Why spank children just because they are smaller than YOU? For Church People
2007-07-31 07:07:46 · 15 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
im not a church person so i dont mind if i get deleted. spanking a child is a violent act as far as im concerned, and should never be used. sure ill have plenty of people yelling at me about "yeah i was spanked and i turned out ok!". but you really didnt, did you? spanking is HITTING. want to hit a kid? well, i didnt think so
2007-07-31 07:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
If you spank your child in anger, spanking is a weapon, but if you spank your young child, with a loving and humble attitude of correction, tempered with an explaination and a warm embrace, then it will work as a tool which leads to understanding. We began with a gentle spat on the bottom through the diaper along with the word "NO". As she grew older we increased the pressure mildly. But we did not use our hand. I am not her punishment, I am her mother. My daughter is nearing eight, and I can't recall the last time she required a spanking. It has been more than two or even three years. Now we just basically explain things to her, or give her an option of either repeating the offense or enduring a pre-perscribed consequence. She usually choses to correct her behavior. I would spank if I came up against rebellion, or hateful defiance. But you know what else the bible says? It says not to provoke our children to wrath. I take that very seriously too---just as seriously as being commanded to correct my children. BTW, I'm one of those awful church-folk. Discipline without correction and instruction IS abuse.
2007-07-31 08:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by G.I. Jill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spanking a child is very different than "beating one". spanking a child on the buttocks, where they have extra muscle and fat to protect them from harm is not beating. Spanking is used to teach a chld that there are repercussions to bad behaviour. If they don't learn this when young, they go on to be punks and criminals who don't fear doing bad things because they weren't taught about repercussions.
Even the famous Dr Spock ( no not Mr Spock from Star Trek)
a child "expert" who was adament that you should never spank a child, later did a complete about face, admitted he was wrong, and that children should be disciplined.This, after his own child became a druggie and later died. Does that mean that a child should be spanked everytime they make a mistake? NO!! that is how we learn, from our mistakes. But if a child does something that could cause harm or death to itself or another child, yes, it should be spanked to re inforce that it should not ever do that again. If a child intentionally breaks a window, or destroys something, spanking is called for. If a child intentionally hurts a small animal, spanking is called for. If a child innocently colors on the wall, no, spanking is not needed ( the first time) but if it continues on after lessor punishment, spanking is the answer.
2007-07-31 07:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by randy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of people who don't or say the don't spank. When I go to the store or when I take my children out in public they have respect for others. I was not spank as a child, but looking back I need it. My husband was spanked as a child. We do not 'beat' our children. I love my children more then life itself, how dare any of you say 'oh just because you spank your child your beating them up'!!
2007-07-31 07:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not necessarily believe in corporal punishment for all disciplinary actions but I do see it as a tool to use. After a while your child (varies from child to child on age) is able to reason and talking with them and explaining their actions is far more effective than spanking. My have 3 boys 13, 11, and 7 they have all received a swat on the butt at one point in their life but at these ages I find it easier to use other means of discipline.
2007-07-31 07:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jason J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
spanking has nothing to do with church people. Actually church people will tell you not to spank they would tell you to take away something special or put them in time out and if they get up you keep putting them back till they stay. Eventually they will get it. Spanking doesnt work.
2007-07-31 07:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well some say that if you beat them while they are young, they will not dare hit you later! But that does not always work. And in today's society, often the kids are more active physically than the parents and in many cases can overpower a parent and take over and threaten the parent later! It takes a lot of effort to talk. If you don't do that, things get worse. Too bad for them that have this problem. Too bad their religion taught them such useless nature.
2007-07-31 08:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't... You spank children as a last resort to behavior modification.... Sounds like you are the one that was spanked and your attitude in this question seems to answer why...
2007-07-31 07:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by Joey_Pit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was spanked many times and i'm so grateful my parents brought me up that way, loving me and disciplining me effectively. I'm totally spanking my kids. because i love them, not cause they're smaller. crazy i know, but it worked for me.
2007-07-31 07:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by shoefly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe in spanking. There are much more constructive ways to reinforce good behavior.
2007-07-31 07:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by miss bean 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋