The guy I am with has a bad rep when it comes to girls and dating, hes been known to "get in, get on, and get out". but he tells me he's changed and that he really likes me. Should i give him a try? I really like him but im afraid of getting hurt
2007-07-31 04:57:57 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can believe it up to the point where tries to have sex with you. Sounds like you're chasing the 'bad boy'. Oh well, good luck with that...
2007-07-31 05:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a rep for a reason. Of course he is going to tell you he's changed and isn't after you for sex. He knows if he told you the truth or any girl in the past or the future for that matter that would ruin his game and spoil any possible chance of him getting the only thing he is after.
Leopards don't change their spots and as Dr. Phil says the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
I don't suggest giving this guy the time of day however if you like him and want to take a big risk, don't have sex, make him wait at least six months. If he hangs around, takes you out regularly and continues to stick around for at least six months then and only then you will know hes not only interested in you for sex.
2007-07-31 05:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by maryv2013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it friends....... at least for a long while. If he is really into you, you will still be around. If he moves on.... then he wasn't really into you in the first place.
As the friendship grows closer, share your thoughts about relationships. Ask him questions and really get to know him. And also be wise!!!! Tell him that you don't plan on having sex with anyone that you date until long after you have dated them.
Guys can change........ and often do........ for the girl that demands them to. Remember, people treat you the way you allow them to. Stick to your convictions and don't back down. You already know YOU are the one that has to be the strong one........... he will not be.
Eventually, you will see the guy for who he is. Just make sure, you don't see the truth after doing something that you will regret.
2007-07-31 05:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by trish r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's this girl I really like as well. Sometimes when we like girls its because of the way they look even if its sexy or not but that does'nt mean we want to screw them all the time. Having girl company is great. It feels good. I have a 16year old girl I have'nt slept with her but Im afraid she'll leave me cause im just a simple man. I get about 800rands a month and im not bound to be rich. I guess she will leave me hey?
2007-07-31 05:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by b_sibeko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you find out for sure is to make him wait. I don't advocate this method usually, but if the guy has a scumbag reputation, then its really the only way to know for sure that he's serious. Even if he is just in it for the sex, if he's willing to wait for it, that should let you know how attractive you actually are that a guy would put up with being C-Blocked just to get with you eventually. In this case, making him wait a month or two is a win-win situation for you. Either he's serious or you find out that you're so smoking hot that you're worth waiting for.
2007-07-31 05:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by Takfam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even the nicest guys have the intentions of sex deep down. If he's changed then let him prove it to you by making him wait. Take it one day at a time. People can say that they've changed, but its only their actions that can prove them right. Beware, players are the biggest sweet talkers in the world. They don't care about anyone's feelings but their own.
2007-07-31 05:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by cuteami78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a try- but dont let him TRY YOU! If he really likes you then he will be willing to wait! Guys will say anything to get what they want- some women do the same thing too! If he has really changed, dont let him put another notch in his belt by adding you to his list of girls he has had!
2007-07-31 05:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by tpettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him to the test. Tell him something like you guys can date, but no sex for the first MONTH or something like that. His first reaction will tell you a great deal.... and also, you will see more throughout that month. Good luck!
2007-07-31 05:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by The Chef-dishin out the answers! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to predict how this guy is going to behave with you is to look at how he has behaved in the past. It is highly unlikely that he has "changed."
Protect yourself from being hurt. There are lots of other nicer guys out there that will protect you as well. Don't let anyone take advantage of you!
2007-07-31 05:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by MaraschinoMary 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes but don't give him no sex and see how long he stays around then you will know...that's the only way is no sex...cause if you give it to him you ll never know...that is if you can go out with him and not want sex yourself. make him come and court you and just see how long before he starts getting upset cause you wont give him any...then you will know for sure.
2007-07-31 05:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋