My fiance called off our engagement (but we stayed boyfriend and girlfried) and I was feeling extremly hurt. So the next day I went and hung out with some friends. I ended up kissing this guy couple times because he was being really sweet and listening to my problems. Well I decided to tell my man what had happened beause i wanted to be honest. Anyway he broke up with me and about a week later we got back together because we love eachother and we are ment to be( and we both know that). But i can feel that he distrust me and I want to make it better. Any ideas?
2007-07-31 07:07:24 · 10 answers · asked by adnama_n_werd 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just wanted to say I already have my mind set that I will never see the guy i kissed again my man means to much to me for that. The other thing is, is to you people who say it was part his fault he has already said he is part to blame for hurting me when he called it off.
2007-07-31 07:27:22 · update #1
The truth hurts honey, but you shouldn't have kissed that guy regardless of whether you were having problems or not. You kissed him knowing you shouldn't..so you're bf is entitled to feel the way he does. And yes, even though you came out and told him what happened and were completely honest..how would you have felt if he had done that to you?
If you want to earn his trust back you need to first realise that it can't be earned over night! Trust is something so easy given but when broken, difficult to get back.
My suggestion is to be clean about everything, and definately do not speak to that guy you kissed at all! Would you want your man hanging out with the girl he was sucking lips with? Secondly, you need to be patient..earning back trust could take between weeks to months to earn back.. He's probobly thinking if you had gotten married...would you have done this to him?
be patient, honest, and understanding of his feelings. Don't get upset that he doesn't trust you yet and def stop seeing that guy...whether or not he's "a friend". If your man means anything to you at all, you need to break off any contact with the other guy.
2007-07-31 07:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by Marissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't even know that I would categorize what you did as a violation of trust under the circumstances....calling off an engagement is a pretty major gesture and one which doesn't inspire confidence in any future with the relationship, so the fact that you wound up kissing another guy as a result is not hard to believe, in fact it's fortunate for your boyfriend that that's ALL that happened. I wouldn't expect him to be particularly sensitive about that, after all, he left you in a pretty vulnerable position and these things happen most often when people feel vulnerable. Rather than going around feeling mega-apologetic maybe it would be more helpful for both of you to agree that you've reconnected with a clean slate and go from there...I don't see where you have anything to be contrite about, certainly no more contrite than he was for creating the environment in which that occurred in the first place. Good luck to you both.
2007-07-31 07:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off he called off the engagement. So what you did was not wrong. It was just kisses for goodness sake. Your mistake was in telling him. He may forgive, will never forget, even though you did not betray your engagement. He should not talk about it. Bring it up ever again. If he does this eventually will sabotage your relationship. You will know in time if you 2 should move forward..
2007-07-31 07:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It depends on the boy.
Some hold grudges or lose trust easier than others.
Just stay loyal from now on, and I think he'll get back to the way it used to be.
2007-07-31 07:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tamara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally if you did that to me you would be out the door..you now the saying once a cheater always a chater.. it will take a long time for him to trust you again..and it will always be in the back of his mind.
2007-07-31 07:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just stay away from other guys, dont go out with friends as much, and just be true to him and let you know how much you love him. His trust will come beleive me, GOOD LUCK ;)
2007-07-31 07:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
actioins speak louder than words dont just tlk his ear off about trust you gotta show him what real
2007-07-31 07:11:34 · answer #7 · answered by boolou55 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its going too take alot of time for you to get his trust back
2007-07-31 07:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by ♫♥♪♬♥♪Try Me♫♥♪♫♥♪♬ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard.is up to the other person.just show that you are diffferent know dont SAY it Show it
2007-07-31 07:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get into bed with him if he trusts you in the bed he'll trust you anywhere.
2007-07-31 07:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.NICK.JONAS!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋