underlying factors. How you treat one another is going to make or break your relationship. If we can figure out what's making the both of you act that way towards each other, we can learn how to change it. Don't just give up. I don't necessarily believe in fate. I believe that the attitude you hold about yourself and everything around you will dictate how life will end up. If you'd like to talk more about things and if you need help in figuring out how to better solve this problem, contact me.
Heath
2007-07-31 22:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by heath e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to call I was too in a similar situation as you,My boyfrined off 5years & me were on a break we got back together a good friend of mine told me she heard he had gotten someone pregnant but I asked him he told me he hadnt I stayed with him even tho I had a feeling he was lying & I was right the girl comfronted me & told me she was preggers so a lesson even tho you might want him if you think he has been unfaitfull or lied to you try to stay away I wish I had you could get very hurt if he lies to you.althought I do know its hard to know what to do good luck xx
2007-08-04 13:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like there's a trust issue here, well I'd say throw this behind you for now and carry on seein each other but if there is a sign he's lyin again leave him and don't come back.
2007-07-31 15:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lily R 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he was sleeping with his ex whilst you were 'on a break' I don't understandn what the problem is, especially when you lied to him about yours.
Why aren''t people honest and open with each other? If you think someone is going to be hurt by your actions then don't do them.
2007-07-31 15:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by Oros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either accept the fact that he might have done so and love him anyway, or you let it stand between you and move on. Ask yourself if and i why it is the end of your world if he indeed did sleep with the ex. ( to me that would be: so what? if ya love him you love him.... ) but that is just me.
2007-07-31 14:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think before you jump to conclusion that he is cheating get proof try to ask his ex and if you see that she is trying to hide something assume it or just go and dump him and find someone else who we'll treat you right.
2007-07-31 14:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by Barbie Montana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont trust the man that went to his ex because they all lie dont trust him dump him no matter what happens.
2007-07-31 15:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is Blind,, look down and feel the cobblestones that are real and move ahead'
2007-08-04 12:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by Satch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you still have feelings for someone doesn't mean that they are actually good for you. If he treated u wrong he doesn't deserve you.
2007-07-31 14:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by Pretty1988 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋