2007-07-31 07:21:56 · 14 answers · asked by Cabincatred2 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When my girls got themselves out of time out (yes they all tried this ONCE). They were put over my lap for a good spanking, and then made to finish the time out. This is one area where I completely DISAGREE with the nanny shows. I will NOT chase my children all over the house for hours at a time, until they get tired and give in. No we put a stop to the misbehavior IMMEDIATELY.
2007-07-31 21:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
first of all... do not listen to joey. physicall force and spanking is the worst thing you could do...
make sure you have a timer. set it so that it is equal to his age. if he is 4 he sits for 4 minutes. make sure he knows this.
make sure there is nothing around for him to grab and play with. put the timer where he can see it and here it but cannot touch it. the first time you put him in the chair (make sure it is always in the same spot) get down on his level and tell him why he is a time out and set the timer and place it in a good spot. then walk away, but make you can still see him. if he gets up put him back in the chair but this time dont say anything and reset the timer. then walk away. repeat this until he finally stays. no matter how long it takes. it could take 30 minutes. dont give up. when he has finally stayed in the chair for 4 minutes. get down on his level and tell him again why he was in time out. than make him say sorry and give you a hug. he will soon learn to stay in the chair. but make sure you repeat everything every time out. so he knows you are consistant. and every time begin and end it the same way.
2007-07-31 07:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by Athletic.Chick.29 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, time out is not an easy task, so untill they learn what it means, you are in time out too.... This can be fustrating and exausting at the same time. First of all you might be so mad that you can sit there with him, so channel you anger and tell him why you are angry and why he is sitting there. This way you will relieve your stress and make him understand at the same time. Make sure that he is not sitting next to you or by you. Buy one of those plastic chars at the 99 cent store and mark it with a black marker saying time out chair.... This way he has an actual chair and conner to go to..... After awhile he will not need you there. And he will soon get the point that your in control and that he's not..... Good Luck hope this helps..
2007-07-31 09:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by orangie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand there with him. Unfortunately most parents suffer along with the children when they get a time out or punished. Tis the joys of parenting! :) Just keep enforcing the corner or couch or wherever you chose for the punishment. Stand or sit with him to ensure that he stays there. Do not yell or talk to him in any way while he is there. Use his age as guide for how long he is to be punished. 1 yr = 1 minute. Until they hit about 7/8 or so. Then it can be 10/15 minutes or groundings. I tell my youngest that her time starts when she is calm and not throwing a fit. And I stand there with her until she calms down and decides to take her punishment. Then after she has finally stopped screaming...about 5 minutes or less...I time her 5 minutes. I let her know when each minute passes. It works...for me. Good luck!
2007-07-31 07:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by PrettyMommy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to watch guard. The moment the eyes travel out of the zone, be punctual and remind them they are to stay put and think about why they are there. Good Luck
2007-07-31 07:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by Charley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put my daughter in time out when she was a toddler and whenever she left the chair I added 1 minute to the timer ... I start with her age (2 yrs old 2 minutes) ... One time it went up to 15 minutes she hated it so much that she just learned to sit in the chair til the timer went off and she'd come to me and tell me the timer went off (Becuz Im deaf and she had my permission to leave the chair when the timer went off and I'd look at the timer if it really went off)
I also ask her why she was in the time out chair ... She'd either say I don't know or why ?? Id explain to her and she'd apologize to me or Daddy for not listening or something else ...
Other thing, use a chair ONLY for time out not for anything else cuz he'd know its the time out chair ...
2007-07-31 07:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Little J 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Every time he gets up...put him back. Don't say anything to him. Just continue to set him back down. Don't give up & don't say anything to him. Eventually he will know that you are not playing games and that you are serious, but you have to be consistant. You don't want to say anything to him, because you don't want him to think this is nagoshable.
I have a 3 year old who refused to stay put, but once I showed her that I was serious she now know she must stay in time out. She relized that it is not going to do her any good to get up, because I will be there to pick her up and put her back in time out.
Good luck
2007-07-31 07:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by SAMMY 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sit with him, talking to him about whatever it was that caused the time out, how he feels about his choice, what options he has for the next time the same situation comes around.
2007-07-31 08:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep directing him to the corner over & over. Read Dr. Spock's book on Time-Out.
2007-07-31 07:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by J Doe 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you tell him twice not to move out of the corner during a time out, and he still does, spank him. Guarantee ya he'll stay there.
2007-07-31 09:37:22 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Mrs. GM2*~ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋